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| Links: (websites I enjoy, nothing really to do with the monthly topics) www.howstuffworks.com This is an interesting website where you can have fun educating yourself...good website too if you have absolutely nothing to do but want to learn something useful. www.bahiker.com Excellent website about where to hike around the San Francisco Bay Area. Great description of trails and plenty of pictures. www.terragalleria.com This is an excellent website which has beautiful pictures of different places in the world. www.jatbar.com Runned by a few ordinary people like you and me, this well-organized website has several food reviews of Bay Area restaurants. Plenty of pictures too! Check it out if you want new ideas of where to go eat. |
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| Quotes: Let your dreams outgrow the shoes of your expectations. -- Ryunosuke Satoro I've always got such high expectations for myself. I'm aware of them, but I can't relax them. -- Mary Decker Stanley The quality of expectations determines the quality of our action. -- Andre Godin The purpose of quotes on this website is to provoke thought and may or may not be an endorsement of the person being quoted and his or her beliefs. |
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| Question of the month: What is your most common motivation for trying to meet expectations in your life? a) fear of failure and disappointment b) desire for improvement and accomplishment c) wanting to be thought well of or accepted by a certain person or people d) seeking to fulfill a dream, hope, something you really want in life e) fear of looking weak, stupid, or unusual, especially in the eyes of others. f) other motivation |
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| How are you doing? The topic for August is about living up to expectations, specifically why we can feel so compelled or pressured to meet certain expectations, whether it comes from ourselves or others. Lik-See, 08-20-05 It seems to be more than just the everyday routine expectations we get from our boss, teacher, parents, spouse or others we are responsible to. It can be the expectation to meet a personal goal that you work hard to achieve (career, education, fitness, relationship, overcome a bad habit); it can mean trying to conform to a certain social setting in order to be accepted. Maybe, we often feel compelled or pressured to live up to expectations because: -we believe that many expectations are good and the primary way to challenge us to grow and develop as a person, and accomplish something useful. We want to have a sense that we're improving in some meaningful way in life, and not feel like we're going nowhere worthwhile. -we believe that meeting certain expectations, i.e., conforming socially, is mainly how we can be accepted by those who we want to accept us. We may think that most people operate under the condition that if you can be like them (=measure up to what they expect), then that maximizes your chance of them liking you. We may even feel pressured to be someone we're not, in hopes of getting some form of positive affirmation from them. -we feel guilty when we don't meet certain expectations: the fear of disappointment and feeling like a failure motivates us to fight hard to prove to ourselves and others that we are good enough, whether it's trying to gain respect with your peers or colleagues, getting ahead in school or at work, or winning in some competition. -we hate looking weak or vulnerable, so meeting certain expectations is our way of saying that we're ok, we're not inept, we should be deemed acceptable...while maybe hiding the fact that we may not have it all together, no matter how hard we try. |
| On a scale of 1 to 10, how true are the following statements in your life? (1=not true at all; 10=very true) 1) I often feel anxious about whether or not I can live up to certain expectations. 2) Most expectations that I feel pressured to meet come from others more than myself. 3) I get easily discouraged when I don't meet expectations. 4) I am, more times than none, indifferent to other people's expectations of me. 5) I am, more times than none, very sensitive to other people's expectations of me. |
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| Pessimist (?) view: "Putting expectations on others is a form of selfishness and control, basically an unwillingess to accept people unconditionally." What do you think of of this statement? |