| Winners aren�t as afraid of losing as losers are afraid of winning! Winners know what is worthwhile fighting for, and where they should compromise. Winners listen to others rather than merely waiting until it is their turn to talk. Winners develop a healthy appreciation for their abilities, and a keen awareness of their limitations; losers are oblivious to both their true abilities and their true limitations. Winners take big problems and break them into smaller parts so that they can be more easily resolved; losers take a lot of little problems and roll them together until they are unsolvable. Winners believe that most people will be kind if they give them a chance; losers feel that most people will be unkind if they give them a chance. Winners learn from their mistakes; losers learn not to make mistakes by not trying anything different. Losers become bitter when they are behind, and careless when they are ahead; winners keep their equilibrium no matter which position them find themselves in. Losers are afraid to acknowledge their defects to themselves or to others; winners are aware that their defects are part of the same central system of their assets, and while they try to diminish their effect, they never deny their influence. Losers smolder with unexpressed resentment at bad treatment, and get revenge by doing worse; winners freely express resentment at bad treatment, discharge their feelings, and then forget it. Losers think there are rules for winning and losing; winners know that every rule in the book can be broken, except one - be who they are, and become all they were meant to be (which is the only winning game in the world). Winners seek out the goodness in a bad man, and work with that part of him; losers look only for the badness in a good man, and therefore find it hard to work with anyone. Winners are unafraid to contradict themselves when faced with a contradictory situation; losers are more concerned with being consistent than with being right. Winners know how to be serious without being solemn; losers are often solemn as a substitute for their lack of capacity to be serious. Winners try to judge their own acts by their consequences, and other people's acts by their intentions; losers give themselves all the best of it by judging their own actions by their intentions, and the acts of others by their consequences. Winners stop talking when them have made their point; losers keep talking until they have blunted their point. Winners employ their defects in the service of their assets; losers subvert their assets in the service of their defects. Winners are willing to leave the road when they don't agree with the direction it's taking; losers follow "the middle of the road" no matter where the road is going. Winners use amassing only as a means to enjoying; for losers, amassing is an end to inself (therefore, no matter how much they amass, they will never look upon themselves as winners and never are). Winners appreciate the irony of fate, and the fact that merit is not always rewarded, without becoming cynical; losers are cynical without appreciating the irony of fate. Winners do what is necessary with good grace, saving energy for situations where they have a choice; losers do what is necessary under protest, and have no energy left for moral decision. Winners recognize that the only true authority is moral authority; losers have little inner respect and try to assume more external authority than their character can handle. Losers pride themselves for their "independence" when they are being rebellious, and for their "teamwork" when they are merely being a conformist; winners know which decisions are worth an independent stand, and which should be gone along with. Winners admit their predjudices, and try to correct them in making judgements; losers deny their predjudices and thus become their lifelong captive. Page 2 of 2 |
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