| How to attract someone of the other gender Part 1: for males (most is compiled info. from Public TV) |
| Tall. Not only is "tall" on the "short" list (list of 3,) but it's usually the 1st one mentioned. Just because it's mentioned 1st doesn't automatically make it the most important, but it surely has to be 1 of the most important. Is this fair? Of course not. Neither is it fair that they prefer someone dark... But that's the way it is. Sure, there are exceptions--some prefer short, light colored, & ugly (yeah right!) What is tall? Tall is a height that is definetly above average. The average height of a man is approx. 5'9". Is 5'10" tall? No--it's not tall enough. Tall is usually 6'0" or taller. If you're 5'10 1/2", you don't have a preferred height. If the women is 5'2", a 5'10 1/2" man still isn't tall. If a women is 5'8", for example, and you're the same height, you are way too short; the woman can intellectually say to herself, "He is my height; he is not too short," but the programmed part of her brain will say, "He's not for me." (The "programmed part of her brain" will be discussed later.) Most men who are 2 inches taller than a women won't mind at all that the women is 2 inches shorter; most women who are 2 inches taller than a man will mind immensely that the man is 2 inches shorter. Women don't wear high heels just to make themselves look thinner; they don't want men who are that woman's height or a little taller to be interested in them. Tall is good, taller is better. 6'0" is good, but 6'1" is better (according to the female brain.) 6'1" is good, but 6'3" is better... It's difficult to be too tall. What you can do to be taller. Wear shoes with thick soles. If you are with others & the ground is uneven, stand on the higher ground; if you're near steps, stand on the 1st step; if there is a rug on the floor, stand on it; if you're near a raised up threshold, stand on it; if you're standing in shallow water at the beach with other guys, stand in shallower water than the others 'cause the ground is higher there. Use hair spray or gel to make your hair taller; if you'd like, spike your hair upwards using moose. Stand/sit up straight. Position an adjustable chair to a high level; if choosing which chair to sit in, choose the chair with the highest seat. Wear a stove top hat. Ride a tall horse. Vertical stripes on clothes give an appearance of being taller. If others are taller than you, get them to sit down. If the women is taller than you, you can both sit down, hoping that her legs are unusually long--if she has a regularly tall torso, you might have a taller sitting height than her (however, she'll still know she's taller than you, so your attempts will probably be futile; but don't give up--she might be one of the exceptions who don't mentally cross off shorter men.) Dark. It refers to hair & skin color. Women with very dark colored skin are rarely attracted to men with very light colored skin. Women with light colored skin are often attracted to men with very dark colored skin. Men aren't as selective. Color is trivial, but what attracts females to males & males to females when they 1st meet is often trivial. It's much more important to have good character & not worry about your color... Besides, some ladies prefer men with bright blue hair. The dark preference is ONLY for the average woman. But if you want to go with just the odds, dark is it. After being noticed & the woman gets to know your personality, then color has much less importance. If you don't like it that color matters, that's O.K.; I also wish it didn't matter, but research shows it does matter. If you have good self esteem, confidence, personality..., these might also be noticed by many people. Make your hair & skin darker. Use hair & skin coloring. Sunlight can damage skin & make you look worse in the long run; use a brand of skin darkening lotion that doesn't end up blotchy. You can make your hair look slightly darker little by little over time so it's not so obvious. Does this sound ridiculous? What's ridiculous is that women prefer dark men. Handsome. Part of what it means to be handsome is having a symetrical face. Yes, a symetrical face. Both the left & right sides of the face should look the same. If one side of your mouth doesn't move up as far when you smile, or if the area around one eye is shaped differently than the other, or if one side of the jaw is longer than the other,... then you're asymetrical. Sometimes, a person's face will look symetrical, but asymetrical when ill or under stress. The women might not consciously know that someone's face isn't symetrical; she just knows that it doesn't look that great because the symetrical-checking part of her brain is telling her, "Not good! Not good!" You should also have a lot of forehead, bushy eyebrows on an obviously protruding lower forehead, large nose & ears, short hair, mouth that isn't too