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Lengthy posts seem to be a trademark of mine now, particularly with debates. Thank you, btw. I'm glad you approve of my style of writing. I have to admit, my respect for you rose dramatically when I read your reference to DPS. Okay, now for a response. First off, yes, I am lucky to have the friends I have. They're blessings from heaven when they aren't getting on my nerves. =) Second, lives are always built on lies, that being the nature of the beast, but it is truth that sets us free to do what we can, must, and will. Third, I have no clue if Mark Chesnutt did anything sounding remotely similar to your quote. I had never heard of him before you mentioned him. Fourth, like I said: I agree that most people who say they want honesty really don't. MOST people. There will always (I hope) be people who DO want and value true honesty. However, I think we also have to take into account the fact that our feelings, our personal experiences, may cloud our judgement of what is or is not true. I think people want what to hear what they EXPECT to be true. When that's not what they get, either because it's not the truth, or because your subjective experiences tell you it's not the truth, then those that do not value honesty are hurt and dismayed. However, I firmly believe that this disillusionment is not only necessary, but healthy and beneficial as well. You have to cleanse the wound before you can bandage it, and let it heal, otherwise the infection of affectation and illusion will come to poison everything they say and do. This may sound melodramatic, but this is where it can lead. Trust me, I know. =) I would disagree that people who say they want truth should not be given the truth. After all, those of us (I'm assuming you are part of this group) who actually DO want honesty will normally ask for it. Does this mean they should not get it? Now, the whole truth, that might be pushing it a little. I will concede that people who do not actually want honesty should not always be told the whole truth, at least not in one sitting. It is this indiscretion that causes hurt and sows dissension in the ranks of humanity. Brusque, blunt and blatantly honest. Yeah, I can imagine people calling you that, along with a few other choice phrases, but that can be said of the best of us. The truth of the matter is, the honesty that was present in this "relationship" as you put it, would not have hurt nearly as badly if the dishonesty had not been present first. Truth mixed with a lie makes the lie that much stronger. To be honest a little while longer, I have to admit, I liked the prase you used: "So, I think that this will become the rooftop of the world that I sound my barbaric YAWP across." That was nicely put. |
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