Transgendered??

Transgendered??

For the benefit of those people that either don't know or probably have a totally wrong understanding of us Transgendered girls I have written the following text for your enlightenment.

Transgendered, which is another term for Transsexual is NOT a sexually orientated condition - it is a Gender orientated condition. Many different dictionaries often will give a different variation of the definition of many words which can then also causes some confusion. For example according to some dictionaries a Transvestite is a man who dresses as a woman for sexual pleasure - that's a load of crap quite frankly. 'Trans' means to crossover as in Transcontinental, Transmit and similar words. 'Vestite' comes from the Latin word 'Vesta' which simply means clothes and there is absolutely no sexual, gender or biological sex inference within the word at all - that has come from the media who in time can basically distort anything. In fact with many women now wearing men's or male like clothing they can in reality be termed as Transvestites although culturally speaking people always associate the word with men.

Transsexual means to cross over actual biological sex albeit on a superficial level and equally has nothing to do with sexual preferences whatsoever as that is a separate issue. Many of us now prefer the word Transgendered mainly because 'Transsexual' having the word 'sex' contained within it seems to evoke the wrong interpretation amongst the public at large.

I must add at this point that being Transgendered is a way of being in as much that it is not a necessity to make any physical or superficial changes to ones body to be Transgendered. Any changes that a Transgendered person may have are motivated by the desire to make one's body more harmonious with ones self-perception of gender. Many do not have any changes for various reasons but that does not detract from what they know they are.

Gender is between the ears and not between the legs. Your gender is effectively the self-perception you have of your role in life be it gender male or gender female. The fact that someone may be born biological male or female does not in itself determine their gender - only they can make that decision for themselves even though it is still arbitrarily 'dished out' at birth by people who make assumptions based purely on genitalia.

Biological sex, sexuality and gender may in most people's case be in harmony as far as most people perceive it but in fact they are three separate things. Biological sex is of course what you are born - male or female, your sexuality is something that you will become aware of as you develop and gender is who and what you perceive your role in life is, something that you realise or not (if it is different from what is accepted as a norm) as you become more self aware from birth.

To give a good general example of just one of the variants within Transgendered people it is fair to say that many TG people who were born male in their early years are sexually attracted to biological women but as and when they feel that they must deal with the malady of feeling psychologically more female than male this may or may not change. Many still prefer biological women, some swing over to being attracted to biological gender males (this is often because it is then more in harmony with their new role), and many become asexual.

Contrary to what most people think, there are within people in general more facets to sexuality than one can shake a stick at so the how, where and if is another subject I will not cover here.

A Transgendered person's principle priority is to become who they feel they are and not whom they have sex with - that is in the majority a very secondary consideration and as stated, many become asexual.

We are not part of the gay community at all although for reasons that I can only associate with 'media disinformation' to sell copy or boost viewing figures we always seem to be associated with them. Further more it is most often incorrectly assumed we are gay which is a different thing entirely. On that subject if a TG girl prefers men she is seeing men primarily from a 'female' perspective and not a gay perspective, after all who on earth would really want to change their body to such an extreme degree if their malady was simply an issue of sexuality.

Though I am certain it was not an intentional act on their part, when the gay community commenced their campaign for recognition, equal rights etc., many years ago they did it most vociferously and at least in the UK they have just about used up all the public tolerance and sympathy available and there is nothing left for us so our equality rights and acceptance has still a very long way to go.

Reasons To Cherish Being Transsexual
(The following text was taken from 'Jennifer Diane Reitz' who I asked permission from long before I eventualy got these pages on line. I felt she expressed most everything I felt deep down)

Because being transsexual is often so hurtful, so filled with sadness and longing, with shame and loss and difficulty, it is easy to come to the conclusion that the whole thing is utterly a curse, perhaps inflicted by arcane and evil ancient gods.

But there is an upside too.
Most human lives are utterly mundane, devoid of any real uniqueness, the average person somnambulates through an existence devoted to filling the roles expected of them.
But to be a transsexual is a magical, wondrous thing.

Consider. We are given many gifts in compensation for the terrible loss of our childhood as ourselves, and for the pain we endure. We are by some as yet unknown mechanism statistically far more intelligent, as a class, than perhaps any other kind of people. We are almost universally more creative, and we often possess incredible levels of courage and self determination, demonstrated by our very survival, and ultimate attainment of our goal. We are rare as miracles, and in our own way, as magical, or so has been the belief of all ancient cultures on the earth.

We are given awareness that others would never experience, understanding of gender, of the human condition, of society and the roles and hidden rules unquestioned within it. We are given a window into the lives of both sexes, and cannot help but be, to some degree, beyond either. From this we have a rare opportunity: to choose our own life, outside predetermined and unquestioned definition or role. We can do new things, original things, only because our experience is so unique.

We get to be true shapeshifters, and experience the sheer wonder of melty-wax flesh and a real rebirth into the world. Our brains and bodies gain benefit from having been bathed in and altered by the hormones of both sexes. We appear to retain our visible youthfulness where others wrinkle, and for years longer. We possess neural advantages from both sexes, such as the language advantages of the feminized brain, and the spatial abilities of the masculinized brain both. We are shocked into waking up, if we allow it, to a life we create for ourselves...we are not automatically doomed to sleepwalk through life.

After our transformations, after the full-moon lycanthropic miracle that the modern age affords us, we can live lives of success and love, and genuine specialness, if we choose. If we can get past our upbringing, past the programming, the bigotry, the messages of disgust from the culture around us, if we can stand as ourselves in freedom, then our special gifts grant us a heritage of wondrous power.
We have a proud and marvelous history. In ancient days we were magic incarnate. We were Nadle, Winkte, Two-Souls, Shamans and healers and magical beings to our communities. We possessed the ability to give the blessings of the gods and spirits, and were prized as companions, lovers, and teachers.

We were the prize gift of ancient tribes, entertainers, designers and dreamers. Sometimes we were the -somewhat reluctant- rulers of empires, and the consorts of emperors. We were champions and warriors too, who were feared for our unique gifts turned to inevitable victory.

Know that it is only in recent centuries, with the rise of the single minded, monolithic and monotheistic desert religions, filled with harsh single gods and twisted, narrow morals, that our kind have become reviled, the objects of scorn. Once, we were the kin of the gods.

To be transsexual is not easy, and it is not a birth that could be envied, but neither is it a damnation. It was once considered a rare wonder, if a mixed one; a faery gift that cuts as it blesses.
And in the modern age, of hormones and surgery, we are the first generations of our kind to finally know the joy of complete transformation, of truly gaining our rightful bodies. No other transsexuals in history have been so fortunate.

I say that we are unicorns, rare and wondrous, with still a touch of ancient magic and the kinship of the gods. Though it is agony, beyond the fire we have the opportunity to become alchemic gold.
We have much to add to the world, and to give to ourselves and those who love us.

We have always been, we are still the prize of the tribe, for only the world around us has changed, the desert harshness branding us vile. We are still the same.

Our compensations are real, and our lives are special; we have but to grasp the gifts born of our sufferings.
When I look around me at the mundane lives, there are times I think that maybe I am glad I was born transsexual, for I would never have been what I have become without that curse. I cannot help but be grateful for my uniqueness, so I am brought to a strange revelation:

Deep down, I cherish having been born a transsexual.

Be a unicorn with me, and cherish it too.