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| To the Bully: |
| Fool me once, boogey on you. Fool me twice: boogey on me. ----Scotty, Star Trek |
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| Group IQ can be as high as that of the smartest member. But it can be much dumber. (7). When a group-member treats me like I'm stupid, it makes me self conscious. I'm distracted, looking inward while I should be looking out: it's instant IQ loss: sometimes called traumatic neurosis. Respectful behavior prevents traumatic neurosis. |
| The following excerpt is taken from the book Emotional Intelligence (7): |
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| In the arctic environment, cooperation is necessary for survival. People are prone to depression. A penchant for making others happy is reinforced in communal festivities. Native custom is to hold Potlatches. It's a smorgasboard/gift exchange. Everyone competes for the title to being the most generous gift giver. Bringing great happyness is paramount. |
| The safest place to store food is in your neighbors stomach. --Native axiom (Bullies don't play well with natives) |
| When a pushy group-member gets forcefull or angrily hangs-up on me I dwell on it. Brooding reduces my vitality. |
| Repelling pushy people drains a would-be patsy's life-force. Stress makes people stupid. Patsies unwittingly accept a multifaceted handicap. |
| I believe endless-punnishment begins instilling learned helplessness early on. Ambition vanishes for the patsy. Long-term lethargy sets in: patsies can't even escape for lack of mental energy. |
| Learned helplessness resembles clinical depression--which depresses immune system response (14). |
| Arctic conditions demote bullying behavior. |
| Bullies are totally predictable. |
| Who'd want to be that transparent? I'd be embarrassed to be the one who never learned; the one who'd never made life's great change--destroying value--dumbing people down--right and left. I'd hate seeing purse-strings yanked taught on my approach. I'd hate being powerless. |
| Highly effective people are insightfull about needs, resources, and the competencies around them. Positive reinforcement is given in support of promising initiative. A loose network forms. (15) Sometimes people help. Sometimes they're helped. At the other end of the spectrum, bullies may be the least effective people. While bullies are harvesting and divesting, horrified onlookers are retrenching their defenses. Most won't fall prey. But all respectable types feel cheated whenever a disrespectful ingrate invades their space. All must be kept from reach of the bully. Network-wide blackballing follows. |
| Personal effectivity: |
| Bullying, the insideous killer: |
| Doctor's prognosis: |
| Stress can lessen the effect of flu vaccines. (Anchorage Daily News, Lee Bowman-Scripps Howard News Service, 3-27-04, Section A-3) |
| Osama Bin Laden demonstrated that a couple of bullies with razor blades could fell our tallest towers. Human destructive capacity far exceeds human constructive ability. A well-placed jab can ruin an eye, a life, or more. So there will be no game playing with lives. |
| To win all the time is to surround oneself with loosers. Now we know it makes the patsies physically-sick too. |
| Bullying as terrorism: |
| Bullies compete while being ignored...some edge, ho-hum. |
| Deadlock = endless betrayal. |