10. Controlling Your Physical and Emotional State YOU are the only one responsible for how you feel. Other people don’t make us feel anything. It's OUR OWN interpretations of their words and behavior that affect us. Controlling how you feel is crucial. It's up to you to remain emotionally calm. Women count on us for this, and thank us for it when they go nutty. It's the MAN'S responsibility to be in control of his emotions. Women are NOT attracted to weepy little wimps. I'm not saying you can't show emotion, but don’t be provoked to feel an emotion by another person that you don’t CHOOSE to have. Every woman out there has her own insecurities and fears. Remember that you have the advantage of strategies and logic on your side, and all you need to do is CONTROL YOUR STATE! You are going to have to STOP getting emotional when women try to make you angry, sad, or upset. These are all tests by women, and you will FALL right into the trap by getting all worked up. You are going to have to STOP falling for all their games, dramatic behavior, and attempts to control you through your fear of losing them. Women DESIRE a man who is BEYOND their control, beyond their attempts to make him do anything, or to make him upset. The message is if you put up with her crap, how can you protect her? A dominant man allows a woman to feel safe and protected. So how do you control your state? How do you stay calm when a woman is yelling at you for stupid shit, or when she just dissed you in front of the entire party?Positively interpreting things is one way. At some point in your life you’ve probably been in a situation where something embarrassing or negative happened to you, and someone said "One day you’ll look back on this and laugh." And you probably did! Well when you find yourself in a shitty situation today, why not laugh at it TODAY? Why wait for someday? Also, think of how terrible something may have seemed when it happened to you years ago, and how it means nothing to you now. When something negative happens to you today, why not have it mean nothing to you TODAY as well? This can be done through positive interpretation, a RE-FRAMING of the "negative" situation. Here’s another method for controlling your state: Your physical and emotional states are closely tied together. For example, when someone is depressed, what do they look like physically? Often they’re slumped over with poor posture, taking short steps, their head’s down, and they have a sad look on their face. And when someone’s happy or excited they bounce around and they’re more animated. The fact that there’s a link between the physical and the emotional is good news for controlling our state. When you find yourself slouched over and unfocused, you can sit up straight with good posture and breathe deeply, and you’ll find yourself more alert and able to concentrate. When you find yourself worried about something, you can stand tall, look up at the ceiling, smile a big smile, and hold it (in fact, it’s hard to stay in ANY negative state in this position). You can breathe deeply and slowly to reduce anxiety and fear. And when a woman is going crazy and giving you problems, you can take a deep breath, smile and narrow your eyes at her, and slowly cross your arms.
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