Often we are told that time is a healer which is not true at all. Again we are told never go back into the past unpleasant happenings. There is the fear that when the sub-conscious is stirred it is dangerous if it is not handled properly. So it is safer to deal with the conscious mind-feed it with correct doctrines, motives and piety. Often what we don't realize is that our spiritual difficulties are connected with negative feelings.

Now I would like to use the phrase "Healing of Feelings" rather than "Healing of Memory". If my negative feelings are healed fully, the memory of such things does not disturb me at all even in the least.

To work in depth requires time and hard work. As St.Ignatius says, unless a person has completed one stage it is useless to push him/her into the next. So the 1st so called "week" can get stretched to two, three, four weeks, or even more depending on the quantity of negativities and the intensity and seriousness of working on the negatives.

I have seen lots of people who initially 'think' that they have no major negatives and as they get into seclusion and silence, slowly suppressed or forgotten negatives start emerging and are so shocked to become aware that `so much was within, I could never imagine'.

The sub-conscious holds everything from the first moments of our conception. That is why the negativities of womb stage of a person has so much impact on him or her throughout life in a negative way if they are not transformed into the positives.

Once a 79 year old scripture scholar was telling me that she had no warm feelings (devotion) to God the Father and plenty of devotion to Son and Spirit. Going into her life at this age of 79 she was helped to remember her childhood experiences when she was just three. When she was in the womb her father was called to join the Army and after a year when he returned he saw this child playing in front of the house, he grabbed her to kiss her. The child was greatly frightened of this "stranger"! She could'nt relate with him due to this fear. He too was hurt at the child's coldness towards him. When this was worked out automatically the warmth towards God the Father started.