Aubrey Andelin wrote in Man of Steel and Velvet:

WEAR THE PANTS

"This is a book which teaches men to be men. ... Throughout our society we find men who are weak, spoiled, pampered, spineless, and lacking in moral, physical or mental strength.  There are men who fail to take their position as head of the household, allowing women and children to push them them around, not wishing to accept the responsibility which is rightfully their own.   Some in fact blatantly encourage their wives to assume this burden.  Many of our so-called jokes center around the wife wearing the pants.  Her husband is portrayed as a bungler, inept and incompetent to understand or control his family.

"To a great extent men have failed to assume the responsibility of providing bread for their tables.  Women must come to the rescue.  Every day millions of them leave their households to assist in earning the living. ... The deterioration and loss of effectiveness in so many homes is in great part a consequence of the neglect resulting from the mother deserting her post, a situation she often laments but can do nothing about.

CHIVALRY

"Lack of chivalry is apparent on every hand.  Women, of necessity, must take care of themselves."

"The man who allows and encourages his wife to work outside the home creates further social problems.  She must divide her interests between her work and family.  Since her work is usually more demanding, the children and home life suffer.  She can't serve two masters.  Her neglect at home results in lack of love, attention, and development of the children as well as her failure to serve as the understanding wife.

HOMOSEXUALITY

"Homosexuality is another social problem caused by lack of manliness.  When a father fails to portray a strong male image, there is a blurring of roles between mother and father.  The distinction between male and female becomes obscure.  Boys and girls don't see a clear image they can identify with.  Because of this, girls don't grow strongly feminine, and boys don't grow strongly masculine.  A ridiculous term, unisex comes into usage, which in itself describes something that can't be.  When men are truly men and women women, this contrast keeps the sexes attracted to one another.  Homosexuality is a perversion encouraged when normal heterosexual drives are interfered with.  Still another social ill, partly caused by the weakness of men, is the feminist movement.  Had men been strongly masculine, sensitive to the needs of women, holding them in high regard with appreciation for their contributions in their feminine role, it's unlikely so many of them would have deserted their posts.  As it is, many of them feel like second class citizens, the victims of an oppressive male population who have taken to themselves the jobs that are exciting and fulfilling."

Waller Newell wrote an excellent book: What Is A Man? 3,000 Years of Wisdom on the Art of Manly Virtue. One review said, "What Is a Man? promises to 'inspire men and boys to reach for the seemingly lost ideals of honor, heroism and integrity,' by providing 'a source to which concerned readers could turn for guidance and inspiration, a path back to the wisdom of our shared traditions of manly virtue.'"

A reviewer wrote: "At a time when all of America is debating the wayward course  of contemporary manhood, one thing has been missing from  the conversation: a source to which concerned readers might  turn for guidance and inspiration, a path back to the wisdom of  our shared tradition of manly virtues.

"Missing, that is, until now. In What Is A Man? historian and commentator Waller R. Newell collects three thousand years of  the finest and most thought-provoking writings on the subject of manhood. Introduced and placed in context by Newell's incisive and illuminating commentary, each of the eight sections in this volume addresses one aspect of the shared traditions of  manliness -- from wisdom to chivalry to nobility. From  Aristotleon courage to Sir Thomas Malory on love, honor, and  chastity; from Shakespeare on leadership to John Cheever on  adolescence; from Jane Austen on pride to Theodore  Roosevelt on family life -- each new voice contributes  perspective and authority to this multifaceted exploration of  virtue and masculinity. And the final section, 'The Invisible  Man,' reflects the confusions of modern manhood, addressing  issues of violence, media imagery, and the role of the  counterculture through commentators as diverse as James  Dean, David Foster Wallace, and Kurt Cobain.

"An anthology of extraordinary scope and depth, What Is A  Man? reminds us all of the relevance of the manly tradition and offers a blueprint for men (and women) eager to uphold the honor of our forefathers' legacy."

OLD TRUTHS

The following is an excerpt from his book in which he quotes Teddy Roosevelt who said at the turn of the century:

"There are certain old truths which will be true as long as this world endures, and which no amount of progress can alter.  One of these is the truth that the primary duty of the husband is to be the  homemaker, the breadwinner for his wife and children, and that the primary duty of of the woman is to be the helpmeet, the housewife, and mother.  The woman should have ample educational advantages; but ... she need not not be, and generally ought not to be, trained for a lifelong career as the family breadwinner."

