This technique is best used after other attraction techniques. It involves adopting a sexual state, and then projecting it onto the woman. You need to OOZE sex, and have it show in the way you talk, move, and look at her. You could be talking about the weather, but your bedroom eyes, voice tone, and body language are communicating that you want her, and that you know she wants you!

The reason this works is because human beings tend to subconsciously mirror people they like. If you build rapport with her and she’s having fun, she’ll begin to match your state, whatever it may be. This is explained further in the section on Rapport.

Women test men for all sorts of reasons, and it’s mostly an unconscious process. Attractive women have a lot of options, and prefer men who are STRONG OF CHARACTER. If you were an attractive woman being chased by hundreds of guys, how would you go about eliminating the losers? You’d TEST them, in subtle ways that test for strength and personality. If you did this on a regular enough basis, this behavior would become unconscious and automatic.

Women will ALWAYS test you! Deal with it, learn how to handle it, and move on.

The more attracted a woman is to a man, the more she’ll test him. Women don’t go up to 90 year-old men and say "You jerk!" and playfully punch them in the arm. They don’t go up to some horribly disfigured guy in a wheelchair and say "You think you’re hot shit, don’t you?" They do this to the men they’re attracted to! A woman is usually nice and polite with people she’s not attracted to, as social conventions dictate her to be. In fact, if a woman is being polite and overly nice with you, it’s a bad sign. But if she’s testing you by calling you a jerk or an ass, it’s a sign that you’ve aroused some interest in her, and she wants to see if it’s justified.

How do you know a woman is testing you? When her lips are moving! Seriously, the way to know when a woman is testing you is to look at how whatever she’s saying or doing is making you feel. Anytime her words or actions make you feel put on the spot/challenged and forced to do or say something about it, you’re being tested. Any time she seems to be attempting to take the lead ("Call me on Thursday and I’ll let you know if I can accept your offer for a date on Friday"), it’s probably a test.

It's important to know how to deal with feminine testing. This is one of the BASICS: Once you demonstrate to a woman that she can manipulate you, she loses all sexual attraction for you and designates you as a PAWN. You MUST retain control and be the MAN.

Most tests can be dealt with just by ignoring them. You DO NOT have to take every communication seriously and respond to it. So if a test is given (let’s say she calls you a jerk), you can just smirk and go on and act as if it had never been said, and continue your conversation. The same principle can be applied when someone is getting overly emotional or dramatic with you. Continue as usual (applying humor in testing situations can be effective as well). To illustrate how ignoring a test works, here’s an example of a real interaction I had with a HB and her friend in her living room. The conversation centered around how much of a player she was in clubs, and how badly she treated the guys who tried to pick her up.

OFB: (To HB) *I* could pick you up REALLY easily in a club. I have the perfect pick-up line.

HB: (in disbelief) Oh, really?

OFB: First, I’d make eye contact with you from across the room. Then I’d smile and walk over to you…

HB: Who says I’d look at you?

OFB: Then I’d look you in the eyes, and brush your hair away from your ear…

HB: HELLO, "personal space", no way I’d let you do that!

Friend: Yeah, no way.

OFB: Then I’d lean in and whisper in your ear that perfect pick-up line (LONG PAUSE, then wicked smile as I put on my best "bedroom voice") --I HAVE HAGEN-DAAS CARAMEL ICE CREAM IN MY FREEZER--

HB: HAHAHAHA!!! That would work! And if it was cookie-dough ice cream, I’d be at your place before you!

Look at the dynamics of that conversation. Despite her shit-testing me 3 times in 30 seconds (with a contribution from her friend), I just plowed through and didn’t even acknowledge her objections/tests. It worked and in the end, got a very favorable response. By the way, this is a great routine to use with any "playerette". Find out early in the conversation what chocolate or ice cream she’s crazy about, then eventually get onto the subject of her playing guys at clubs. Then use this routine, plugging in her favorite sweet thing where it belongs. The beauty of this is that she’s CERTAIN to test you after your first statement, since no woman will ever admit to being an easy pickup. And because you were the one to set up the test, you’re completely ready to ignore her shit-tests and plow through (the toughest shit-tests are the ones that catch you off-guard).

Another way of dealing with tests is to PRE-EMPT the test! If you see her talking with a lot of guys, say "You’re such a player! Look at you." Or if she talks to you about doing something together say "What makes you think I’d WANT to hang out with you?" (In fact, most C&F comments are in fact tests. If you see she loses her cool, she failed your test). The reason this is effective is that you steal the testing frame first. When she tries to test you in retaliation, she’s doing it from a position of weakness and her tests will seem like feeble attempts to regain power…Which they are.

Another approach: At the first sign of a shit-test, SPANK her and call her a brat. It's not appropriate in all situations, but occasionally you can get away with it (especially if you two are alone).

