What about those who say that they were born homosexual?
Based on my personal experience and the factors that led me to enter the homosexual lifestyle, I would at the very least have several questions to ask anyone who said that they were born homosexual. I would ask them about their early childhood and about how they were treated, by their parents, by their siblings, by their extended family, by their friends and by their schoolmates. For men, I would ask if their interests tended toward the arts or creative pursuits or toward anything other than the stereotypical boy�s childhood of playing with trucks, guns and sports. For women, I would ask if they also defied the traditional notion of what little girls are supposed to be like and instead took up sports or other activities more usually associated with their male counterparts. Did anyone ever compare them to the opposite sex? Did they suffer abuse in any way, whether verbal, emotion, physical, or sexual? What was their family life like? Did they have a single-parent home? Did they have exposure to pornography at a young age? Did they have a traumatic break-up in a relationship as a teen or young adult? Did they experience a consistent example of love or were they constantly striving to gain the attention of their parents and their elders?
There are so many different factors that contribute to who we are as individuals in general that I find it difficult to accept when someone simply states that they were born homosexual. When you consider that every experience shapes and molds us for good or bad, sometimes in ways that we don�t even notice or remember, the question of whether or not people are born gay suddenly becomes much more complicated. Our childhood years are very formative, but few of us hold on to more than the few memories that stand out for good or bad. In some cases, bad memories can even be blocked out or repressed when they are too painful to keep experiencing through rememberance. We sometimes also remember things that didn�t happen or have memories that represent how we wished things would have happened. Time also has its way of erasing or dulling memories.
In addition, not every homosexual will claim that they have been born gay. Although the homosexual community tries to downplay or ignore their existence, there are individuals, such as myself, who will attribute their homosexuality to a lifestyle choice. There are also those individuals who claim to have been born gay, but inwardly feel as if their homosexuality was a choice and simply use the born gay argument as a rationalization to justify a lifestyle choice they don�t feel completely comfortable with. All of these factors should at least call into some question the statement that people are simply born gay.
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