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You wonder the stages in your life that you are in. You wonder the stages that the people around you are in. What they need to feel complete. Where the fulfillment is. Where they can find their soul and where they can find love.

These thoughts always change and at any particular moment, if it is just something you feel, or a place in your life you are at, or something or someone that has effected you, you will feel differently on how you view your love life. I think John Allen Lee put it best. The Six Styles of Love:

EROS (The Romantic)

People who believe in love at first sight and instant chemistry. They are romantic with passions and intimacy but lack commitment. These are the people who believe that when two meet, there is that chance of attraction instantly.

LUDAS (The Game-player)

Those who love to play the game of love with several partners at once. It is a world based on infatuation and passion minus commitment and intimacy. They enjoy the chase more that the catch and like to keep the players guessing.

STORGE (The Affectionate)

Those who believe that true love grows out of friendship. Compassionate hearts of intimacy and commitment. No passion. They value companionship and trust but don't really know when that friendship will turn to love.

PRAGMA (The Pragmatic)

Lovers choose partners on the basis of a shopping list of compatible traits. Emptiness with commitment only. There is lack of the wonders of passion and intimacy. They have to consider what their lover was going to become in life before they even committed.

MANIA (The Possessive)

People who yearn desperately for love but suffer from jealousy and worry when they find it. Very fatuous where only passion and commitment exist without intimacy. The people who always have to know everything about the other and are enraged by the unknown.

AGAPE (the Unselfish)

Those who think of love as a selfless, almost spiritual form of giving to their partner. I partnership of liking.. of intimacy... without passion, without commitment... To always help the other through difficult times.

Everyone has been in a few of these stages if not all of them at one point in their lives, maybe switching form one to the other... or you might know of people who these represent... I know I do. So how is it decided how we feel. Role a dice? I guess we never know.

We are creature in this game who are always looking... Worst part is we think we know what we are searching for, but we have no idea where we fit into the equation. Funny how there isn't a style which it includes passion, intimacy and commitment all at once. I guess the dice was only meant to have six sides...