The topic has always been defined by male medical doctors and after the 1950's very aggressively by the hormone drug companies. The topic became dark and taboo as "midlife crazies" led to frontal lobotomies in the 1950's. 65% of US women were castrated and did not even have the opportunity to have a "natural" menopause. The topic went underground.

Your own  attempts to search for a "cure" is just one more acceptance of the artificially created "disease" model for menopause. We need to understand menopause and for the past few years several of us have really been trying and with some good successes found ways to understand it. 

But most importantly of all, it is the job of every woman to define her own menopause in her own terms depending on the uniqueness of her own life. No one can do that for anyone else. We all come to this time with vastly different accumulated experiences, life situations, personal histories, accumulated fears and accumulated accomplishments.

 All of this goes into how we see what is happening to our bodies at this time. This is what we talked about here on this website as "singing your song about menopause." If one believes there should be a cure for menopause, one will make choices to look for cures. This is not in response to menopause, but a reaction to a mindset already in place even before menopause. This is the song one sings about one’s menopause.

Or some women come to menopause to listen and learn, so then they become observers of their own bodies and the context of their lives and responses to menopause on many different levels. It may not even have anything to do with their physical body at all, but more to their spirit and choices in other areas of their lives. Just sharing the experience with other women is often mentioned as one of the best comfort measures there is.

This is not a medical response per se but a laying down of fears of being alone and misunderstood (stress/angst?) and when that is comforted one perceives their experiences  very differently. Time too must be factored in, as those who have become detached "observers" have found that menopause will have its way no matter what. Delaying menopause with artificial attempts to trick the body or the mind only leads to unresolved problems later on.

So many women who keep looking outside themselves for "cures" or blindly put faith in their MDs, or chiropractors or health food store sales people or internet multilevelmarketing health scammers, keep coming back with more and more problems, more and more instant and miracle "cures” only to return a while later with an even more twisted health situation.

This is what we have learned over time about menopause. Lives can be crazy, not menopause. Crazy ladies will have a crazy menopause because craziness is already built into their coping skills. Is this making sense?
J.