Below are guidelines we created. Our guidelines are not limited to what we have down, but are just a few issues we find to be important in a relationship. The issues covered include the purpose of our relationship to the standards we have set for the affection we can show each other.
The Purpose of Our Relationship
1. Glorify God in all that we do.
2. To hold each other accountable and to become holier through Christ.
3. To have a relationship that is a reciprocal of God's provision on how we should live our lives.
2nd Statement
Roles in Our Relationship
1. God is the foundation and main focus of our relationship.
2. Micah is to lead, serve, and protect our relationship in a way that pleases God.
3. Heather is to submit, support, and urge the goals and desires set in the relationship to please God.
3rd Statement
Decision Making
1. Decisions that can affect our relationship should be fully discussed with each other.
2. Decisions will not be based on our feelings or emotions.
3. Advise from other Christians (individuals and couples) may be sought, but is not to be considered
a high authority.
4. God's Word is the highest authority and final standard for our decision making.
4th Statement
Communication
1. Be upfront and honest with each other.
2. Do not talk or discuss our future physical relationship.
3. Do not try to impress each other, be your true self in all situations.
5th Statement
Time Spent Together
1. Time spent with each other should be balanced with time spent with friends and family.
2. Time spent alone should be in an open/public place where communication is encouraged.
3. Do not dress or talk inappropriately. The way we dress, talk, and our actions should represent
Christ at all times.
6th Statement
Time Spent Apart
1. Remain faithful to each other at all times.
2. Pray for each other daily, asking God to work in each others lives.
7th Statement
Physical Relationship
1. Acceptable physical expressions include holding hands, hugs, and kisses on the hand or cheek.
2. Kissing and physical intimacy beyond kissing is unacceptable, and is deferred until united as
husband and wife.
3. Physical expressions that awaken unacceptable intimacy will be discussed and abstained from.