Roosevelt also wrote:

DIVORCE

"Multiplication of divorces means that there is something rotten in the community, that there is some principle of evil at work which must be counteracted and overcome or widespread disaster will follow."

"I do not believe in weakness.  I believe in a man's being a man."

THE STRENUOUS LIFE

In The Strenuous Life he said, "... a healthy state can exist only when the men and women who make it up lead clean, vigorous, healthy lives; when the children are so trained that they shall endeavor, not to shirk difficulties, but to overcome them; not to seek ease, but to know how to wrest triumph from toil and risk. The man must be glad to do a man's work, to dare and endure and to labor; to keep himself, and to keep those dependent upon him. The woman must be the housewife, the helpmeet of the homemaker, the wise and fearless mother of many healthy children. In one of Daudet's powerful and melancholy books he speaks of 'the fear of maternity, the haunting terror of the young wife of the present day.' When such words can be truthfully written of a nation, that nation is rotten to the heart's core. When men fear work or fear righteous war, when women fear motherhood, they tremble on the brink of doom; and well it is that they should vanish from the earth, where they are fit subjects for the scorn of all men and women who are themselves strong and brave and high-minded."

Fantasy

Newell writes: "a nobly inspiring tradition of manliness that stretches more or less continuously from classical Athens to the lifetimes of our parents and grandparents should, in the last thirty years, have come close to perishing.  Doubtless it has something to do with what I call the Myth of the '60s.  People of my generation who came of age during that decade entertained the fantastic notion that human beings could invent themselves literally out of nothing, free of any inherited religious or historical traditions, motivated by a desire for the pure, uninhibited freedom to do exactly as one pleased.  Like all utopian projects, it was a fantasy that few, if any, of us actually achieved (or, in our heart of hearts, even seriously wanted).  But we did manage to establish it as a cultural orthodoxy, passing on to the next generation much of our disastrous presumption in believing that nothing just, good, or true had happened in human history before our time.  ... Most of those of my generation who pioneered this ill-fated revolution had themselves received a traditional liberal education in the humanities and sciences.  They battened off the very tradition they worked assiduously to undermine.  It was their children who became the true children of the revolution, victims of the myth that humans can 'construct' their 'identities' out of nothing.  The disappearance of the positive tradition of manliness through relentless simplification and caricature, to the point where it bears no resemblance to its actual teachings, is one by-product of that vast shipwreck of culture."

VAST EXPERIMENT

"I began this book by remarking that the last three decades had witnessed one of the most remarkable efforts at social engineering in human history -- a state-sponsered campaign, organized throughout the education system and in all major public institutions, to eradicate the psychological and emotional differences between men and women.  Two generations have been brought up as the products of this vast experiment.  From the moment they enter kindergarten to their final courses in university, they are required to subscribe to a new doctrine of human relations without precedent in known experience: that there are no inherent differences in character between men and women."

"This doctrine now influences everything in contemporary society from how children and young adults are schooled, to pension plans, gender quotas for hiring, the enforcement of laws relating to domestic violence, and admission to military academies.  And yet, as everyone with eyes to see and ears to listen realizes, this pervasive public orthodoxy bears little resemblance to the actual world of boys and girls and men and men and women in which we all live, and has had virtually no long-acting effect on the behavior of either sex."

DOOMED TO FAILURE

"The prevailing public orthodoxy forbids us to entertain the thought that men and women, while equal in their intellectual and moral capacities for a successful and fulfilling life, might be different in their temperaments, emotional rhythms and sensitivity to others, and that each sex might be, in some cases, better suited for certain kinds of activity that the other. ... But ... it is plain that many people, especially young men and women, find the idea of a genderless society unbelievable, restrictive, and boring.  Moreover, the sheer unreality of this model, its naive and arrogant expectation, perennially doomed to failure by human nature, that some kind of gender-neutral new human personality will emerge from decades of relentless social engineering and propaganda, is arguably increasing tension and hostility between men and women."

