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Nathan Engquist

Homework Essay due 1/23/01

English 102 section 402

It is sometimes difficult to fully understand what other individuals go through without going through it yourself. Those who suffer the injustice of differential treatment know the pain. Some people, like Christy Brown, are born without the fortune of bodily control. Brown could not even convey the simplest thoughts he might have to others. What about those who are oppressed and controlled by someone in such a strong way, that any attempt on the victim’s part to communicate to the outside is thwarted by the domineering oppressor? What if any communication to the oppressor was either ignored or the oppressor wasn’t concerned? The ability to speak and the inability to say what needs to be said have the power to greatly affect a person’s life. Richard Rhodes writes of his life as a boy in a situation where, although he possesses the power of speech, such speech may as well not be heard. Rhodes had an abusive, controlling, stepmother who didn’t want anything to do with Rhodes.

Brown’s life is difficult for many years because of his inability to communicate his thoughts to others. Brown writes of his feelings towards wanting to express himself in writing, “I wanted desperately to do what my sister was doing,” as he sees his sister writing on a chalkboard. After he communicates for the first time he says it felt like, “my road to a new world, my key to mental freedom.” Experiencing the inability to communicate, and then overcoming this, is definitely a cornerstone and defining moment for Christy. If it weren’t an important moment, he wouldn’t have written at such length about it.

“Slapping us, kicking us, bashing our heads with a broom handle or a mop or the stiletto heel of a shoe, slashing our backs and the backs of our legs with the buckle of a belt.” Sounds like an experience that causes thousands of dollars in future psychiatric treatment! Perhaps maybe something closer to a cause of post-traumatic stress syndrome like that which is experienced by some Vietnam War veterans. However, after forty years of peace, Rhodes who wrote those words about his unpleasant experiences with his stepmother, does not awaken in the middle of the night because of these particular memories. It was the psychological warfare which really affected Rhodes. Rhodes’ concern comes when he awakens once a month or so in pain, for he made the mistake of sleeping accidentally with some liquid that had yet to leave his body and once again has reflexively tightened his sphincter muscles as he did forty years earlier. Rhodes could’ve spoken to someone somehow, or maybe he felt paralyzed by fear at that time and couldn’t speak. His inability to speak about that which needed to be said, has changed his life permanently. This inability to speak does not necessarily mean it is Rhodes fault for not speaking up. He may have felt unable to speak for fear of retaliation by his stepmother. It bothered him so much that he wrote an essay about how his stepmother abused him and spent four out of five pages writing about the psychological pain and warfare of control rather than expanding on the one page of the actual physical pain that she bestowed upon him.

In my own life there have been times when for one reason or another I couldn’t speak. I know, for example, that a certain friend of mine is being cheated on by his unfaithful significant other. However, since it was my girlfriend who has come to this information and told me in confidence of my silence, I am hereby bound to stay silent. Yet morally wishes to prohibit me from keeping this vow of silence it conversely keeps me from breaking the silence for it is also morally wrong for me to go against my word. She will not allow me to say anything, for if the information gets out it may be traced to her telling me about this. Knowing such information and having this inability to speak is definitely affecting me because I don’t think it is alright for someone to be cheated on and then go on in a relationship thinking that everything is going beautifully. Hence I am torn between morality, and then morality. Two different morals which do not have a clear hierarchical scheme for me to follow and choose from. To betray a friend by continued silence, or to be a friend but one who doesn’t keep his word to his very most trusted friend and watching her lose relationships with so called “friends” over my actions. In the meanwhile, my indecision is intermingled with many issues and the illusion of happiness in their relationship causes me anguish.

The consequences of being unable to communicate in various situations may appear small or insignificant at the moment perhaps, but it is quite clear that silence always carries a burden, be it good or bad. Brown missed out on any form of sharing his feelings for five years, and having a normal social childhood stage to develop. He was lucky because many others with the same condition as Brown never find a way to share their minds with others. Rhodes cannot sleep every night for even the mere period of one month without the reminders of what came of his inability to speak out for help. Perhaps Rhodes could have spoken to others about this. Whether or not there were others around may be irrelevant. Whatever a person perceives as reality for them, is reality for them. If Rhodes felt that he couldn’t speak to others about this, he was truly verbally paralyzed. In all people, whatever it is which we decide to perceive as reality, becomes our reality. As I live life, I am even reminded almost daily, about what comes from not speaking about something. I am always made aware of this causal connection between communication and what happens to our lives as a result of it. After all, what am I to do if my friend and his/her unfaithful partner decide to get married one day?

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