XXVI. Inner Wealth, or Giving Her All You’ve Got, Without Having to Buy Her Anything Get a piece of paper and a pen. This is one of the most important parts of this book. In this section, you’ll learn how to turn the raw material of your life into ammunition. You’ll learn how to transform the details of your life and your dreams into the inner wealth a woman craves. Jot down the following things: 1 Your job 2 Something you do for fun 3 Something you really want to do but haven’t done yet 4 Something you’ve done and really loved 5 Some experience you had that is at least somewhat, mildly unusual 6 Some places you’ve been 7 Something you do for fun which would probably bore most people 8 Particulars about a time you fell in love, or a friend of yours fell in love, or movies you’ve seen or stories you’ve read about falling in love Now go through each of the things you’ve written down, and think of how the various parts of each item—and every item can be broken down into many, many parts--can be related to one of the following positive emotions: 1)intrigue/curiosity 2) absorption/fascination/dreaminess/childlike perceptions/surrender to something greater 3) emotional connection to other people 4) intensity/excitement 5) daring/bravery 6) power/success/competence 7) doing things unconsciously, automatically, instinctively 8) sexual arousal To break each item down, consider the following questions: What, specifically, was I seeing at the time, and what would she see if she were in my position? What was I imagining? What was I hearing or telling myself? What was I feeling emotionally or physically? When assembling these descriptions, concentrate on linking the experiences to the emotional states. Fudge all you need to. Even if you hate your job, for example, or that trip to Yellowstone was the most boring three days of your life, imagine what, in the best of all possible worlds, could be or could have been worthwhile about those experiences. Milk them, and take all the time you need. To get you started, here’s an example: Making widgets. Even though you may despise making widgets all day at the widget factory, you can still convert the experience into a tapestry of rich details and narratives. “When Joe next to me hands me the widget, I always find myself taking a deep breath—just instinctively, you know—and then I find myself getting totally absorbed in the process of examining the thing in front of me. You know, you just feel that place of passion open up inside of you, because you’re beginning to feel this emotional and even spiritual connection. This is what you feel, when you know going to do the thing that’s important right now. It’s as if, in that moment, I’m a kid again, maybe seven years old. And I’m in awe of this piece of blue wood, orange plastic, and gunmetal gray steel that’s in my hands. I think of all the people whose lives I’m going to touch by making this widget as perfect as can be, and this is incredibly exciting. When I think of this sense of connection, I feel this warmth flow up through my solar plexus, down my legs, along my arms, pulsing, pulsing, pulsing. The widget feels good in my hands, because I’ve handled lots of widgets, and I now have a deep, instinctive comfort with them—it may sound silly, but it’s a kind of oneness. I mean, you know what that’s like? You know, it’s the kind of feeling that comes from just surrendering to a sense of connection, and going with it. It’s a kind of artistry. I feel being an artist is mainly a matter of how you feel about what you do. I’m a widget-maker, and my hands know exactly how to make certain things feel good.”When you read the paragraph above, you probably thought, That’s the lamest, most banal and idiotic bullshit I’ve ever read. Most women would laugh in my face if I spouted off like that. Well, guess what. Women’s brains really are wired differently, and they process language differently. Different kinds of language appeal to them. If you want to see what I mean, go try to read a romance novel. In any case, realizing that women are wired to respond to language which men would find incomprehensible or ludicrous, and then learning how to dish it out, at will, with exactly the right delivery, is critical if you want to able to walk into any given room and fondle the breasts of the prettiest girl there within five to ten minutes.
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