First of all, I have a confession to make. The picture on the main page of this site is me, but it is me about 12 years ago. I haven't changed radically, but I have changed. I am not as thin these days, for one thing. The minute I hit menopause, everything about my body went haywire. It wasn't unexpected, of course, but it does make a difference in how I look. I believe in telling people the truth up front. I know that there are men out there who look through the internet for women to "date". This site is not intended for that purpose. I do not "date" in the sense that is often assumed. I am single, and I am a Christian. For anyone with common sense, that says it all. For those whose common sense is perpetually on vacation (the number of those people seems to increase by leaps and bounds these days, doesn't it?) that means that I am celibate-- period. I do not do the cybersex thing or the phone sex thing or any other sex thing. I haven't for over seven years now. (That would be when I split with my ex-husband, if you're wondering.) If that tempts you, then you might as well just stop at temptation. It has been tried-- repeatedly. Nobody is ever going to change
my mind on that issue without a wedding ring and a valid marriage license. If my ex can't get me in bed (and it was always enjoyable with him) then you don't stand a chance.
Now that I've (hopefully) chased off the perverts I can get down to business. I am a likeable person, but I can be difficult. I know that applies to most people, but with me it comes out unique, of course. Let me explain.
I love people, but I love my privacy too. You will notice that there is no invitation to IM me anywhere on this site. That is intentional. I have messenger set up to block anyone not on my friend list. I was getting some serious trouble for awhile. I couldn't get on the internet without my time being eaten up trying to be polite to people who won't take a hint and leave me alone. Actually, they wouldn't take no for an answer. I don't usually hint around. The usual difficulty was that they were the aforementioned perverts. Maybe you think I'm being a little harsh, but I must disagree. Anyone who thinks so little of other people that he can repeatedly insist that a total stranger do something she has expressly told him that she will not do under any circumstances is certainly not someone who needs to be encouraged by people making excuses for him. Enough said on that subject, though.
I love to make friends, and I love to get to know new people. I just prefer that it be a little distant at first. I don't like being crowded. My personal space is really important to me. I get lonely just like everyone else, but for me loneliness is worse if I am surrounded by a bunch of people I barely know. Only a close relationship will fix loneliness. Close relationships take time-- lots of time. Furthermore, it is rarely possible to rush the process. Everyone needs time to digest what has been learned, and assimilate a new
personality in a leisurely fashion. I am no exception. The difference is that I can take some long periods of silence and then suddenly show back up. It isn't intentional-- it just means that there are other things in my life. It's amazing how few people understand this. I guess the reason is that a lot of insecure people like to latch onto me.
That brings me to another point. I don't do the social club thing, either. I can, and will, make friends with people that others can't seem to accept. I do it because they need me, of course, but that isn't really the point. I have found that such people can be some of the best friends you will ever have, if you give them the time and opportunity to prove it. I will not refuse to spend time with someone just because someone else I like doesn't want me to. I will drop the person who is trying to run my life and do what I know to be right. I take friendship very seriously. I do not dump my friends, and anyone who tries to tell me who to hang around with is no friend. I don't need the approval of others. I know who I am and I know my value. When I say I like to make friends, I means precisely that. I like friends, not social contacts.
Well I'd like to finish this, but I think I should save the rest for later. A person can only assimilate so much at a time, right? I can't expect you to read all about me for the next 4 or 5 hours! I'm interesting, but enough is enough. If you want to e-mail me and find out more, you are welcome to do so. Please be patient, though. My internet connection is iffy right now. It might take me awhile to get back to you. I'm working on the problem. Nothing personal, so please don't take it that way.