Philosophy
But shall I still a true affection owe her,
Which prayers, sighs, tears do show her;
And shall she still enchain me?
Heart, let her go, if they no grace can gain me!
She made me hers, and hers she will retain me.
It is amazing how free one becomes while held within the boundaries of a cage of the bindings of a rope.
BDSM virgins � �am I odd?�
�am I odd?� is a question that I am asked often. Well, either that or I hear a very relieved voice when a submissive at last gets the chance to talk to a person about his thoughts and feelings and finds out that he is not a complete �weirdo�.
Your feelings are, dare I say it are �normal�. By this I mean there are many people who find many different things that light their candle. I think the world of BDSM has had a very bad press, much like the gay community in the past and there fore the people who are part of this community have a long way to go in ridding BDSM of its stigma.
I am lucky, I think most or all of my friends know what I do, what I am, what lies within me. They do not need to know the full extent of what I do (though some do ask) but they know that this is what makes me happy!
You are not odd, you are a person with a need or a desire to be a certain way or do certain things. Is that not what everyone is born with? Do we not all have likes and dislikes, things we feel drawn to and things we desire?
Discretion is something some of us feel bad about; I don�t think you need feel that something is wrong just because you wish your private life to remain private. The fact thatyou may feel you can�t talk with or tell the people near you is probably something to do with the bad press this lifestyle gets. People don�t understand that you are a human being with wants and desires that are part of what makes you, you.
I believe in �live and let live� cause no harm to any person and you should be afforded the chance to live your life the way you want.
If you have any views on this feel free to email me at this address: [email protected].
All that I am I give over to you,
All that was me and all I could be,
is yours�
Be my air, be my sight, be my life�
Be,
she who owns me!
Its BDSM that My Mistress requires
And I must submit to all her desires
As I kneel at her feet & pledge her my all
I hope I'll receive My Mistresses call.
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To become her slave is my only goal
And be granted my wish of giving my soul.
To be tortured & suffer for My Mistresses to please
Is a chance I've been waiting -a long time to seize
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The devotion & duty that my Mistress requires
Is only the start of My Mistress desires
There is BDSM & torture & pain
But one things for certain as her slave it�s my Gain.
The Right Mistress�
Some submissives have come to me and told me that they have not experienced true pleasure upon visiting with their Mistress. I am fully aware as are a lot of other Pro-Domme�s that there are some women out there who simply find it easy to take advantage of another person�s needs. But, there is also the fact that just as you choose the best brand of food to buy and just as you choose the right doctor or dentist to visit; you MUST choose the right Mistress! You and your Mistress MUST be compatible. It seems odd to me that a person can be so fussy that they will only eat food prepared in a certain way. Yet, when it comes to choosing a person, with whom they are to be most intimate with, they just pick any old one and then complain if they are not happy.
Choosing your ideal Mistress takes time. If you don�t put in, you don�t get out! It is that simple. One visit will not necessarily give you enough of a chance to find out if that Mistress is the one for you. In my experience, I find that long-term relationships are much better. In this way you have a chance to discuss all aspects of your submission with your Mistress and she in turn will get to know just what drives you wild, thus exaggerating the pleasure experience for both of you. Take time to tell Mistress just what is on your mind, of your experiences and of all that you feel or know excites you.
I do not Domme just because�! I am a 24/7 Domme and I own my own slaves, both male and female. I have owned slaves for over eight years now and I have had many wonderful experiences over the years. I firmly believe that good domination starts in the mind therefore you have to be able to communicate with your Mistress. I also believe that the pleasure should not just be experienced by the submissive, I expect to enjoy all that is going on too!
Once I feel that a submissive is compatible with me I am happy for them to keep contact in-between visits, sending me email containing their fantasies etc. I am happy for my submissives to ask me questions and discuss with me their thoughts and experiences. It is part of building up trust.
So, don�t blame or bad mouth a Mistress just because it was not a good visit. It may just be that you have not found a Mistress that you can connect with. Next time you look for a Mistress, put some effort into it, put a lot of effort into it and you will come closer to what you want.