A "frame" is a general focus or direction that provides an overall guide for thoughts and actions during an interaction. A frame determines the underlying meaning of behaviors and actions. A "meta-frame" is an overall focus or direction that provides a meaning to the interaction. A more general term for frames and meta-frames is the SOCIAL DYNAMIC.

Frames don’t exist in objective reality. They’re not "real". They only exist inside the skulls of human beings. But they’re extremely important in dealing with people.

Generally, when two people’s meta-frames are in conflict, the stronger/more assertive meta-frame is dominant.

A woman may or may not buy into your meta-frame. But even if she doesn’t, you’re conveying that you’re unwilling to buy into hers.

How to control the Meta-Frame:

Step 1: Define the meta-frame: If you don’t set it, the woman will define it for you, and assert hers.

Here’s a way to properly define the underlying meaning of the interaction:

1. 1. You are the PRIZE.
2. 2. She’s trying to get you to like her or trying to win you over—whether it be in the sense of attraction, acceptance, or validation.
3. 3. She wants you so bad that she’s trying to make you sleep with her.
4. 4. The both of you are going to sleep together, but only if she lives up to your standards and expectations.

Step 2: Assume the meta-frame in advance

Assume before even talking to her that the underlying meaning of all her behaviors and actions when you do talk to her will fit into your meta-frame.

Step 3: Set frames that imply the meta-frame. Some ways to do this:

1. Frame one or more of her actions, behaviors, or things about her as meaning that she’s not good enough for you or can’t handle you (implies you’re the prize)

2. Frame one or more of her actions as her being interested or trying to pursue YOU

3. Frame one or more of her behaviors or actions as her being a little crazy (refuse to buy into it)

4. Frame one or more of her behaviors, actions, or something about her as meaning that she lacks class

5. Frame one or more of her behaviors, actions, or something about her as meaning that she’s a dork

6. Accuse her of not really living the life that she wants to live, or accuse her of being envious of you

7. Frame one or more of her behaviors, actions, or something about her as meaning that she’s a little creepy

8. Frame some of her behaviors, actions, or things about her as meaning that she’s a sleaze ball.

9. Frame some of her behaviors and actions as being rude and insensitive

Notice that many of these frames are the frames that women set with guys. So, you’re taking the frames they use to turn guys into frustrated, pathetic beggars, and using them against them.

Attempt at all times to do this in a humorous way. When women are laughing, their guard is down and they’re more apt to go along with the frames you’re setting.

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