Objective fear is a valuable protection mechanism. By contrast, irrational fear is destructive whenever it stops a person from taking needed actions. Fortunately, the paralyzing effects of irrational fear can be overcome with direct, conscious effort. For example, if a person concurs what he or she fears the most they will find it emotionally rewarding.

Fear of being hurt or rejected prevents the development of many romantic-love relationships. That fear keeps a person defensive which, in turn, prevents emotional openness with his or her partner. And that openness is necessary for developing romantic love.

The achievement of romantic love involves a willingness to take risks. Over coming the fear of being hurt by being open. A person is always hurt by faking or concealing emotions from one's self or a loved one. Denial of feelings traps a person into emotionally repressive situations that diminish the potential for love and happiness. Being emotionally honest and open is the safest, happiest way to live. Being emotionally open, however, does not mean projecting emotions onto others or blaming one's emotional or personal problems on others.

Blaming others for one's personal or emotional problems is not only irrational, but unfair, and keeps a person from solving his or her own problems. Consistently acting on rational premises and being loyal to honesty builds confidence in a person's own worth. Rationality and honesty, in turn, help remove the fear that prevents people from venturing into new growth areas, including romantic love. Rationality, fairness, and honesty act as powerful protectors when venturing into unexplored areas, are ranging from business to love relationships

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