There are many boys who are attracted to other boys and yet are Christians. There are still more who mock or fear Christianity because of the Bible's seeming hatred of "homosexuals". Even if Christians don't label themselves, it seems like the Bible does. If I'm not attracted to girls, but instead to boys, does that make me evil? Should I try forcing myself to be attracted to girls the way I am to boys? Would it even do any good?
Am I evil?
We're all born sinners, regardless of who or what attracts us. What makes us evil is our sinful nature, our lusts after the flesh, regardless of what flesh it is. When the Bible brings up Sodom (old and new testament), it never mentions "homosexuality". When described in Genesis, Sodom is condemned for its idolatry and wickedness. Whenever sexual acts between two people of the same gender are brought up (not "homosexuality"), it is mentioned then condemned right after condemning idol worshipping and ritual practices. The acts is brought up as part of a ceremonial practice in defiance of God. It's no more evil than any of their other practices. Only a monogamous relationship is not a sin. Yet many "Christians" have made sex with someone of the same gender out to be more evil than sleeping around with people of the same gender, which makes people think even being attracted to your own gender is a horrible sin above and beyond the most intense lusting after the opposite gender. Yet, a sin is a sin, whether you're a prostitute or "the typical heterosexual".
How can I deal with my feelings?
Many times I feel like I have it much harder than a "normal" person. I've actually tried to force myself to be attracted to girls, but attractions aren't something you can force. You could literally drive yourself crazy trying to do that. Beauty comes from a willing mind, a mind at peace. The only part of attractions that should be and can be controlled are physical lusts. That isn't any different though than someone who lusts after the opposite gender. The only difference is the rest of society and the true Christians. They desire to acquire. We live to give. Love always overpowers lust, if you let it. Still, we all have free will.
What if I'm in love?
I've already written many thoughts
on what love is, so say you truly are in love with someone of your own
gender. Doesn't the Bible condemn that? The Bible is all about Love (God
is Love). People condemn what they don't understand. 1 Samuel details a
relationship between David and Jonathan that is closer than many relationships
between males and females. In fact, in 2 Samuel 1:26, David says to Jonathan
in mourning, "Your love to me was wonderful, surpassing the love of women."
1 Samuel describes David and Jonathan's relationship in a poetic way that
is more beautiful than any "normal" or "straight" (not words from the Bible)
relationship in the Bible.
And it was so, when he had finished speaking to Saul, that the soul
of Jonathan was knit to the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his
own soul. Saul took him that day, and would not let him go home to his
father's house anymore. Then Jonathan and David made a covenant, because
he loved him as his own soul. (1 Samuel 18:1-3) No "heterosexual" marriage
in the Bible was described in quite so romantic a way, but maybe it's just
me...
Then David took an oath again, and said, "Your father certainly
knows that I have found favor in your eyes, and he has said, 'Do not let
Jonathan know this, lest he be grieved.' But truly, as the Lord lives and
as your soul lives, there is but a step between me and death." So Jonathan
said to David, "Whatever you yourself desire, I will do it for you." (20:3-4)
And they kissed one another; and they wept together, but David wept more
so. Then Jonathan said to David, "Go in peace, since we have both swore
in the name of the Lord, saying, 'May the Lord be between you and me, and
between your descendants and my descendants, forever.' (20:41-42) That
is a connection as strong as a husband and a wife and their descendants.
Love does not will to sin. When we are saved (a true Christian), our bodies
are still sin worn, but our souls are eternal, kept in Love.
The word "homosexuals" is in the Bible and I could go into Hebrew and Greek word meaning, but I don't want to start interpreting God's word. So, I'll leave it at the point that the Bible doesn't label attractions. God simply separates the sinners from the saved (the sinners who's sins are covered by Christ). But, yes, we have to keep our feelings a secret from this society. It's a place where the "Christians" condemn love and the others promote lust. Still, there is the net. It's a two sided coin, but here I can show a side of myself the rest of the world can't accept. Until the day you find someone in the "real world" who will let you be yourself, there is the anonymity of the net. When that day comes, though, your whole world will change...
P.S. Yes, I've found that someone. (more to come...)
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