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She has run into what I think is one of the most common misconceptions about menopause. Apparently the average age that women reach menopause is about 51 or 52. So almost everyone seems to think that it won't happen until then, and that when it happens it'll take just a few months and then it's done. That is not the case, as most of us are finding out now. I wouldn't set these numbers as absolutes, but from what I've read, it is perfectly normal for menopause to occur any time after around age 38/39/40 until approximately age 63. Those would be the extreme outer numbers on the bell curve, and as bell curves tend to go, more women will actually reach menopause in the years clustered closest to 51/52. But for those who reach it sooner or later than that, it is still perfectly normal, and is not particularly "early" or "late" menopause. (My own mother was 48, and that's about what I anticipate for myself.) Also, it seems to be that peri-menopause (the time around menopause) is similar to puberty, only in reverse. Puberty took several years (it averages 7 years, according to Winnifred Cutler, Ph.D., a researcher of women's reproduction). So it seems logical that peri-menopause might take about the same length of time. Many of the women who post here have had symptoms indicating the approach of menopause for several years. (Dr. Cutler says that the average length of time for peri-menopause is seven years -- but I'm not sure if that's based on actual studies, or just an estimate she made from taking informal surveys.) If your wife likes rather intellectual reading, I would recommend Menopause, A Guide For Women & Those Who Love Them c. 1992 by Cutler & Garcia, ISBN:0-393-30995-9. It explains some of what goes on in a woman's body during peri-menopause and after menopause. (The book is favorable towards hormone replacement, so some on this newsgroup would not prefer it. But it seems to have one of the best explanations of menopause that I've read anywhere.) Dr. Love's book, Dr. Susan Love's Hormone Book ISBN: 0-679-44970-1 is also a great resource.
Every woman is different and has different risk factors, so a "one size fits all" approach is dangerous, IMHO. And also, long-term studies have not been conducted yet, to support the conclusion that life-time treatment by HRT is safe and beneficial. Yes, there are studies that seem to show that HRT decreases the risk of heart disease and osteoporosis. But what they really show is that it appears to be so for the duration of the study. Most of those kind of studies are only a few years long. (So all they really show is that it may be safe to take HRT for a couple of years -- or however long the study lasted.) A few have been done for five or ten years. Additionally, the studies have been rather limited in scope -- many of them only studied a population of 200 women or less. That is a very small study and I don't think it's accurate to extrapolate the results of a small study to a conclusion for the population at large. So what she needs to do is read up on all the pros and cons of HRT and decide for herself what factors are most important to her. Or if she doesn't want to study this herself, she will have to decide whether to accept her doctor's recommendations as being good enough for her. :-) (I don't see anything wrong with that, but I personally am too independent to allow anyone else to make life-impacting choices for me.)
Best wishes for both you and your wife. Maybe she can read and post here too. :-) Lianne |