Well you know Sir George martin, I was about to construct me a nice thick thinsliced Seltzers Sweet Lebanon Bologna r tm sammich, but then i spotted, in the very same fridge, the horseradish sauce, the remains of the very thinly sliced rare rosat beef, and the forfar cheddar, so that and two slabs of marble rye, chips and a nilla coky coly make yunch! Woo hoo!
We'll restock beforeFriday... I rpomise. prmoise alos. And promise also.
Marty all I can say about Christy's pregnancy is that I get every word you said, because approximatekly three years and ten months ago, I was there myself. the giddiness of finally getting to "know" margo and sharing that with her became OHMIGOD SHE'S PREGNANT I'M GONNA BE A DAD WHAT IN THE FUCK AM I GONNA DOOOOO?? And like you said, is it a risk? Is she going to be all right?
I think the WAY to tell Christy you're worried... well, first of all, the way NOT to tell her is to go over the top worrying about and fretting about EVERYTHING ElSE, you know what I mean? That'll just make her nuts, and the pregnancy suffices in that department, trust me.
So the way to tell her you're worried about her age maybe being a factor and you being worried that at her age this might be risky, something to reconsider, even, is to SAY "Christy, sweetie, what does the Doctor say about having a baby at age 43? Is it safe for you? What are the risks involved?"
WARNING: Do not not not not NOT use the word "old," either alone or good gawd in combination with modifiers such as "too." You are dealing with a simple biological fact here, that's all: Most women do not bear children after age 35 or so. Christy is 43. It's a concern, but it's not a deficiency on her part.
I do have to tell you that Christy had-has these same fears-concerns and is very nervous, but the Doctor has assured her she's at little risk, that (as she put it to Margo's mom) "old women have babies all the time, lmaaao." So keep that in mind too.... she's doing it in spite of her doubts and fears, and perhaps the worst thing you can do is amplify and reflect those doubts and fears. Christy loves you because of the way you love HER, Marty. Be her calm and her reassurance. Keep your worries to yourself, or email me with them. I'm always here for you. And maybe go to an ob-gyn appointment with her and the two of you talk it over with her Doctor.
If she's going ahead, it must be medically safe for her to.
Rebecca is a perfectly happy, healthy normal 38 month old girl... no problems as a result of her being a preemie as far as I can see. (God... preemie)
Face it, Marty. Christy's Mom had triplets at age 39-- that's some hardy breedin' stock right thar, yessir! And she's in great shape 'cause of the swimming and all the other stuff she STILL does and has ALWAYS done. She is still a physical specimen the envy of many women 20 years her junior, you lucky devil you. So figure that into the equation too.
I'm so happy for you two and Margo and I are ALWAYS here if you need to talk or whine or fret or ANYTHING, OK?
My memory fails me... are you coming up on Friday or Saturday (Margo is looking over my shoulder: Friday....because... you guys... want to have... all day Saturday and Sunday up here...and then.... you're going back....Monday.)
(Thanks sweetie)
(And she said, "God, I'd love to have Christy's bod... you kidding? She's in better shape than she was in high school. Bitch!")
So I hope I've helped here, man. Write meback if you need to...I'm here... and don't worry about bringing a lot of food or brew or anything. Bring up some CDs... Tom and Fran have a piano and the tuner's coming on Thursday (my treat)...mainly bring yourself. You will arrive here and strip down on Friday and immerse yourself in the drink, and down down down the Rideau your cares will flow.
Time to take the child and the wife to do some spectator leapin' off rockfaces into deep waters. I will see you, man. I'm happy for you... you're right! It IS a happy weekend... enjoy this time... xo bri
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