Don’t be shy about ejecting from a set or leaving on a date if the woman continues being a bitch or head case with no sign of letting up. If necessary, stop and step back. Excuse yourself from the set, get off the phone, or go to walk away, and say "You know, this really isn’t working for me anymore. I think I’m just going to bring you home, and go relax."

Responding to outbursts: "So what am I going to get paid for babysitting tonight?" OR "Did this stuff work on your daddy? Why didn't he spank you more?" OR "Does acting like this ALWAYS let you get your way? Or only with the spineless guys?"

Or make fun of her silly behavior: "Awww isn't that cute, you getting all upset like that." OR "Wow you've really got this upset thing down to an art form. Does it work well with other people?" OR "Ya know, you're kinda cute when you're mad." OR "If you keep acting like a brat I'm gonna SPANK you like one."

"Flaking out" is when a girl doesn't show up for a date, or gives you a bogus number. Basically it means letting you down and wasting your time.

So if hopes were high (you hit it off well, she gave you her number etc, any signals of possible interest you might have received from her will do) but now she seems to have disappeared, show that you’re not cool with that behavior, and only because you saw some potential for the two of you are you willing to give her one last chance. But if she dares to do it again, its bye-bye and blam!! Door-slam time. Guys with a lot of options, or with few options who put a high value on their own time, will probably not even give a woman who pulled such crap a second chance.

The only voicemail/answering machine message you should ever leave: "Hi [girls name]. This is [my name]. I wanted to let you know how disappointed I was that you didn't call me back. But, since I saw so much potential for us I thought I would give you one last chance. So why don't you give me a call."

1) Don't make plans too far in advance. Try not to make plans more than 24 hours in advance. Why? Because YOU'RE BUSY. If she wants your attention, she'd better be ready to accept any time you find that you can free up. And she'd better be there. Shorter time frames also make for fewer opportunities for other things to "come up". If you make plans 5 days in advance, ALL KINDS of things can come up. If you make plans 5 HOURS in advance, you have a much better chance of things happening.

2) Always talk about when you're busy before you talk about when you're available. Two to one is a good rule of thumb. "I'm busy tonight, and I can't do it Thursday. Let's get together tomorrow afternoon around 4... but I only have a couple hours, so don't be late."

3) Don't say things like "I can do it anytime" or "I'll make time for you whenever you want". This kind of thing just TELEGRAPHS the message that you're chasing her, you want her approval, etc. and that you're too AVAILABLE.

4) Give her the gift of missing you. Don't call her all the time. Don't always bug her to get together. Don't always call her back when she calls you. In other words, have your own life.

Finally, make sure she knows that it's NOT OK to be flaky with you. This takes some guts when you're dealing with an attractive woman that you like. It's not always the easiest thing to say "Wasting my time and changing plans at the last minute isn't OK with me...even if your best friend is upset tonight because her cat is having a mental breakdown." But it must be done.

If she flakes out, remember these magic words: "HOW ARE YOU GOING TO MAKE IT UP TO ME?". And as a last resort... if the problem keeps coming up with a woman, you might have to use the secret weapon:

--PROBATION--

Just say "OK, well you're now on probation. No more making plans in advance with you. If you want to see me, you can call me and ask what I'm doing right then. If I'm free, I'll see you, but you've wasted too much of my time, and I'm not going to make plans with someone who can't keep them." Then, when she asks to make plans, say on Friday, just say to her "Well, maybe. You can call me then and see if I'm free. But you're on probation now for being flaky, so no advance plans with you." Harsh? Maybe. But if YOU don't respect your own time and put value on it, then how do you expect anyone else to?

Ironically, even though these ideas might sound a little bit too extreme... and like they might scare a woman away, exactly the opposite is true. If you do these things, women will typically be MORE attracted to you, because you're acting like a MAN WHO RESPECTS HIMSELF.

If you DON'T do this stuff, she'll probably drift away from you, and you won't even realize why it's happening.

Another way to prevent flaky behavior is this: At the appropriate place and time, SHOW YOUR ANGER...In a mature way. Guys who never get mad, who never show that they will stand up for themselves and make a woman feel a bit of unpleasantness are, in effect, giving themselves away for free!! Let the females in your life know that if they break your rules, cross you, or show any lack of respect that THEY ARE GOING TO PAY A PRICE! Always look for "respect opportunities" and call women on their bullshit. Be firm and sincere. If you sense that a woman is "testing" you by being difficult, trying to change plans with you on short notice all the time, etc. then RELAX. Lean back. Never let her "get away" with anything just because she's beautiful, or let her have any "special privileges" because you like her. NEVER. When she does something you disapprove of, call her on it. Tell her that you won't put up with that shit and not to do it again. NEVER forget you were born without her. And that there are a hundreds more like her and thousands more that are even better than her.

YOU: Don't ever (bad behavior) again, ok? I'll always treat you respectfully, but I expect the same from you.

HER: Uh… uh… yes.

YOU: Good. Let's see you make it up to me.

And at this point grab her and kiss her passionately. If you can, try to turn this into a sex close right then and there. Why give her an evening on the town and reward her rotten behavior? You have nothing to lose at this point.

Disrespecting you can also be an extreme and immature form of testing you, if the woman likes you at first but wants to determine your worthiness or lack of worthiness. She'll be testing you in order to find out whether you are a supplicating taking-all-her-shit pussyboy or a man with self-control and the ability to take charge. In order to pass such an extreme test (an example of which is canceling a date), you must:

Of course, if a woman does test you in this disrespectful way, you should seriously re-evaluate your interest in her.

What happens when YOU are the one who showed shitty behavior? First off, NEVER say you’re sorry unless you very obviously fucked up. Move through life without apology.

If you MUST apologize to disarm a woman's negative state, make humor out of it by taking a step back, IF it’s appropriate. An example of a one step forward, one step back apology: "You women are nuts!" (She gets pissed) "I'm sorry.......................I'm sorry that women are nuts!!"

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