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FACING YOURSELF AND YOUR RELATIONSHIPS Creating a Space for the New By removing unwanted or negative energy from your personal or sacred space, you are creating room for positive changes and developments to enter your life. You are in fact, making space available so that you can draw positive energy towards you. If the space around you is full and cluttered, nothing new may enter. By clearing the space around you, you are allowing the opportunity for something new and positive to move towards your life. This removal of unwanted or negative energy is the first step to allowing yourself what is positive and serves your growth and development. It allows happiness an opportunity to come in to your life. To be stuck in negative cycles is like living permanently on yesterday�s leftovers. It feeds unhappiness and discontent and so the vicious circle continues. Sometimes we have to clean out our �old drawers�!! � and part of what we find that we have outgrown may be old relationships or habits that no longer serve our highest good. Before any new relationships or positive habits can be courted, we have to remove and clean out the old. Time To Readjust Once you have recognised and cleared out what is no longer appropriate in your life, you must allow yourself time to sit in your own energy in peace. This allows you to sit and rebalance your energies, for if you remove something from your personal energy, it needs time to readjust. It is much like removing weights from a scale. It needs to readjust the remains in order to find equilibrium again. This also gives you time to make an inner journey to find what your truths are and who you, so that you will know what fits in with your energy and what causes disruptions. Once this has been done and all is balanced once more, you are able to devote your focus to the ushering in of new and positive energy. In fact, you will be able to detect more easily whether it is in harmony with you, or not. You will be able to invite positive energy in, and also repel negative energy away from you. If you try to draw new energy in during this period of readjustment, you are not clear and focused, and you may make choices in an unbalanced way. Being unfocused and distracted makes it more possible for situations which do not serve your highest good, to enter your life. This happens with grief especially, and time is needed to make the emotional energy readjustment before anything new is required or even desired. This period of quiet to bring order and balance, often means that you need a break from people, things and situations. You may actively seek solitude and silence in order for you to find the balance and peace you are looking for. It makes sense, for how can you become balanced if you are being distracted by outside matters? This is a time when you need the space around you to be clear of other�s energies so that your own energy does not have to cope with anything else but itself. Healing Time This period is also a time of healing. Letting go of what no longer serves your highest good or potential is often accompanied by wonderful feelings of liberation and freedom � like having been cooped up in a box, and then having the lid suddenly removed. It is a time where you no longer feel weighed down or pressured by other�s opinions and/or your own patterns of thinking � as in the difference between what you think you should do, and what you feel you want to do or be. As we grow spiritually, we become more and more aware of what does not allow us to develop and move forward, and there is an increasing feeling of urgency to clean out our drawers so that we can fill them with goodies that fit us now. Together with this feeling of freedom and growth, comes a period in which we let go. We release these outworn patterns of behaviour, thinking and attitudes to relationships and situations. Whenever we release and let go of anything, there is a period in which we grieve to some extent. Sometimes we will grieve what is passing deeply, and others � it will only be a light and short mourning. It is a time in which we realise what we have learnt and how far we have come in our spiritual growth. Allow this period to happen and do not rush for it will pass soon enough and it has an important purpose. It allows you to fully clear out the old to make way for the new, and to be comfortable with the whole process. If you are not comfortable, you will constantly be looking over your shoulder with regrets and questions, instead of moving forward with your arms outstretched for what is coming. Once all is right with your energy, you will be ready to allow new relationships into your space, based on who you are at the present moment, not who you were ten years ago. It is not possible at 25 to wear the clothes you wore when you were 9 � growth occurs on all levels and with it comes change. Some relationships/friendships will move with the changes and others won�t. Facing Yourself and Your Relationships I have seen many relationships between both friends and spouses that are no longer positive - where love and caring are no longer present. For whatever reason, these relationships have ceased to be nurturing to either one or both parties. However, many times in this situation people stay put. They fear being alone and so opt to stay with the other person thinking that what they have is better than nothing. This is a restrictive misconception, as being in an unloving relationship is like being alone, for the other party is no longer interested in loving, growing and learning together. This is a stalemate situation where neither party grows or develops any further - thus neither party is truly happy. Usually one or both have tried to find a way to keep the relationship moving forward, but sometimes this does not work or is simply not meant to be forever. (continued....) |
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