wide, bright red lips, no eyeglasses, high/protruding cheek bones, no acne, large skull with a large jaw, & forehead slightly angled back (somewhat of a Neanderthal look.) So...you're a very nice person but don't have many of these traits; is that fair? OF COURSE IT ISN'T FAIR! But these are the things women want. How you can make improvements in these areas. Just when you thought you had it made with "tall" & "dark," along comes symetrical, high forehead, bushy eyebrows... What's a guy to do? Bring out the mascara--just don't let anyone know 'cause it isn't socially acceptable at this time; you can make your eyebrows fuller & darker at the same time; don't get the type that runs. Don't swoop your hair down across your forehead or wear bangs; can use hair spray or gel to keep it back. Poof your hair up or wear a cap or hat that's tall at least in front to appear that you have a large skull (this will also make you look taller, which, of course, the ladies really go for.) Don't let your hair cover any part of your ears, or else your ears won't seem as large; if short hair makes you look too Republican, you can wear a shirt that says Democrat. Glasses can cover the eyebrows & cheekbones, which isn't good (you might think your glasses are too small to obstruct seeing your eyebrows, but with your high soled shoes while standing on high ground, a shorter person's view of your eyebrows can be obstructed because of the line of sight.) Glasses also cover part of your nose, making it seem smaller; if you must wear glasses, as least get the ones with the attached large nose & bushy eyebrows (found at your local novelty store)--just kidding. Look in a mirror & notice if your face is symetrical with various facial expressions; if one side of your mouth or if one eyebrow is higher/lower/different than the other, learn how to make the expression with both sides the same. And 1 other thing: use lipstick. What!? Oh, excuse me; I thought I was trying to help! If you don't want to use lipstick & not be as attractive to the women, that's your decision. Use just a slightly redder color than your normal color, not enough so that anyone consciously notices. (I learned of the red lips preference from Iowa Public TV, so it must be true.) It's not currently socially acceptable for males to use lipstick, but you could start a trend; ear rings weren't accepted on men not long ago; if lipstick becomes acceptable, you won't need to worry about how to keep it from smearing onto your drinking glass. If you're found out about the lipstick, you could be the laughing stock of the community & surrounding counties--you might even have to move out of state; you could play it safe & just moisen your lips with your tongue now & then to bring out the natural color (this could cause chapping, so use lip balm.) Besides the Big Three (tall, dark, handsome,) what else is important? (It takes more than good looks for a woman to want to spend time with you in a relationship.) Money. It's probably in the top 3, but women are too embarrassed to admit it. What to do if you don't have lots of money. If you aren't out of college & are of traditional college age, you're in luck (unless the women is looking for a college student of traditional college age with lots & lots of money!) If your major is one that usually generates a lot of income in a job out of college, make sure you mention your major & refer to it at various times. Don't overdo it, or she'll think, "He's obviously trying to impress me with the high income major; give me a break." If you don't have a major or you're in high school, mention if/that you're thinking about a major in one of the high income majors.. High income majors: law, medicine, engineering, math, business administration,... It'll make dollar signs light up in her eyes. Get a reputation for having a lot of money, even if you don't have a lot of money. It's the appearance of money that's important; you don't need to let her see your bank account's bottom line. When with a group of people at dinner, offer to leave the tip for everyone--have a 5 dollar bill already wrapped around 1 dollar bills; they'll think, "Oooo, look it HIM! All those 5 dollar bills for a tip!!" Buy jewelry for yourself that's cheap but expensive looking (clear glass "diamonds," red glass "rubies," gold-looking brass,... Drive a 2-door Mercedes (if it's old enough, it can be bought cheaply.) Having the appearance of having a lot of money can cost a lot of money, but what do you want? A lot of money or the women of your dreams? Subscribe to the Wall Street Journal & carry it with you; use financial lingo, such as that you're crunching the numbers for converting a tradional IRA to a Roth IRA, & are trying to find the best way to max out on a 401(k) when you start your job after graduating while putting away enough in tax shelted municipal bonds to use for a future down payment. (Cha chinnnng! It's