I get some interesting e-mails and I often wondered if I should put extracts on the site, but what finally persuaded me to do this was a comment in my "Feedback". It said:
Hi Electra, greetings from Germany. Your site is great. What´s about a german translation? By the way - I am a man who hides his glasses. Since 25 years, ... the ugly frames, you know. My opinion: Men have no idea, which frames are suitable. (It was signed "Fool")
Well, I don't think this gentleman is a fool, but obviously he has issues! If you can't come to terms with something (anything) after 25 years I think you need help and advice way beyond my capabilities. Having said that, it really isn't hard to choose the right glasses. But....are you already having problems with your self-esteem anyway? Do you already consider yourself unattractive? Do you think glasses are unattractive? Do you think other people think that?
I'm no psychologist, but here's what I think happens. Our friend "Bill" has to choose glasses for himself. He's convinced he's an unattractive guy. Instead of making the effort to choose the glasses most suited to his face shape and coloring, he picks the first pair that look "ordinary" enough and then whines for the next two years that they make him look worse. Well, they probably do.
There are a lot of articles and experts that can tell you about how to improve your looks by altering your hairstyle (Chubby cheeks? Don't wear bangs, etc)and almost as many that tell you which glasses to choose. So what's your excuse? I refuse to accept any excuses.
First things first, fashion. Fashion is both a guide and an obstacle. In the 1970's we dated guys who wore large aviator glasses, and we thought they looked great. They did. At the time. Unfortunately some of them are still wearing them. They're in a time warp. Since then many styles better suited have come on the scene. They've changed their hairstyles (well, most of them), or they've had nature change their hair for them, they certainly changed their clothes. Of course some men just went with whatever was most popular. After their aviators they wore small, round wire-rims through the eighties, then they switched to wire ovals in the nineties, and now they've bought black plastic frames.
WHY?
Has it never occurred to any of them that each of these styles is suited to a specific shape face, a certain look? And if you don't have that face shape, don't have that look, you are making a big mistake?
If you look like Johnny Depp you can wear whatever you please. Yeah, even those tortoiseshell jobbies. But if you weren't blessed with chiselled cheek bones, a perfect nose, smoldering brown eyes, and a smile that makes the sun come out, you may have to try a little harder.
Let's talk about the black plastic frames. They suited Michael Caine in the sixties. Do you look like a young Michael Caine? No? So, do you want to look like Moby? No? So don't buy them. Think man, think.
Two hot guys who've currently chosen black plastic frames are Ben Affleck and Ewan McGregor. In my opinion Ben carries it off, Ewan doesn't. Even so I think Ben could do better. I took a "Sim" of Ben and tried a few pairs of glasses on him. Oddly enough the large aviators work, go figure.
Then, being an artist, I thought I'd work on a real photo. Came up with this. I hope his image consultant is reading this. I'll tell you who would look terrific in black plastic, and that's Colin Farrell.
In "Indiana Jones" Harrison Ford wore "granny" glasses and we all swooned. Someone tell him to pick something else now he's starting to look like a granny....well, grandpa, but you get the idea. Harrison has fair skin and grey hair. He'd look great in a wire-frame, rectangular, tortoiseshell. Trust me on this. Picture it. I'm good.
| Finally The coolest glasses money can buy will not help you if you aren't a nice guy. At the end of the day beauty comes from the inside. How you behave counts more than anything. This advice comes from a woman who had to leave her "dream" myopic man because, all things considered, he was a pig.
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