| Winners and Losers Winners make commitments and stand behind them. When a winner makes a mistake he says, "I was wrong." Losers say, �It wasn�t my fault!� Winners work hard to have more time. Losers won�t and are always "too busy" to do what is necessary! Winners go through their problems. Losers always try to go around them, and never get past them. Winners say, "lets find out!" Losers say, "nobody knows!" Winners show that they are sorry by making up for it; Losers say, "I'm sorry" and then do the same thing the next time. Winners know that it is better to strive to be admired than to be liked. Winners always say, "There ought to be a better way to do it." Losers say, "That's the way its always been done here!" Winners respect those who are superior to them and try to learn something from them; Losers resent those who are superior to them and try to find chinks in their armor! Winners pace themselves; losers only have two speeds: hysterical and lethargic! Winners are sensitive to the atmosphere around them; losers are only sensitive to their own feelings. Winners don�t tend to blame politics, favoritism, bad luck, discrimination, themselves, etc. for their failures; they don't waste time on any kind of blame. Losers are envious of winners and contemptuous of other losers; winners judge others only by how well they live up to their own capabilities, not by some external scale of worldly success. Losers lean on those stronger than themselves and take out their frustrations on those weaker than themselves; winners lean on themselves, and do not feel imposed upon when they are leaned on. Winners rebuke and forgive; losers are too timid to rebuke and too petty to forgive. Winners make every concession them can, short of sacrificing their basic principles; losers are so afraid of making concessions that them hang on to pride when their principles go down the drain. Winners act the same toward those who can be helpful and those who can be of no help; Losers fawn on the powerful and snub the weak. Winners want the respect of others, but do nothing with that end in mind; Losers do everything with that end in mind, and therefore defeat their purpose. Winners know how much they still have to learn, even when they are considered an expert by others; losers want to be considered an expert by others before them have even learned enough to know how little them know. Winners have the ability to laugh at themselves without demeaning themselves; losers privately deprecate themselves and therefore cannot publicly afford to laugh at themselves. Winners are sympathetic to weakness in others, because they understand and accept their own weakness; losers are contemptuous toward weakness in others, because they despise and reject their own weaknesses. Winners hope for a miracle after everything else has failed; Losers hope for a miracle before anything has been tried. Losers feel cheated if they give more than they get; Winners feel that they are simply building up credit for the future. In the end, winners give more than they take; Losers die clinging to the illusion that "winning" means taking more than they give. Page 1 of 2 |
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