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| Links: (websites I enjoy, nothing really to do with the monthly topics) http://www.howstuffworks.com/ This is an interesting website where you can have fun educating yourself�good website too if you have absolutely nothing to do but want to learn something useful. http://www.bahiker.com/ Excellent website about where to hike around the San Francisco Bay Area. Great description of trails and plenty of pictures. http://www.terragalleria.com This is an excellent website which has beautiful pictures of different places in the world. http://news.bbc.co.uk/ Good website to news events in different parts of the world. |
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| Quotes: Each relationship nurtures a strength or weakness within you. -- Mike Murdock The best relationship is the one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other. -- Unknown Man's need is too great for a mere creature [person] to satisfy. -- John Owen The purpose of quotes on this website is to provoke thought and may or may not be an endorsement of the person being quoted and his or her beliefs. |
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| Question of the month: How do you feel about the relationships in your life? a) I generally enjoy the relationships in my life and for the most part, I'm satisified with what I have. b) I generally enjoy the relationships in my life, but I feel something's still missing. c) I don't have a lot of relationships in my life, so I wish I had more, both in terms of quantity and quality. d) I can't stand the relationships that I have and wish I had a whole new set of (real) friends. e) I can't stand people and want to be left alone most of the time. f) other |
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| When our desire for relationships becomes unhealthy (continued): -we use people to boost our ego, to make us feel signficant and good about ourselves, to lessen our feelings of loneliness. -we yearn and search for people to listen, understand and accept us, yet hold back in being open about our 'darkest' flaws. -we show favortism toward people who are most like us, who say what we want to hear (whether or not they really mean it). -we talk (joke) and behave in a way to elicit the most attention and praise from others. -we do things that on the outside that people think are good and noble, but for the purpose of impressing people. -we spend more time complaining about not having certain relationships than appreciating the ones we do have. |
| LSC's BASEMENT: Here is another personal quote of mine, which I call a "likseeism": You should not feel ashamed of getting older but you should feel ashamed if you stop growing. ANTI-PET PEEVES: For a growing list of things I really like, click here. ARCHIVES: for website topics from previous months, click here. General Note: just to let you know, I update this website with a new topic around the beginning of each month. |
| It is hard to believe that this year is almost over; I hope it's been a good one for you. I wanted to touch on an issue in life which I will share more of in 2005, namely, the broad topic of relationships. For this month, the topic is when the desire for relationships becomes unhealthy. Lik-See, 12-16-04 I think that we would agree that one of the most natural and deepest desires in life is to be in relationship with others, whether that means having a significant-other or a consistent group of friends, or something along those lines. We are wired for affection, companionship,friendship, bonding, intimacy, sharing enjoyment in a wide array of things. However, I'm wondering if one of the hardest problems in life is loving something good - but loving it too much or in a way that it was not meant to be loved. Can we desire relationships & friendships (a good thing in itself) to a point that it becomes unhealthy in how we live our lives in pursuing them? When does our wanting a good thing turn into wanting it too much, in the wrong way, or for a wrong purpose? Maybe our desire for relationship(s) becomes unhealthy when: -we are more preoccupied with having our friends meet our needs (complement us, give us advice, help us out in some tangible way) than we are with meeting their needs. -we think that putting our main hope in life in a long-term partner will make us happy. -we socialize and get together with people predominantly as a coping mechanism or diversion from our own problems. -we rarely inconvenience ourselves to help someone out...unless maybe, just maybe, it fits into our schedule. -we feel insecure when alone even for a short amount of time. -we compromise our values in order to conform to a certain social setting or to maintain relationships. |
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| Note: the above picture is the "Boyfriend's Arm Pillow" which is a product that's being sold in Japan. For more info, check out the website. BTW, I thought this was interesting and I'm not trying to endorse it in anyway... |