So, what will my dream girl look like? What will her personality be like? From what I wrote in The Spirit of Plutarch...
Some trends show up when going through my past relationships. The age difference of women I've been with averages four years younger than me. I seem to be drawn to short women, averaging just under 5'4" tall. Hair color is about evenly split between blondes and brunettes, with one dyed redhead... the vast majority have had light-colored eyes, green or blue. If I am to keep my standards and my next partner is to be my last one, she will be closer to my own age, able to speak and write intelligently, and affectionate to the last. She will be fit, able to walk with me hand-in-hand for miles at a stretch as we relax and find peace. She will give and receive equally in every aspect of the relationship. We'll cook and eat our meals together and take joy in such "little things" in life. She will read avidly, and though a hard-worker, will realize that the job is where work stays and that time at home is family time or time for just us. No tv set is allowed in the bedroom... again, there should be no distractions from "us" time. Finally, she will be supportive of my goals and desires, and enjoy the same in return from me. |
Looks... I will find my dream girl attractive, though what's attractive to me may be different than what others think. She'll take pride in the way she looks... confidence in one's self often adds an intrinsic point or two on my ten-scale that others might not consider. She'll show off her legs a lot... often wearing skirts, dresses, and in the summertime, shorts. She's not afraid of what others think when she wears a swimsuit.
Personality... I find the trait I admire most in a person is creativity. I'd love it if she is musically-inclined. I'll never have to stop in the middle of a movie to explain to her what's happening. In addition to everything from the passage above, when she joins me in a room (either out or at home) the place she wants to be is at my side... if I'm sitting on a couch, she'll sit right next to me and not on another chair. (She'll have to be comfortable receiving the same treatment in return.) We will touch each other constantly, both feeling joy in touching and in being caressed. Little PDA's are a good thing and should be second-nature, not only at the beginning of a relationship but all throughout. Her voice will be soft and her laugh will melt my heart. She'll be as proud of me as I am of her.
Finally, there are two other traits she must have for "us" to work out. First, love will be more important to her than money. (Love I got and money I don't, and she'll have to be understanding in the fact that I will be paying child support until I'm 60 years old.) Second, she's going to give and receive equally in bed... often. She'll love to tease me until there's a breaking point, then she'll let our passion explode. (She'll have to be comfortable receiving the same treatment in return.) A week without sex within a relationship should be considered a sin... four or five times a week closer to the norm, and sessions should last for hours, time slipping by unnoticed when we're together.
As important as a person's career is, the very reason we work is to be able to come home from work. Read that again... that's about the most profound thing I've ever written. The very reason we work is to be able to come home from work... to feel pride in what one does and be able to share it... to make enough money to feed, clothe, shelter, entertain, and comfort those in the home... to take care of every living soul in the home. I may never write anything more important than this. My dream girl, my ideal partner, my soulmate will understand this.
