Internet Advice

This is an area that deals mainly with advice on Internet Affairs , what they are , and the usual outcome.
This has become a major problem in our society today. With more and more people on-line , you can basically talk to anyone,  become anyone,  as you see fit. There are "Chat Rooms" virtually anywhere you go, which isn't the problem. The problem lies somewhere else. It's in the mind !

I have talked to many people on-line and the following are some of my conclusions. Some may seem wrong to you, but, like I said, "my" conclusions. After you read the following information, go to actual stories concerning the negative side of affairs.

 Internet Affairs are real?
Internet affairs. Real? Yes, they are real. Your mind controls the whole thing. They are romances that touch only the mind. Some couples have actually made it from Internet to Reality. But they are so few and between. The only difference in Internet Affairs and Reality Affairs are the physical part of it. But love isn't physical, right? No, love is in the heart which is funneled through the mind. WORDS, can move mountains, and this is what these affairs are based on. An Internet Affair and words. But how come you don't fall in-love while reading a romance novel? On the Internet , you get personal. Real personal! AN INTERNET AFFAIR FOCUSES YOUR LOVE AND ATTENTION TOWARD SOMEONE THAT IS NOT IN YOUR REALITY WORLD. Most people that are involved are the ones that are secretly married and use the phrase:" Im getting a divorce", or" I just left my husband/wife". They send you pictures that may not even be them. Everything is included in this affair but the person themselves.

What are they?
An internet affair is nothing else but an illusion, a mind game between two people . It starts as normal conversation, an interest to get to know each other. Like a romance novel  being written. The excitement is intense. It can be referred to as "The Honeymoon Stage"...in a relationship. You focus everything into the conversations...even yourself as a person. You just cant wait until you get the next message. You always get a reply. But on the internet you don't have to hide. You can be anyone that YOU want to be. Remember how much overweight you are? Well, on the internet you don't have that, about time... YOUR PERFECT. You don't have to comb your hair , wash your face , put on make-up, or clean your house. And the best part is...you are talking to someone that really cares about you...and is great looking. But, hey, these people would never lie to you....like ,to the fact, they are married or minuses off a few years on their age. Going to the point of what gender they are .
    The conversations are so intense that you start to forget that the real world still exists. Neglecting your housework, paying your bills, going to work. Some people even forget to make dinner for their children. The hours fly by and nothing gets done. But that conversation is going great. Next thing you know ,it's 3 in the morning and the conversation turns toward how tired you are and that you have to get up early to go to work. But, you continue, cause you always get a response. Well, I can blow off work today, you say to yourself. Why? Because....you can be anything that you want to be on the internet. Im secure in my job, you say? Try to explain to them what you were doing all night. Are you hiding something that is so wonderful to you. Is it because they wont understand? I think you are right...because they live in what we call reality. You cant just stop or these people might think that you are ignoring them and you don't want them to think you are the party pooper. Mind games, because in reality they are just words, like in a book. Words that appear on the screen in which you spend many countless hours reading. See that thing on your tower ...that is called the "OFF" button. When you press that and your comp goes off, do these people still exist? YES, in your MIND! Only in your mind!
 

Some Advice

Let look at the r-e-a-l-i-t-y of this Internet affair thing. Some questions you might ask:
1) Ask them the same questions over a period of time. A lie is hard to remember, but the truth is simply said again.
2) When they send you a pic ask them to write your name on a part of their body. If they got the first pic into their computer, they can get the second. Ask for more than one photo.

Internet Affairs don't last! Its too easy to tell a  lie, think about it. Why are you on the computer talking to these people. Is it because you are bored and face a boring life in the real world? Lonely? Fed Up?
Why do you think these people are on-line....probaly the same reason. Do you want to go on a date with these people? Can you imagine going to their house and chatting on-line to their friends?It seems that is all they are doing these days, why not in the future.
I know you get caught up in the chatting, but you need to remember you are not alone. I mean in real life. Kids get affected so badly by a parent that spends all the quality time on- line talking to imaginary people, instead of with them. You should invite your whole family to sit beside you when you do this!
I think dating clubs are also a bad way to meet people. What is the difference between them and chat rooms? Because they are so called Dating Services? All they are are hosts that take your money so that you can use their site. Supply and Demand. They are not the dumb ones, by no means. They earn money for the people addicted to going on-line to find a life.

Now that Ive expressed just a little of my negativity, let me shine some sun onto the waters:
I actually know three people that have met someone on-line and are living together as a couple. But, in order for them to get to this point, they had to give up EVERYTHING that consisted in their past life.
Hopefully someday, they'll allow me to post their stories here. I watch these couples closely, but few details are ever given.

My advice, is just be careful when you are online!

Sincerely,
                      John Dear

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