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XIII. The Princess and the P.E.A. (Proof by Enjoyable Analogy), or How to Give Any Experience The Meaning You Want When talking to a woman, you can connect any event to any meaning (that is, connect it to any implication or any emotional result) just by linking the event and the result with words. How do you arbitrarily link one event, physical or emotional, to another emotional event? How do you give one thing any meaning you wish? You say there’s a connection, then you describe it with some pleasant metaphor or image that her imagination can follow, and then say it results in the meaning you want to give it. The formula is this: When you X, it’s like Y, and this leads to a feeling of Z. X is any emotion or event; Y is any pleasant analogy; and Z is the emotion to which you want to lead her—Z is now the meaning of X. Example: When you ZORK, it’s like riding a bike along a beautiful country road, because it allows you to feel a profound sense of WHOOFLE. Remember, in that sentence, ZORK can be replaced by anything, and WHOOFLE can be replaced by anything else. The more images you feed her between ZORK and WHOOFLE, the more easily she’ll feel a sense of WHOOFLE. This is sometimes called the Proof by Enjoyable Analogy. When you want to seduce someone, you’ll make your images progressively more suggestive, and the emotional state you’re producing— WHOOFLE—progressively more about intimacy and arousal and sexual surrender. The Proof by Enjoyable Analogy, repeated over and over with different and progressively more erotic content, can easily form the backbone of an effective seductive conversation. Just follow the pattern: XYZ, XYZ, XYZ, or better yet, X1/Y1/Y2/Y3/Z1, X2/Y4/Y5/Y6/Z2, X3/Y7/Y8/Y9/Z3. “When you feel really connected to someone, it’s like there’s a glittering, iridescent chain connecting your hearts, and this is a sign you and this person are meant to be together.” “When someone really has an impact on you, it’s as if you can feel everything special and powerful about this person penetrating ever more deeply into your mind and body and soul, and you feel flooded with this tremendous desire to open yourself even more completely, so as to experience even more of these special feelings.” “My friend Chandra says that when a man really feels right for her, it’s as if everything that’s been numb or bored or disconnected inside her suddenly begins to melt like the wax of a candle, and the more she feels this warmth and this liquid melting feeling inside her, the more deeply she knows this experience is going to enter her and give her a true feeling of being totally filled, as if she can now truly sense how much she’s been waiting for an experience just like this, and now she truly feels herself yearning for this even more powerfully, as if a voice inside her is saying, “You need this now. Surrender, and take this pleasure and grace and power inside you, because this is what you need right now.” We’ll explain why this works in the next chapter. Review 1. Proof by Enjoyable Analogy (P.E.A.) allows you to assign “meanings” (conceptual evaluations) to emotions and events. 2. Taking a P.E.A. has this structure: Emotion or Experience X is like Enjoyable Experience Y which leads to a feeling of Emotion Z. Again: X is like Y which leads to Z.
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