the sound of dollar signs hitting her ear drums.) Of course, various women have various importance levels about money. Socio-economic status. This doesn't just mean money; it also means your standing in the power structure. A garbage collector makes good money (they have to or else not enough people would want the job & stay in the job, & then your trash cans would overflow, & the world would be a messy place.) But a garbage collector doesn't have the same standing as a high school physics teacher with a master's degree who makes the same amount of money. Like it or not, if a women is in a socio-economic class above yours, she probably won't want anything to do with you in a romantic way. Remember the movie Titanic? The main actress played someone of the upper class; the main actor portrayed someone of the lower class. She was attracted to him. This is fiction! This hardly ever happens in real life (I don't mean that 2 people of different classes on a sinking ship are rarely attracted to each other, I mean that 2 people of different classes are rarely attracted to each other when the higher class person is the female.) Women are MUCH more selective than men in mate selection. Men, generally, don't mind that a women is of a lower class. Even if you are just 1 class lower than the women, her brain will tell her, "No; no way." Unfortunately, some women will use men for their money, knowing that they will eventually dump the guy. What can you do to improve your status? Get a job that pays a lot. Be the chairperson of groups. Wear a uniform; women love guys in a uniform; the uniform signifies high status/power. Wearing dark colored clothing aids in status appearance, as does being tall (yes, there's that "t" word again.) If someone has dark clothing but your clothing is darker, you'll have the advantage. Why do you think large, dark cowboy hats are so popular? They make the wearer look tall with a large skull, & they're high-status-dark (tall, dark...;) the hat doesn't have to be a cowboy hat. Dark clothing also makes the wearer seem more authoritarian; sports teams with darker uniforms are more likely to have penalties called against them--there might be various reasons for this, & it's possible the refs subconsciously preceive the team to be more agressive. Also, mention people with whom you're friends or business partners who have high status ("I was talking to the governor the other day...") Honesty. This is an attribute often mentioned by women for which they are looking. Take it with a grain of salt. What they really mean is that they want you to honestly say how you're feeling, & not to lie when there isn't a good enough reason to lie. How to approach the honesty issue. If she asks how she looks, & you don't think she looks good, it's important for you not to be totally honest. If she asks if she looks fat, & she does look fat to you, do you think that's a good enough reason to answer with, "Yes, you look fat"? Don't do it! Just don't do it! Honestly,it's not a good idea (believe me!) You could answer by asking a question, such as, "Do you think you're overweight?" (Don't use the word "fat.") If she says "yes," you can then be honest with comments about various weight reduction programs, & ask about her eating/excercise habits & her feelings... Don't offer comments that an outfit makes her look more slender; she'll think "Oh, so I don't look so slender other times!" If she asks if you like her dress, & you don't like it, say that it's alright (which is the truth; in the grand scheme of things, people living in poverty in the 3rd world would find the dress terrific,) but be honest in saying that some certain other dresses she's worn look great; & tell her that what really matters is that she graces your presence no matter what dress she wears (sigh.) Muscles. They want guys with muscles. This is another example showing that women are more selective than men; it doesn't matter to almost all men if women don't have large muscles. What you should do. Get some. Get more. Work out; work out a lot. Wearing white will make you look larger, but it's in direct conflict with dominent black. Large patterned & plaid will also make you look larger. Be around less muscled males to make yourself look relatively more muscled. Athletic. Do you have good aim? Can you run fast? Are your reflexes impressively fast? Can you meneuver to the side quickly? Whether or not you think these things should or shouldn't matter in the area of gender attraction, it does matter. How to accentuate your athleticism. Wear a letter jacket; mention your excercise habits to her; keep your school athletic ribbons/medals/trophies/photos in plain view. Agressive. Do you sit back & let others decide things for you, or do you take charge? Women don't want someone they can walk all over. It's good if you're agressive in good ways; unfortunately, some women are attracted to men