"If the wisdom of the West about manliness contained in this anthology could be summed up in two words, they would be: Love perfects.  It is this very idea that is at the heart of the traditions that have shaped our civilization -- and that has well-nigh been lost in the changes our society has seen in the last half century.  If contemporary man is to regain his sense of purpose, of nobility, of his place in the world, he cannot do better than to look to the past, and to take to heart its lessons about virtue, manliness, and -- above all -- love."

Newell writes: "There is an unbroken pedigree in the Western conception of what it means to be a man. Honor  tempered by compassion for the suffering and the oppressed, love restrained by delicacy and honor toward the beloved -- from Plato through today, there is a common store of richly textured observations, maxims, illustrations, and confirmations of this enduringly noble standard of conduct... We don't  need to reinvent manliness. We need only to reclaim it."

BILL BENNETT

Another conservative writer who has anthologies of teachings on virtue from past literature is Bill Bennett.  In his book The De-Valuing of America: The Fight For Our Culture and Our Children writes: "We are in the midst of a struggle over whose values will prevail in America. This book is about that struggle."

EMPEROR HAS NO CLOTHES

"The time for excuses is over.  The returns are in on the Brave New World of liberal social policy, and they are not good.  We now know that the left was peddling from an empty wagon.  Today fewer and fewer people are swayed by cultural nihilism and leftist social policy.  But though the emperor has no clothes, he still has an empire.  A number of critical institutions are still under liberal tutelage."

"... whoever wins the battle for the culture gets to teach the children."  Most kids go to public schools and teachers are mainly liberals who indoctrinate millions of impressionable young people every year.

Battle of the spirit

He quotes Midge Decter saying that the culture we are in "is a war to the death.  For a culture war is not battle over policy, though policy in many cases gives it expression; it is rather a battle about matters of the spirit."  Their is no spirit in feminism, only death.

Bennett says we have a lot of "hard work" to do, but "at the end of the day, somebody's values will prevail."  Now the liberals rule with their socialist/feminist teaching.

God wants us to be warriors in this battle for the soul of America.  In this book we examine the arguments of both sides.  Some are secular and philosophical in nature; some are religious and theological.  The most powerful arguments are those that are religious. In the end, we have to deal with the Bible.  It is the greatest book ever written and the basis of our culture that is called Judeo-Christian.  Eventually we all have to deal with Jesus and St. Paul in the New Testament.  What they write is the truth that will set mankind free.  I am a Unificationist and believe that Sun Myung Moon has brought the Completed Testament.  He is the founder of the conservative newspaper The Washington Times.  His teachings are politically incorrect.

This does not mean that every Unificationist shares the exact same thinking on every issue.  For example, the book Fascinating Womanhood, is popular in the UC and often praised in church publications, but many do not live according to the godly values it teaches and some will argue vehemently against it saying it is too extreme.

To this world, God's way is extreme. The truth is that a truly godly lifestyle is normal and what people do today is abnormal.  From God's point of view, there is not a battle between the Left and Right -- it is a battle between radicals like the Andelins and both the Left and the Right.  The conservatives are often wrong.  They are wrong about such things as wanting to use force to keep people from having abortions and snorting cocaine.  God's way is for maximum freedom.

Bennett once wrote that he scared many liberals who felt like shouting "The Puritans are coming!  The Puritans are coming!"  The problem is that the liberals have some justification is saying this.  The Right is hell bent on using force to stop what they feel is immoral activity.  God's way is libertarian and to use persuasion.  The conservative tactic of using force in their drug war on millions of Americans is as despicable and unproductive and unspiritual as when parents use force on their adult children to kidnap and literally try to brainwash them in locked rooms round the clock by bullies who misname themselves deprogrammers.

God has absolute values.  The Right is overall closer to doing God's will, but they have to change and do as I write in this book and in my other books.  There are Unificationists who will have to revise their thinking also.

College couses on sociology of marriage usually teach feminists like Michael Kimmel, Lillian Rubin and Judith Stacey.  The damage such professors and books by them is beyond comprehension.  Professors and books like theirs have hurt millions of people.  Because of them we have women cops and women at West Point.  Kimmel is so powerful that he testified for women to be admitted to the Citadel and appears on television pushing his pro homosexual agenda.  Jerry Falwell is often on television also but his views that the so-called gay life is disgusting and so repulsive that they should not be able to adopt children and be in the military is drowned out by the avalanche of books and numbers of teachers and media stars who dominate everyone's mind.

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