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| Some people flatter themselves by expecting more than a fair share. This is bullying. Over time, it may as well be Chinese water torture. No laughing matter, victim ambition can dwindle. Spirit evaporates. Income plumets. Not newsworthy: stress makes people stupid. Harkening back to an experiment of old, scientists coined the term "learned-helplessness" to describe a lazyness that can take hold in bleak times. They put jovial dogs into a room which gave random shocks, from the floor. The dogs became listless, perhaps permenantly. In modern terms, helplessness and suffering preceed Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). Anguish-deliveries really do inflict harm. Half of clinically depressed patients (in a recent study) said public humiliation did it to them. "Clinical" in this context means intervention was necessary. Being played for a patsy restructures the victim's brain. This can be seen from the moment suffering and helplessnes take hold. Cruelty forms brain-structure signature to PTSD. We look into brains hoping not to see PTSD-structures forming. These were first noticed in Viet Nam Veterans' brains under PET-scan examination (positron emission tomography). |
| The bullying-behavior only targets you. You get less respect than a stranger on the street gets from the bully. Which says you are the least important person of all. |
| You are chosen to be played for the patsy because you were being nice. |
| In marketing strategy, the "loss-leader" (an underpriced item) drives traffic to a location. A loss is taken to bring customers in. The hope is they will like what they see and buy other things. Bait-and-switch tactics get you in the door with a good value proposition. But then that deal isn't there, they want to sell you something else. It's illegal, comercial bullying. |
| They can dish it out but they can't take it. |
| Bullies came from the environment they are making. They push us right to the breaking point and hold us there. If your normal you'll eventually go "postal." Your show of rage will smother the very spirit that moves them by plunging them into helplessness. But in doing so, you'll become one of them, expounding the very behavior you hate most. Your other option is to get out first. I'm committed to non violence and fair treatment. I'm committed to self-defense and for standing together against opression. This is conflict resolution with a capital "C." Innocent eyes need not see such uglyness: it's likely to be a clash of Titans. I'm here to say it can be done. |
| To The Bullied: |
| Conclusion: helplessnes and suffering gang up. Don't accept PTSD: take control. |
| DOD first article clause: successful completion is necessary on your first big contract. You won't get another contract unless you're done with the first one. This translates: make a person fully honor a first agreement before entering into any more agreements with them. |
| Clinical depression is known contageous, nasty behavior is how it spreads. |
| Causes for concern |
| Depression causes poor physical health. |
| You're being dumbed down. |
| Reasons to say no: |
| Ambition is sapped by unfair pain. |
| Bullies don't like patsies, they want more of them. |
| Frustration sets in when best strengths lay fallow. |
| Like the coyote, arch-nemisis to Warner Brothers' Roadrunner, bullies both create chaos and thrill by it. |
| "You owe me respect. I owe you respect." --John Scott |
| On civility: |
| Narcissism is a trait we all display, to varied degrees. Healthy narcissism, for example, is like the "charge" one gets out of "the job well done." It is an egotistical flourish, reflecting pride of excellence. But in clinical terms, the narcissist is a special case: having no mental faculty for the proper tally of good-will. These folks need others to benchmark their stature, good or bad. They haven't a clue that the rest of us are sizing up individual track-records. They are clueless about these emotional bank accounts we run in our minds. It is like a learning disability: they don't have such. They would not invest in good-will. They cannot resolve subtlties to our personal positioning strategies. They don't know we can. The narcissist has a cycle with three parts: the lost-child, with low self esteem, appears rarely. The overly exhuberant phase sees celebration overblown in natrure; with the aim of getting constant feedback or performance appraisal (for the good or bad). Then there is a rampage-mode. This is triggered by sudden catastrophic failure of the grand illusion they think they have created. They suddenly feel a need to issue a smokescreen and some repellent. So they stage a blitzkreig-style emotional attack. Again, they have no measure of the emotional-pain they inflict. So they go totally overboard. They'll do the unthinkable. It is a dumbing-down process. Victims get so worn down they cannot escape. |
| Personality disorders can be a root-cause of bullying. Narcissism, antisocial, and psychopathic behavior disorders appear as bully-like behavior. |