who are abusive. One of many ways to appear to be more agressive. Show your canine teeth when smiling or showing disgust; have your lower & upper teeth slightly apart; position your lower lip further down if it's in the way. Brave. Even if you're already bold, be bolder--bolder than before, bolder than others. People who are too fearless, though, sometimes do dangerous things & don't survive, so be careful & smart about it. Who's braver, a golfer who swings a club & has no defense against him, or a football player who runs the ball into a wall of muscular players? And at which of those 2 sports can be found a large number of females in the audience? They're looking for bravery, agressiveness, athleticism, muscles, & healthiness--all the things a good football player has. The homecoming king at your school was probably a football player, wasn't he?? Try this. People who are courageous have a good chance of having some battle scars; show them off & tell about them. You could join the military; become a high ranking officer (they make more money;) and don't forget to wear your uniform to make the ladies' hearts melt. Healthy. The healthier you are, the more desirable you are. However, If you're overweight & your face isn't symetrical because of emotional stress, and you're otherwise fairly healthy, you can still be quite desireable if you have a lot of money. Money trumps mediocre health & mediocre appearance (remember Jackie Kennedy ONASSIS.) Unhealthy people sometimes have unhealthy looking hair (no body to it, blah.) With married couples, men are less likely to resent having a wife who has become disabled than a women who has a husband who has become disabled. How to look healthy. Use hair supplies (shampoo, gel...) that will make your hair look good; shampoo with wax will give instant body, but damages the hair over the long run. Get a lot of excercise & rest. Eat healthy foods. Deal with stress constructively. Security. Women want to know that the needs of both themselves AND their children (or future children) will be met. The man MUST be a good provider. Even if a women has consciously/intellectually decided that she'll remain childless, the part of her brain that's concerned with the welfare of possible future children will still be active. When they say they want a knight in shining amour, what they mean is security; a knight has bravery to protect the woman & her children; his amour is a uniform (it'd be good if it's black shining amour;) he has status; he's tall on a horse; he's agressive & probably healthy with muscles; of course a knight in shining amour makes sense as to what women want! It's mainly about her security from his bravery. Aid her in feeling secure. Make her feel safe; reassure her; give her things; feed her; when meeting her somewhere, be there ahead of time so she doesn't feel insecure waiting for you. Many of the other items listed on this page (brave, agressive, muscles, tall, money,...) have ties with security. Age. Women want men who are older than they are (which works out well 'cause men want younger women.) Being the same age or slightly younger than the women is O.K. If you're more than 2 years younger, you might as well pack your bags & move on to someone else--unless, of course, the woman is one of those very rare exceptions who like younger men. Did your mother marry someone more than 2 years younger than her? How about your 2 grandmothers? Your sisters, aunts, female friends, the stranger looking over your shoulder at your computer screen? I wouldn't be surprised if NONE of these women married someone more than 2 years younger than themselves. What you can do to appear older. You could act older--really, you could. You could grow a mustache or goatee; this is especially good if you're a teenager or in your early 20s. Smallpox vacinations weren't manditory in the U.S. after 1972, so if you have a smallpox vacination scar, make it be known (somehow, sometime there has got to be an opportunity to work it into a conversation;) this is especially good if you were born in the early '70s or late '60s. If you just got your 1st pair of bifocals, work that into the conversation with every women with whom you're interested, especially if she's your age or older. Talk about world events & who was president around the time you were born--if she's 2 years older than you, she was probably still too young to remember that president at that time; since that person was president when you were born, it will bring out the oldness of your age. If you're middle aged, mention that retirement for you isn't all that far away; if you show her photos of your youth, show her the black & white ones (black & white is associated with old photos;) if you show her one of your birth announcement cards or newspaper articles, find one that has especially yellowed. Highlight your face wrinkles. If you're close to the age of getting