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Here are some comments on why, when and how some mothers wean their babies from nursing. The transition from breast-feeding to bottle feeding and changing from total breast-milk to supplement with formula varies. You will see that there are a lot of emotions to deal with because breast-feeding or even feeding with EBM is a very close, loving bond that is hard to break.

I too could not bear to hear him crying in the night to nurse but could no longer be sleep deprived for more than 2 yrs.It was beginning to take a toll on me. So each time he woke up I patted him to sleep but he still went on crying to be nursed. I did not give in. After abt a week he got the message & eventually stopped asking to nurse. Since we were cosleeping since birth (as he was nursing so frequently, easier to cosleep), he was crying 'want to sleep on amma bed'. During the day I used to tell him that he is a big boy now, he no longer need amma milk & have to sleep in his cot.Now he sleeps thru eventhough it is a restless one. (Sheela)

Just wanted to report that Abilash is now fully weaned from BFing, cosleeping & finally falling asleep on his own without me rocking (after changing into his PJ's, all I have to do now is wish him goodnight & give him a kiss-less than 5 min. ) He is short of 3 months to being 3 yrs old. My baby is growing up!. His sleep is still restless (dreams a lot) but no as bad b4 night weaning. (Sheela)

At first I never have any plan to wean off Rina so soon even though I'm pregnant. But then since I felt too tired and extremely hungry everytime after pumping and nursing session, I have decided to slowly wean her off. It takes me about a month to do so. I used to nurse her everytime before I left her with babysitter and after coming home from work, and also before her bed time followed by another 2 or 3 times night feedings. I've followed Sheela's method, slowly drop her bfg session step by step. At first I've replaced her morning bf with bottle feed - hubby will help by giving her the milk whilst i'm having bath. At this time I've started mixing her with formula at day time since my milk supply was badly reduced. A week later I've replaced her bf with bottlefeed before she went to bed. By this time I've noted that Rina wakes up only once at night and instead of having milk, I've given her plain water to drink and she didn't make a fuss, and she can still drink milk from the bottle eventhough I'm around or sitting next to her . Rina was fully wean off from bfg when she's 10 1/2 months old. I remember one afternoon after coming back from work - it's about a week ++ I didn't bf her, she pulled up my shirt and ask to nurse. I was almost broke into tears whilst nursing her. I don't know why but it gave me a sense that this could be our last bfg session. And yes it's true. After that Rina never ask me to bf her anymore. Until now I still miss the time we've spend together, nurturing the mother and baby relationship....(Faz)

I do not want to sound so undecisive, but really I still can't make up my mind whether to continue bfg Beatrisya or wean her off. I feel really, really bad... (Ros)

Don't feel bad about weaning Beatrisya or about being indecisive. Take your time and do it when you feel "right". I always said that I would stop bf Zulaikha at 1 year but I prolonged it till 14 months. It is a very emotional process - breaking that special routine but doing it gradually (as all the other moomies have done) prepares both mother and child for the final break. Only you know what's best, so take your time and take it easy - don't worry yourself too much. Wishing you all the strength ......(Nazreen)