| RELATIONSHIPS (conclusion) |
| Well, how about because the guy is really stuck on her and she knows it. How about because the guy is hanging in there hoping she�ll fall madly in love with him, which she knows will never happen. How about because the guy thinks she loves him and that he�s the only one, by her behavior and by what she isn�t saying. If a woman is dating a man for a period of months without making any commitment to him, she is only biding her time until her dream man arrives. And just like the guy who uses words of love to hold on to the lady he has no intention of settling down with, she will continue to see this man steadily until somebody else comes along while innocently maintaining, �We never had an understanding. Can I help it if he thinks I�m in love with him?�, or, �Why should I sit in the house by myself when he�s willing to take me out?� Well, how about because he�s in love with you and you�re using him? Is that a good enough reason??? People who mess with others' emotions like that should be ashamed of themselves. The fact of the matter is, people do stuff like this to one another all the time, regardless of which sex they are. I broke it down into male versus female behavior simply to make it easier to write and to illustrate the most common scenarios. I'm not talking about a committed relationship that isn't working out for some reason. That's another issue entirely. I'm talking about one party lying to or misleading the other for the sake of keeping him or her on the line. Speaking of which, if you're in a relationship with someone and feel it's hit a dead end, be honest. Free up the other person to move on. Don't wait until YOU'VE met somebody else. That isn't fair. DO THE RIGHT THING, folks! Stop and think about your behavior and the effect it could have on another. Don't be selfish! Don�t get into a romantic relationship unless you�re mature enough to handle it. Which means you don�t lie to the other person, especially about something as serious as love. Don�t use the �L� word unless you mean it. Respect the other person�s feelings. Make sure you have a meeting of the minds before the relationship becomes physical. Most of the time, one person will care more than the other, and somebody is going to get hurt. Do you really want to be responsible for devastating somebody? Unless you�re a coldhearted human being, that�s a heavy burden to carry. So ... is it love? Click here! |