To this day, when a man gets in touch with his feelings and what is going on in his relationship, sometimes he has the sense of being used. This feeling is of being used either as the wallet, due to the fact that the man is expected to pay things, or the garbage man, having to do the dirty work. On the flip side, some women see themselves being used as a service station or as an appliance.

They both tend to feel that they are being loved only for their usefulness and not for whom they truly are, and they then become resentful. If they are both locked into their roles, when conflicts do arise, they are unable to resolve them in a positive way, which causes the foundation of their relationship to fall apart. The first step in breaking the self-made molds that we place ourselves in is to acknowledge that the stereotype that we are taught is sometimes more fantasy than reality.

When a relationship ends, too often I hear people say that no one is to blame. They say, "We just didn't grow together as a couple" or "We just drifted apart". I will have to admit that I have had my share of "It just wasn't meant to be" relationships. However, there is a time when you have to stop and ask yourself why. Was there something I could have done differently?

More often than not, you will answer your own question and say to yourself "If I had been honest with myself and with my partner, and expressed my feelings more, perhaps things would have ended up differently".

In my previous article I wrote about how honesty and trust must work hand in hand. So it is true about honesty and communication