The court rendered its decision and placed it in writing in our Final Divorce Decree regarding visitation of our minor children.
It issued a Specified Order for visitaiton of parents who live more than 100 miles from each other. That order stated I was to surrender the children to my ex spouse at the beginning of his visitation period and in turn my ex spouse was to surrender the children back to me at the end of his visitaiton period. It further stated he was to PICK UP the children from my residence at the beginning of each of his periods. I in turn was to PICK UP the children from my ex spouse at his residence at the end of his visitation period. No where in the court order does it state anything regarding TELEPHONE contact with the children in lieu of showing up for your visitaiton periods.
With that being said, the order then continued into Child Support Obligation.. etc, etc, etc.
The Order also stated we were to both provide each other our address, phone number, place of employment, address of employment, and driver's license numbers each time we had a change in any of the information the court had.
Well, we are still waiting on MOST of that information from my ex spouse. Have been waiting on it for over 3 years now. He has our address, he had our telephone number- (and had talked with his children on the phone until he began harassing our home) But now, we no longer have a residence phone. He had my place of employment and address although I have not been able to give him my most recent employment information as mail is returned from the last address we had for him over 3 years ago. I've got several pieces of returned mail from his last known address that are notifications and request for payements both on child support and on health insurance premiums that he is ordered to reimburse me for as well as notification of new employment information. Yes, I know it is rediculous that I have to pay the cost of mailing things Certified Return Receipt Requested- Restricted Delivery when I know he is not there, but that is what I have to do. Especially when you aren't receiving the child support as it is ordered.
Meanwhile, he has our address so he can write his children. He has his children's email address- a site that I set up for them to be able to write him last year- so he can also write them there. (They did correspond there for a very brief period).
But know this, our waiting time is coming to an end real soon. See, we are taking the steps to have him ruled into court here- where I currently reside and have resided since 2001. Once done, we have options on how to proceed with a person who fails to produce his address as he was under court order to provide that information. Once into court, a JUDGE will decide what is to be done regarding PHONE VISITATIONS and IF allowed, will issue guidelines to be followed including prohibiting him from harassing anyone in our home and prohibiting his spouse from repeating any parts of their (my ex and his children's)conversations or anything she might overhear in those conversations. (We are going to ask that his visitations be supervised for a period of no less than 2 years- we feel we have the evidence to support this request. :-)
But until an address is provided by my ex so that we KNOW where we are to pick our children up from, I highly doubt they will be visiting him. Would you let your children leave if you don't know where to pick them back up from or where they will be at??????? I HIGHLY DOUBT YOU WOULD - So there you have it.. A little dose of truth and reality. Since I am being judged, maybe you should judge knowing more of the facts.
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