I am a woman who has been married to an unbeliever for a good number of years. This was not intentional. I was not saved during most of our marriage. It was a mere ten years ago that I truly recieved Christ into my life, and it was the best decision I ever made.
This said, I would like to tell those of you who have unsaved spouses (believer and non-believer) a message. I endure much hardship and many tribulations being the only adult Christian in my household. Yet I always return to the Lord, for He alone is my reason for being. For the sake of Jesus Christ and His Gospel, I refuse to give up, and allow my family to be one more casuaIity in this wretched, self-centered world.
I ask you now. Are you ready to give up? Are you filing for divorce? Are you ready to throw in the towel in your married life? I understand. I was there too. About six years ago, I was all ready to move out. I had had the last battle with Satan over my marriage (or so I thought). It seemed as though all was lost. I had my bags packed, and a ride on the way to pick up me and the kids (or so I hoped). I had no money, no food, only the clothes in my suitcase and on our backs. But I was ready and willing to leave my home and spouse behind. I was eager, even, to get out and move in with a Christian sister into her little tiny apartment hundreds of miles from where I live, on a wing and a prayer.
However, prayer was not present in this terrible decision. God had not been consulted, or even thought of. Yet the Lord got through to me in ways I could understand.
The abiding presence of Jesus was the only comfort I had in this valley time. He chastened me till I was bowed low to the ground, and I knew I couldn't face a new day without His soothing presence through prayer. And my children were overwrought and panicked at the thought of their family being split apart. So I realized, after many tears and times on my knees crying out to God for forgiveness and relief, that this was NOT the way to go.
I am positive now, looking back, that had I gone through with it, it would have led to disaster upon disaster. It was the way of the flesh, MY WAY, and MY WAY never works. I had to do this God's way. And He told me straight up, "You are NOT leaving. I have a plan for you, and a testimony for you to hold. TRUST IN ME. REST IN ME. I AM your comfort and your peace."
So, because I loved Him and wanted to please Him, I relented, and cast my cares on the One Who always understood me better than I did myself. What a wonderful Savior is our God. (See my updated Unequally Yoked? 2 page.)
I am telling you, reader, the same thing today. DO NOT GIVE UP on your marriage. PRAY for your unsaved spouse every day, and if you have kids, PRAY WITH THEM for their mom or dad. Be salt and light in the mission field of your home. God is in control, and He loves you and your spouse.The Lord Jesus was born a man, shed His precious blood on that terrible cross, and was raised from death for you BOTH.
Pray for his or her salvation. Pray unceasingly. Ask God to show you Scriptures that fit your situation. Don't you know, He put you where you are for a purpose? That took me by surprise too.
Give Him glory by your obedience to Him. I know it's hard now, but your reward will be great in heaven. Don't give up on your spouse. Your future is at stake if you do. Make the right decision. I did, and I am stronger and closer to Jesus now than ever.
Lastly, as a Christian wife and fellowservant, I must tell this to those of you believers who are NOT married, and are dating a man or woman who is NOT born again. PLEASE reconsider what you are doing. Pray for God to send you a Christian help meet instead. Seek out in your church, organization, workplace or neighborhood, those who love Jesus and believe the Bible.
These are truly the last days before Christ's return. God is raising up out of the world new believers in Jesus who are not ashamed of their new life in Christ, and who are also seeking the Lord's will in their life.
Finally, consider what God says in His word, for God cannot lie: 2 Corinthians 6:14. Be not unequally yoked with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? ...17 Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye seperate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean thing; and I will recieve you.