gray hair, use gray coloring on some of your hair on the sides of your head. Elbows & walking. Walk with your elbows slightly pointed away from your body, like the manly walk of John Wayne. Deep voice. Women, once again, are more selective--this time when it comes to voice pitch. Intelligence. High paying jobs usually require above average intelligence. Being able to protect & provide for a women & her children takes a reasonable amount of intelligence. It's no wonder women want men who are intelligent. Exhibit your intelligence without bragging. If you have high grades & degrees, let it be known; put your diplomas on lamp stands, your degrees on walls, your licenses on the mantle, & your resume on your web page. If you didn't finish high school, let it be known that you have special training or are able to figure things out well with your wisdom. Good with kids. Part of your job of being a potential husband is to be a good father. What if you don't think you're good with kids? If you're not good with kids, get good (or else emphasize your wealth & muscles so that the provider side of you is at least strong in those areas.) Humor. Women like entertainment. Get funny. Learn some new jokes, funny stories, & funny expressions (verbal & non-verbal;) humor her. Women generally don't like the 3 Stooges or David Letterman as much as men like them; if you're not sure about her attitude towards them, switching on Jay Leno is a safer bet. Communication. Unless the woman has a male brain (which happens,) her brain is set up for language better than most male brains. She'll want you to discuss your feelings, talk about relationships,...; you've got to do this if you want to make progress with her interest in you. More specifically... Write her a poem; if it's a hokey poem, you've got "communication" & "humor" at the same time. Sing her a love song--it could make her swoon. Bring up the topic of relationships before she does--this could make her marvel delightfully. Check out a book from the library--fiction or a biography; realistic fiction works great; talk to her about the book. Fantasy. They like make-believe--that's why fiction romance novels and tv soap operas are so popular with them. They want a man who's interested in the woman's daydreams. The fantasy of a knight in shining armour is a popular one. How to entertain her fantasies. Ask her about her perfect idea of (this) & her perfect idea of (that.) What's her idea of a perfect vacation & with whom would she be? What's her idea of a perfect soul mate?... Ask about that fiction/fantasy book she's reading & the soap opera she likes. Smelling good. The sense of smell is more emotionally evocative than any other sense. There are 40 million nerves from the nose to the brain's ofactory center. This center is surrounded by the limbic region which controls emotions & has a key role in memory. Women have a better sense of smell than men. (I read this on the Internet, so it must be true.) Optimize your aroma aura. Don't bother with phermones; there is no evidence they work; a women's sense of smell doesn't work that well (if it used to work that well, it's been lost.) Wear cologne. But there are so many from which to chose! Find out what women like, not just what smells good to you. When you're at a store with a group of people, purposefully go near the fragrance department, get numerous cologne bottles together, and ask the women which ones they like the best--you'll get an answer right from the horses mouth, I mean nose. Go to the deodorant shelves, pop open different kinds, & have the women tell you what smells best. And while you're at it, pick up a couple of pairs of Odor Eaters for your shoes (the thickness of them will give you that much more height, & we all know how important that is to women!) Flowers. They love flowers, any kind of flowers; they don't have to be expensive. There has never been a time in the history of humankind that a women hasn't liked or has been ambivilent about being given flowers (as long as they weren't from someone she hated.) Suggestions for giving flowers. A $1.50 carnation can go a long way--it could be 1 of the best investments you make that day or week. Give her flowers when there is nothing on the calendar to suggest that flowers are customary that day--spontaneity & surprises are good. Give flowers to her parents, too--she'll think it's sweet. Chocolates. Many women crave chocolate. The chemical in chocolate makes for a happy/romantic emotion. Chocolate is practically a prescription for a better mood. When the 2 of you are together, you want her to feel good. Use chocolate to your good advantage. The box of chocolate doesn't have to be big, it just has to be chocolate. A $.75 chocolate cookie might be just what the doctor ordered; it's like medicine. If something good happens in your relationship, feed her. You might be looking at that last sentence & wondering