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| Links: (websites I enjoy, nothing really to do with the monthly topics) http://www.howstuffworks.com/ This is an interesting website where you can have fun educating yourself�good website too if you have absolutely nothing to do but want to learn something useful. http://www.bahiker.com/ Excellent website about where to hike around the San Francisco Bay Area. Great description of trails and plenty of pictures. http://www.terragalleria.com This is an excellent website which has beautiful pictures of different places in the world. http://www.jatbar.com/ Runned by a few ordinary people like you and me, this well-organized website has several food reviews of Bay Area restaurants. Plenty of pictures too! Check it out if you want new ideas of where to go eat. |
| WHY THIS WEBSITE EXISTS: To share and stimulate thought and insight on life issues |
| Quotes: If I give away all I have, and if I deliver up my body to be burned, but have not love, I gain nothing. -- I Corinthians 13:3 (Bible) To love is to place our happiness in the happiness of another. -- G.W. Von Leibnitz The greatest thing you'll ever learn is just to love and be loved in return. -- Eden Ahbez Love one another and you will be happy. It's as simple and as difficult as that. -- Michael Leunig There is no remedy for love but to love more. -- Henry David Thoreau The purpose of quotes on this website is to provoke thought and may or may not be an endorsement of the person being quoted and his or her beliefs. |
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| Question of the month: Which statement best fit what you think in your life about the importance of giving and receiving love? a) It is equally important to give and receive love; they always work together. b) Receiving love is more important than giving love. You got to take what you can get from others; otherwise you got nothing. c) Giving love is more important than receiving love. No one's ever happy just thinking about what they can get out of others. |
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| If you have any comments, suggestions, thoughts, etc. about this website, please email me by clicking here. Thank you for checking my website! LSC's BASEMENT: Here's another personal quote of mine, which I call a "likseeism". If so many believe that being unloved is one of the hardest things in life, how come so many feel so little shame or embarrassment for being selfish and unloving? ANTI-PET PEEVES: For a growing list of things I really like, click here. ARCHIVES: for website topics from previous months, click here. I revised outdated links on my previous webpages, including my favorite scene from the movie X-2: X-Men United. General Note: just to let you know, I update this website with a new topic around the beginning of each month. |
| I hope you are doing well this month. I wanted to continue last month's topic on what love is, but the focus this time is giving and receiving love, specifically understanding these two distinct yet inseparable (?) expressions and experiences of love. Lik-See, 04-16-05 In the context of relationships, I think of love having these two inherent expressions: we give love, i.e., show and demonstrate love to someone by affectionally doing something beneficial to others, or we receive love as the recipient of other's affection and help to us. Much of our lives consists of doing things for others or others doing things for us, but how much of that would we call love? Consider this question: is it really love when good or help is being done to someone, yet there is no affection by the one 'doing' the loving (or by the one responding to the act of love)? Sometimes, it's easy to confuse love - if you agree with last month's definition of it being essentially enjoyment - with doing good things or having good things done to you apart from emotion and enthusiasm involved. Another way of thinking about this: if someone said to you, "You can have any and as much material possession and money you want if you give up loving others and being loved by others", how would you respond to this hypothetical question? Are you ok with a life filled with many tangible benefits from others yet having little affection and enjoyment between you and others in your life? Another question is where you and I stand in our desire to give and receive love, and how or if we view them going hand-in-hand. It seems obvious that the craving to receive love is strong and deep throughout our lives. Not too many of us would say no to attention, affirmation, encouragement, friendliness or other expressions of love being shown or done to us. But sometimes lost in the shuffle of our disappointments and unmet expectations (and selfishness) in life is that giving and showing love can be as important and enjoyable as receiving love...that there's something deep within us that doesn't just want to be a taker in life, but a person who is giving and helpful and makes a difference in people's lives, in a way that would make them - as much as us - smile a little more than before. |
| On a scale of 1 to 5, how much do you agree with the following statements? (1=don't agree at all; 5=totally agree). *You have to receive love from others before you can give and show love to others. *I believe than I've loved others more in my life than I have been loved by others. *I think people are generally unloving and uncaring. *I think people generally try to do good, i.e., loving and caring things for others. *I have quality friendships and relationships where each of us truly and mutually love (care for) each other. *I am content and happy with the amount of love that I receive and give. *Without including physical survival needs, I believe that love is the hardest thing to live without. |
| The hand that gives is the same hand that receives. |
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