How to find a Godly Wife!
I was rumaging my windows explorer for some stuff I'd just downloaded and stumbled upon this old old article I have downloaded months ago! Oh it was so RICH and full of wisdom of God, so I decided to remake it.
How to find a Godly Wife
by RM Bond
Initially, I wanted to mail the whole article or convert it from pdf to text. But I know most of us is going to skip or delete it away.
So my mind quickened, and I decided to adapt from it to transformed into a mini FAQ style. Questions will be in Red and scripture in Blue ..
If u are married .. too bad. Do look through the questions to seek areas of improvement.
If u are a single man, this is for YOU!
If u are a single woman, this is for YOU Too!!! You may have to digest abit as its originally written for man.
P.S. The christian circle, especially in Singapore, has split opinion about this issue. I kinda fully embrace the original author's stand, but I have also encountered christians that think its totally crap! So know that u do not have to swallow whatever is there! And I'm sure u will disagree with some of the views. In doubt .. Check the bible.
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How to find a Godly Wife - FAQ edited Version
(Original Artist - RM Bond)
1) Who's job is this .. God or Man?
God.
Pro 31:10 "Who can find a virtuous woman? Her price is far above rubies."
Ya .. half of us has already started arguing that this is rubbish. Look at the wisest man on earth .. Solomon .. who had a thousand wives.
Ecc 7:27-29 " "Here is what I have found," says the Preacher, "Adding one thing to the other to find out the reason, Which my soul still seeks but I cannot find: One man among a thousand I have found, but a woman among all these I have not found. Truly, this only I have found: That God made man upright, But they have sought out many schemes".
So what did Solomon find?
Ecc 7:26 " And I find more bitter than death. The woman whose heart is snares and nets, Whose hands are fetters. He who pleases God shall escape from her, But the sinner shall be trapped by her. "
Not convince? One more ..
Pro 19:14 "Houses and riches are an inheritance from fathers, but a prudent wife is from the LORD. "
2) Oh this is 'faithless'..! How am I suppose to find her if its not even my job???
Only God can give us a Godly wife. We will 'find' her when God brings her across our path while we are following and pleasing Him.
Mt 6:33 "But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you."
Join a cellgroup, get a minstry in church, read and study God's word. Do not date anyone who you did not intend to marry.
As for the rest, let God do them!
2) How do I identify her?
The author puts 4 points .. which is rather interesting :> Finally something about woman!
1. Faithful to God
She will daily draw near to God through prayer, reading, studying and meditating on God's word. Hey .. thats the only way to have a relationship with God!
Rom 10:17 "So then faith comes by hearing, and hearing by the word of God."
2. Faithful to Fellowship
Godly fellowship always helps.
3. Faithful to Ministry
A Godly woman will always yearn to glorify God through ministry. She may be visiting old folks, caring for the sick, doing evangelism or missionary work etc etc.
4. Faithful to Modesty
1 Pet 3:3-4 "Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God's sight."
There are many woman that has great figures and dress sense. Yet it is never God's intention that our woman should dress to 'kill'. Revealing clothes and stunning make-ups make us guys so excited and start to 'saliver and pant', but it sure causes us to sin so easily in the mind.
3) So what do I do when I've found someone I believe God wants me to marry?
Wait.
Hab 2:3 "For the vision is yet for an appointed time; But at the end it will speak, and it will not lie. Though it tarries, wait for it; Because it will surely come, It will not tarry."
I never had anything good that I did not have to wait for. Use this precious time to check our spiritual maturity to handle relationships, our financial status to build a family etc etc.
God's timing is rather weird. After six years as a christian, I still can't fathom His timing well. But like what the verse says, God will not short-changed us.
(Ok folks .. I'm tired. Took me 2 hours plus for the above and it seems I could not write anymore. I will leave u with the below, which I am learning everyday to apply into my life..)
4) I can't do that .. ?
Its ok if you felt too lousy and too weak to exercise such faith in God. I felt it every-other-day, and sometimes everyday. On some nights, I just break down and cry. I know it sounds wimpy for a man to do stuff like that, but I found that through my weakness, God seems to work rather well!
2 Cor 12:9 "And He said to me, "My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness."
Good night folks!
Sep 2004
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Whats something that the moment u thought u have it,
u lose it ..?
Humility.
>_<
Yes. I have make a mistake in my last rendition of "How to find a Godly Wife" from RM Bond. (Thanks to my senior in Christ for that correction)
The article will only be applicable to
1) Singles / Unattached
2) Determine to want only God's Best
Noticed that God's Best is not the same as "Perfect Partner". It's simply the person God thinks is Best for u! Not the kind u think is best.
Exception Exception!!! ( if u know java .. u will know what I mean hehe)
If u are already married or attached when u become a christian, 1 Cor 7 becomes your good reference!
1 Cor 7:12-13 "..If any brother has a wife who does not believe, and she is willing to live with him, let him not divorce her. And a woman who has a husband who does not believe, if he is willing to live with her, let her not divorce him."
1 Cor 7:14 "For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband .."
Continue to love your wife or husband the way Christ loves the Church!
Sorie for any distress I may have caused to any party reading this stuff .. thousand apologies!
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1 Cor 7:29-31 "But this I say, brethren, the time is short, so that from now on even those who have wives should be as though they had none, those who weep as though they did not weep, those who rejoice as though they did not rejoice, those who buy as though they did not possess, and those who use this world as not misusing it. For the form of this world is passing away. "