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(Facing Yourself and Your Relationships continued...)

Often people come together for a learning experience (life-lessons), and when this is finished, there is no other common ground between them. What brought them together in the first place, no longer exists. Habit may keep them together, but habit does not bring happiness. Life should be challenging and exciting - not sacrificial and stagnant.

Yet so many people opt for this state of being thinking it is how life is meant to be. Many people are constricted with fear. Many fear facing the prospect of being on their own and yet if you cannot be at peace with your inner self, as you are, then you will be at peace with nothing. Part of this fear is the fear of facing yourself and finding that you do not like what you see. Facing this requires courage, honesty and a deep desire to learn and grow as a spiritual being and experience all that is available to you on this earth plane. That is what we incarnate for here, yet it seems so hard to do sometimes.

Facing your reality often means that you wish to make changes, as you do not like some or all that you see.

So, the prospect of being alone often arises from fear of facing the self. Yet whether we are physically alone or not, has no bearing on whether we decide to turn and look in the mirror. Often, being with someone else (even though the relationship no longer lives) brings the distraction we require in order to avoid self-perusal.

When one is hanging on to an unhappy relationship, one should ask why?? Is it because you do not wish to face yourself? Are you not ready to see what is in the mirror? Is it because your are confusing love and control? Do you think you are unable to cope on your own? So you hang on tight to that which you have built up around you. This leaves no room to build anything new, it leaves no room to move, to find out who you are or why you are here. You sit and stagnate with no spiritual breath of life to fill your lungs. You chain yourself to that with which you are familiar for familiarity�s sake. So many souls leave the earth plane starved of connection to the source because they have stifled them selves with fear and fear blocks everything. Fear blocks anything new coming in to your life.

Stop being afraid and listen to your inner voice, listen to your heart. Find the Spiritual Warrior within you. Ask yourself if you are happy? You might not like what you hear but at least you will not be living a lie. Sometimes, the spiritual seeker needs to spend time on their own - for if you cannot relate successfully to your self - you cannot relate to others. To love yourself is to be able to love others. To know yourself is to be able to know others. To be honest and truthful with yourself means that you can then be truthful and honest with others.

There are those people who have faced themselves in the mirror whilst still in unproductive relationships. They have chosen to stay with clear knowledge of who they are and have accepted that for whatever reason, their life in that relationship will stay on that course. How long they opt to stay in that situation or with that person, is as varied as there are people who do it.

While they realise that the relationship or friendship no longer serves their highest good, they are able within the confines that have been set, to grow perhaps in other areas. So that while their relationship brings them little or no happiness or challenge or love, they seek it elsewhere. And many find it. They have accepted the status quo for a time and have realised that they are in the driver�s seat as to how long they remain. The ball is in their court and as such, they have not lost their personal power for they decide when it is time to go. But this kind of situation can be a precarious one.

This is an entirely different scenario to those who will not face themselves in the mirror and stay in a static relationship or situation because they are too scared to face their own reality. There is a world of difference between the warrior who plugs in to life and makes his/her choices with full awakening, and he who unplugs and hides in a corner. The former takes their life in their own hands, the latter gives it to others.

The spiritual warrior is exactly that - a warrior. As such, warriors occasionally get a little battle-worn and need to lay low for a while in order to regain their full strength. Once this is renewed, they may move forward once again. A warrior also knows the value of waiting for the right time. Timing is important. Being aware of who you are means that you are connected to the Divine Source and are on the right pathway.

Thus I stress that this discourse does not advise mass leaving of relationships in trouble!! Rather it cautions to turn and face the self to gain knowledge of who you are, why you are here, what it is that you want in your life. Once you have done this (and this can be done either whilst in a relationship or on your own), then you may decide whether or not your relationship, friendship or situation still has life in it; whether something has run it�s course or whether it is worth holding on to and fighting for. Only you, and you alone, can answer these questions. Find yourself and own your power!

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