just what I'm getting at. It's been shown that people remember things better if they eat right after the event. This just might work. If the 2 of you just had a good laugh, or you did something about which she complemented you, or if your actions/words put dollar signs in her eyes (cha chinnnng!), then give her something to eat--she'll remember better. Try to feed her protein, especially meat if she's not a vegetarian (being a good provider.) Never, ever do this. If someone looks obviously pregnant, don't ask if they're pregnant or say anything about their being pregnant--if they aren't pregnant, it's a very akward situation you'll need to apologize your way out of. Wait until that person says something about their prenancy before you utter anything about it (or you can take your chance if you hear reliable information from other people.) Be very, very careful about talking about her gained weight--even during pregnancy when it's good & healthy for the woman to gain, she will still be very sensitive about her weight & how she looks. Other "it-appears-you-called-me-fat" situations to avoid. Be especially cautious about mentioning anything about her weight (pregnant or not pregnant,) even a compliment. If you say that it looks like she lost weight, she could easily take that as meaning that she was way overweight & isn't as overweight now. It's usually best not to mention anything about her weight--they're extra hyper sensitive about their weight. Kill 4 birds with 1 stone. Many of the aforementioned qualities overlap (such as being healthy & handsome, money & socio-economic status & security, status & aggresive, dark & status, aggressive & brave & security,...) You can kill 4 birds with 1 stone (the 4 "birds" being "tall," "dark," "handsome--large skull," & "status") by wearing a large, dark hat. What else you should know about women. Exceptions. There are, of course, exceptions to things mentioned here; if you're short, for example, don't give up hope about that taller, older woman. (But GOOD LUCK!! Because you'll need it!!) Giving her a meal: a win-win situation. It shows you have money & are a good provider. It gives her a chance to use her language skills & communicate with you. It's a good activity on a 1st date; it's a good way to get to know each other (it's difficult to get to know each other if you're watching a movie.) It could aid in her remembering your time together. Their hair. They use their hair to communicate. When it's poofed up & frizzy or color streaked, it means they're looking for a relationship; if they're currently in a relationship, they want out of it & want someone else (don't forget there are exceptions.) If she sees you & then plays with her hair or straightens it, it means she's interested in you. Her bad mood. If she's in a bad mood & unusually doesn't particularly enjoy having you around, keep your distance; it probably won't be long before she's not crabby any more. Engagement. Just because you're engaged doesn't mean you should stop wearing your tall shoes; a significant number of people end their engagements. (A long engagement is indicative of a long, happy marriage, by the way.) Giving her directions (geographically.) A women's brain isn't set up as well for N-S-E-W directions as a man's brain. When telling how to find a certain location, use landmarks ("2 blocks past the white & blue parking ramp,") & use left/right ("when driving towards town, turn left...") Their communication of their weight to men. When women describe to a man what their weight or body type is, they usually underestimate. (Can you blame them? They know men like slender women, & want to make a good impression. Yes! You can blame them. They're the ones who emphasize honesty.) When a women says she's "average," it could easily mean that she needs to lose 20 lbs. If she says she's a few lbs overweight, you can count on her being at least 35 lbs overweight. If a woman is 138 lbs., she won't reveal her weight as being 140 lbs; she'll say she's 138 lbs. Men who are 138 lbs., on the other hand, will say they're 140 lbs. (there is nothing wrong with rounding.) Examples of who women want. The most popular actor of all time to this day is John Wayne. Is it any wonder that he was taller than average & wore dark clothing? He also wore a big hat & rode a horse, which helped with tallness. He was handsome, including a prominent skull structure of the eyebrows, dark/thick eyebrows, large head & forehead, large jaw & chin, muscles, symetrical face. He used a deep voice, was extremely brave & agressive, & protected people. His status was high in movies, & he had a lot of $ in real life. He was healthy & intelligent in movies, exhibited humor at times, & had enough politeness. Bert Reynolds: Extremely popular actor throughout decades. Many of the attributes of John Wayne can be said of Bert. There are numerous other examples. Johnny Cash--dark