If a woman tests you by talking about other guys she’s involved with, or approaches another guy in front of you: Tell her how much you want her to be with other guys, how humans are not supposed to be together forever, all of that. PUSH HER on whatever guy she brings up (to try to make you jealous), and recommend that she fuck him. If she shit-tests you back with "You don't care about me" say "I'm the only guy you've ever met who cares ENOUGH to give you your freedom." This is called "prescribing the symptom" -- take any behavior you don't like and tell her to DO IT MORE.

Shit test response: "Where'd you get that one, Cosmo or Seventeen?"

When a woman wants you to do something for her or buy her something: "OK, I'll make you a deal. I'll do X if you give me a 1 hour massage with hot oil, nice music, and candles." Remember to use a cocky/funny tone of voice, but be serious.

(I hate it when you tease me) "So why do you look at me with such pouting desire when I do it?"

Don’t apologize for anything. This doesn’t mean being an arse, but show that you’re defying her criticism. "I don’t like that shirt." "Fine, take it off me."

If a woman tries to get you back for a C&F comment: "If only you were as cute as your comeback"

(Are you a player?) "Well I like playing WITH you" (then give her a little pat on the butt, or touch her somewhere more intimate if you’ve already had sex)

Some more examples of shit-tests and replies:

1. • You bring up sex. She says "You’re SUCH a perv!" You say "You’re SUCH a prude! I’ll bet you’re an annoying good-girl."
2. • You make a C&F comment. She says "You’re SUCH a jerk!" Reply: "You’re such an EASY target!"
3. • You admit you like computers. She says "You’re SUCH a nerd!" You say "I’m the first person you’ll call when your computer crashes!"

A good example of a reply to any "You’re SUCH a _______" statement test is to smile and say "You LOVE me."

(You’re so ________ ) "So THAT’s why you like me so much! Ohhhh…"

Another example of an excellent comeback against a test on something about you, or a "You’re SUCH a ______" comment is "Awww, isn’t that cute, you have an opinion!"

If she complains or doesn’t like something, turn it up and give it back to her. She says "I don’t like that station", you turn it up a notch and smile at her. You don’t have to be an ass, you can turn it back down after. But just show that you aren’t easily controlled, and are independent of what she thinks.

Always raise and call her bluff. If a woman gives you some tension or tests you, call her on it. "I’m leaving, that’s it" "Ok. Don’t let the door hit you ass on the way out". In most cases she wasn’t planning to follow through—it was a TEST.

This is a fairly common situation out on the bar and club scene. It goes like this: Woman meets guy, gets interested in him, then shit-tests him with a request for a drink to see if he’ll do whatever she says.

In dealing with this, keep in mind that you do NOT owe a woman anything. NEVER open a woman at a bar, lounge, or club with "Can I buy you a drink?" It indicates that you’re a supplicating man who feels he has to buy a woman’s attention with material objects, and says all the wrong things in that it shows you’re ASKING for her time (never ask for anything, remember). You have to keep the mindset that no matter how beautiful she may be, her looks don’t get her a free ride, or a free anything for that matter. Your frame is that YOU are evaluating HER. If you’re using the techniques and openers outlined in this program, you should already have proven yourself worthy of her attention without needing to buy your way into her social circle.

Sometimes a woman will ask for a drink not to test you, but just because she’s greedy and wants to sucker you into buying her a free drink. In this case a refusal to buy her one will weed her out right away, so you really have nothing to lose by refusing the request.

I’m not saying it’s wrong to buy a woman drinks at all times. Obviously after you’ve talked with her for a while and you approve of her, it’s cool to call the bartender over and order for her. Do this on your own and take the lead, without prompting from her or asking on your part. Don’t ask her what she wants to drink—either order another of what she’s already drinking, or order some distinctive drink to show you have some culture.

Here are some responses to the "Buy me a drink" shit-test:

Her: "Will you buy me a drink?" You: "No. But you can buy ME a drink " Her (thinking "Argh… Gmph… He didn't supplicate! Could this be… a real man? What's this, I'm getting wet??"): "Am… um… Yes!"

OR:

Her: "Will you buy me a drink?" You: "Give me a French kiss." (NOTE that the tongue play must be an explicit part of the bargain up front. None of this peck on the lips BULLSHIT, because you’re still supplicating if you settle for that. Here's the beautiful part: If she says no, now SHE is the person who said "no" in the situation, instead of you! You don't have to be the "jerk" for turning her down. If she says yes, tongue-action and kino/touching right away. Then get her a drink as a reward. Note that she will probably demure before caving in, and this is your chance to show personality and be playful. Go C&F on her right away!) Accessory phrases: "You aren't uptight are you? Don't you go out to have fun? We're having fun!" OR "You like cool guys don't you?" OR "It's not HOT SEX or anything...just a little kiss!"

Her: "I need a drink"

You: "Ok, go get one, and while you're up there, grab me a rum and coke."

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