Chapter 6.3 Marriage in Canada as a social institution
Free-choice: the job of seeking and developing relationships is ours rather than that of a third party.
True love, romantic love: selection of a partner based on physical attraction, personality, shared values and goals.
Robert Sternberg's triangular theory of love.
Passon: the drives that lead to romance, physical attraction, sexual consummation and related phenomena
Intimacy: feelings of closeness, connectedness and bondedness in love relationships
Commitment: the decision that one loves someone else and...the commitment to maintain that love.
Romance: Falling in Love
- physical symptoms: increased heart rate, changing speech and laughter patterns, clammy hands, etc.
- neurological chemical phenylethylamine is responsible for such feelings
John Lee: theorizes that we have a psychological craving to be loved
Murstein: suggested that opposites do not attaract. People tend to date others who are similar to themselves in terms of looks, personality and achievement.
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Read pages 168 to 175 and answer the following questions:
(1) Why is marriage considered to be a changing institution? How has it changed?
(2) Why do you think "arranged marriages" (meeting through a mutual friend) are successful?
(3) What are some disadvantages of free-choice marriages?