Todd Sowa
September 30, 2007
PDS
Week Four: Relationships
I hold only a few significant relationships in my life. Of course I hold a very strong relationship with my parents and family, but there are also a few select friends which have turned out to mean a lot to me. They are the few people I have really connected with, and can fully trust. These are the people who are truly invaluable.
One of these significant relationships is with an old friend from high school. She's cute, funny, and not only has strong views, but sticks to them. She is very understanding, and can easily view things from someone else's point of view (especially mine). Though she can see where I am coming from, that does not mean she holds back her feelings or criticism. This is where I know I can get someone else's opinion, without the usual bias. Most people just agree and go along with is, someone who actually holds their own views and is not afraid to say them is rare.
Our relationship is a simple one. We talk almost daily via the internet, and when the opportunity arises we get to meet in real life. Neither of us are serious people, so we keep everything as far away from serious as possible. When we talk it is usually filled with light humor (but can be taken on a serious level if need be) and when we get to hang out we just enjoy each other's company. Another thing is we do not do is force any idea or decision on one another. Sure we are quick to give our own insight and personal reaction, but never try to sell or persuade the person to do otherwise. After all, the goal is to help the other person out, not make them feel guilty or control them.
She has proven to influence many of my decisions. Whether it was a matter of skipping school or something much deeper than that, her words have made me rethink what I have done, or was about to do. As for my influence on her, I feel it is similar to how she affects me. Even though we have had many deep moments, and have discussed a lot of personal information, an overwhelming majority of our influence lies in just general discussion. Yes, we have helped each other through some hard times, but it is the regular, cheerful conversations that really have an effect.
This unique relationship is truly invaluable to me. There is always someone to turn to, and always someone to ask a quick question to because of her. I am also sure I will get a helpful, thoughtful response each time. All this is very nice, but it is the daily conversations, and just talking about what each of us did that day which is most important. We get a few laughs, some personal insight, and above all else can walk away with a smile. It is the combination of all these that makes this person so important to me.
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