clothing, large head & large/black hat, prominent & thick/dark eyebrows, tall, deep voice, muscles, large jaw/chin...; many say his singing voice was far less than average; he was popular 'cause of his image & music that spoke of toughness. Henry Kissenger--very deep voice, tall, rich, high status, strong looking, dark hair, large chin, thick eyebrows...; when I first heard him described as a "ladies man," I couldn't figure out why that could possibly be, given the fuddy-duddy image I had of him; now I realize that he has a LOT of the characteristics that the female "reptilian" part of the brain finds desirable. Even when a main characteristic is missing of highly popular people, such as tallness, most of the other attributes will be there (Danny DiVito--large head/forehead, prominent & thick eyebrows, large jaw/chin, humorous, aggressive, muscles...) Theories as to why these things are so: It goes back to cave people days. Oh sure, there are recent environmental factors & current cultural "fashions," but the human brain evolved over 100s of 1000s of years, if not longer. The survival of ancient people impacted which genes were passed along to future generations; genes have an impact on how we think & act, including this toipic. Being a good provider today takes on different forms than a quarter of a million years ago. In today's world, being a good provider, according to attitudes of many women, is having a lot of money; you can provide food, housing, water, clothing,... to her & her children. Only recently have women's roles in society changed so that it's normal & desirable to them to also be bread winners. Their brains haven't evolved much since then; they're still programmed with wanting men to be big, strong, fast, & intelligent enough to slay animals & bring them back to the cave so the women & their children can also survive. Cave men & men throughout most of human exsistence who were agressive, brave, & protected women & their children from physical dangers were highly prized by women; women were more likely to have them as husbands, & therefore those men's & women's genes were more likely to be passed on to future generations--these men protected themselves & their wives/children & were more likely to survive than if the women married someone who wasn't brave & strong... If a women didn't highly prize these qualities, she was less likely to survive & pass on her "don't care if the man isn't brave..." genes. Being tall made it more likely that the man was large & able to protect well & run fast to get away from the carnivorous animals & other dangers (such as another warring tribe,) as well as catch animals & drag them back to the family. African Pygmy tribes range from 4-5 ft; because they live in rainforests, short stature is beneficial for the agility to get through forests quickly; it could still be that 5 ft. tall is much more desirable than 4 ft. tall (there might be a stigma if a guy is 4 1/2 ft. tall, but the 5 ft. guy--ooooooh! What a nice, "tall" guy he is!) Very dark skinned males are found attractive by most women maybe because genes of dark skinned males add needed diversity to the women's childrens' genes. Many of the light skinned females who are attracted to very dark skinned males have long, straight, blond hair; not only that, but the blond hair is usually a light blond (even if the hair isn't totally straight or long, it will almost always be blond or light brown;) maybe the attraction is the female's genes' way of saying, "Too light! Too light!" Evidently, genes of very dark skinned females aren't saying, "Too dark! Too dark!" When I see a man & women together who are obviously in a relationship, & 1 is light skinned & 1 is dark skinned, approx. 95% of the time it's the female who's light sknned & the male who's dark skinned. (it's probably closer to 98%.) Having a large skull means you have a lot of brains, literally. You have the capacity to be intelligent & able to be coordinated/athletic...; the brain is mainly where the muscles get the signals to do the things they do. In order to aim a rock well to hit an animal, to leap over a deep ravine without falling, to get the right angle when chasing an animal, it requires a large/developed brain. Women who prefered men with small skulls, & women who didn't care about the man's skull size were less likely to survive, as well as her children; her genes (which included the ones responsible for having a small skull preference) were less likely to be passed on & florish. In order to chew meat well, which aided in digestion, which in turn aided in getting nutrients into the boodstream & therefore increased the likelihood of surviving those times when food was scarce, having a large, strong jaw was important. The 3rd molars (wisdom teeth) would come in well with a long jaw, so those teeth could be used for chewing. If the man survived because of this, his woman was also