| ol' ball and chain 10.07.02 |
| If I ever become one of those needy puppy-dog type girlfriends who follows their boyfriends around, unable to live without him being within arm's length, I give you permission to shoot me. If I ever LET my boyfriend be like that toward me, someone please shoot him. If I ever abandon my other friendships and withdraw into a tiny world that consists of just me and my boyfriend, someone please pull me out of it. I tend to be really critical of couples, which is kind of ironic, because it's not like I have a lot of experience with relationships. However, I know what it is like to be in a relationship, and even better, I know what it is like to be on the other side...to observe couples who have no one else but themselves. Word to the wise [couples]: when you are with your other friends, please don't act like no one else is around and start getting all lovey-dovey, especially if you are with single friends. If you want to act like no one else is around, GO SOMEWHERE where no one else is around. The world is a big place. I'm sure you can find an unoccupied corner. To the couples who have friends...don't abandon them! Relationships outside of the two of you are HEALTHY. Also, GuyTime and GirlTime is healthy too. Don't think you can't hang out with the gals or the boys anymore just because you're in a relationship. Every outing does not have to be a double or triple date. Your friends understand that you want to hang out with your significant other, but really, to be attached at the hip? Get a life! Guys, you can talk about cars and play video games without your girlfriend around. Ladies, you can gawk at guys and go shopping without your boyfriend around. There WAS life before couple-hood you know! I've had friends who were in touch with me via e-mail or would call me up to hang out...and then a sig. other comes along and *bam* they're gone. It's like HELLO? Where did you go?? Can you not even e-mail me anymore? Now I'm sure anyone reading this who doesn't know me is thinking, oh man, this girl NEEDS to get a boyfriend. Well, here's news hon, I have one and although it's been a long-distance thing 90% of the time, I realize how independent and how beneficial this can be. You are forced to develop other friendships and value your time apart. You still value one another, but you are also enjoying the life that you live apart from one another. And you don't have to be worlds apart to practice a life like this. If we were just two blocks apart, we also hope we can practice this same type of independence. Forget that needy whine of "But I hhaavvvee to talk to him every night at 10 p.m.!!" Puh-lease. Grab a muzzle. Or "But I can't hang out with you because my boyfriend doesn't have any plans tonight and he will be lonely." Unless he is so young that he needs a babysitter, he will be FINE being alone. If you continue to act like this, before you know it, all your friends will abandon you...and God forbid you ever break up, but if you do, you will realize that you have no other friends. You deserve it. What goes around comes around. Your friends are tired of making the effort to be your friend when you obviously think you don't need them...and then when you do, they have been long gone. Sorry kids, it's the truth. Anyway, it will be interesting once M. and I end up in the same city. More than anything, I hope I don't become one of these annoying couples that make me want to gag myself with a spoon. I'm pretty sure we are against PDA and also couples who always say, "My boyfriend does that..." or "My girlfriend has this..." We will see...not to say I have never been like that, but at least I have hopefully woken up and wisened up. in the meantime, I can speak with authority since I discount myself from this category of relationships. And if you see any couples like ones I described above, direct them to this entry and give them a swift kick to the head to get them back into reality. Indyness rocks! |
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