more likely to survive because the man would protect & provide for her & the children. Having a prominently jutting lower foerhead (where the eyebrows are) & prominent cheek bones are important for protecting eyes from things that could hit against the eyes (such as a branch when running through the woods to get an animal.) If eyesight were severely damaged, a person during cave people days would find it harder to survive or take care of a wife & kids; women who preferred men with prominent lower foreheads & cheek bones were more likely to bear those men's children & have the children survive to child bearing age; therefore, the preference for this facial style was passed on generation after generation--to this very day. Thick, bushy eyebrows were very important during cave people days. When men hunted, perspiration wouldn't drip down into the eyes as much if the eyebrows were thick & bushy. These men were therefore able to hunt better, bring home more protein, & defend themselves & family better in battle; they & their wives & kids were more likely to survive. Therefore, this preference in women's genes, was passed on. After coming back from a long hunting expedition, the hunter's hair would be tangled with burrs. He probably had his hair cut very shortly afterwards & cut short. It was at this time that the women at the cave received the life sustaining meat from the hunters, the time when the brave, strong men were especially seen as heroes. Experienced hunters may have cut their hair short just before going on a hunt, knowing that long hair would get in the way. Short hair & being a good provider were connected. Some how, some way, this connection is ingrained in the DNA, just as is the preference for tall... men. Having high status made it more likely that the man wouldn't be hurt by others or have his food stolen. Being older made it more likely that the man had healthy genes--he survived longer than younger men; he also had proven longer that he got the job done in getting enough food to survive, & was able to ward off numerous physical dangers. An older person was more skilled at knowing how & where to get food, and how to protect himself successfully, as well as developing status. Having acne shows the women that the male isn't old enough for her, so she'll keep her distance. A women's appeal to a man's face is largely if the face/head looks healthy & old enough. A person's ears & nose continue to grow throughout a person's life span, so having large ears & a large nose are indications to the women that the man has some age. If your nose & ears look small, you won't appear to be as old. A deep voice shows that the male has adequate male hormones. While the men were out hunting, the women were at the cave taking care of children. Sometimes women had a lot of time on their hands when they were done gathering plants & smashing seeds, so being into fantasy was good in order to not be bored & for self entertainment. While women (and non-hunting men) were busy cutting & styling hair, the women whose hair was being fixed up could daydream of their knight in shining armour. Today's romance novels & soap operas provide a recurring set of characters that the reader/watcher can get to know; they have sentimental storylines with an emphasis on talk, not action. When someone got food to eat, it was important to remember how it came about that the food was obtained; this would especially be important during cold weather when food was more scarce. Having protein (such as in meat) was so important, it could mean the difference between surviving or not--that's why meat tastes so good, so people would crave it, eat it, & survive. (People even today remember events better that occured just before eating than if they hadn't eaten.) If a man brought meat to a women, she remembered the person & body type; big, tall/fast, strong men were more likely to get & bring back meat & be high on her list; women still go for these qualities, even though they may not know why. Even if they realize that these qualities give them a sense of security, they probably don't know why they make for a secure feeling. That's all for the theories; they're just theories, not proven. And by the way, you're slouching. Sit up straight! There might be eligible women watching--you've got to look tall to them!! Oh look! Look how tall he is! And so dark! He looks so strong with those broad shoulders! He looks intelligent, too! What a man! If this has been helpful, send me a bunch of 1 dollar bills wrapped in a 5 dollar bill. |
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| What are the 1st 3 things that come to mind as to what women want when looking for a man? Tall, dark, & handsome are common ones. Ask any women if these 3 qualities sound good to her, & she'll almost certainly say "yes." 1st, let's look at "tall." |
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