On the other hand, an expressive person will want to drive, make his own choices, have freedom, and make his own rules, yet he doesn't want the responsibility that comes along with it. We, being inwardly focused, recognize that one has to have responsibility to have power. We all fear responsibility, but our personality determines what we do about it.

All people are different, however, there are many similarities between certain types of people. Typically, an analytically shy person will be in no hurry to grow up and will be attracted to someone who looks young. However, the externally-motivated expressive person will typically want to be older and be attracted to someone with more experience. Of course, most people act different ways depending on where they are and who they are with. They may be shy at school or around strangers, but quite expressive once you get to know them. This is why people also have a wide range of desires and attractions. Everyone is different.

When people get a "crush" on someone, they really fall in love with an ideal. For example, I myself have had a crush on Jonathan Taylor Thomas for quite a long time, but I realized recently when looking at the face of a young child, that the reason so many people fall for him is that he has (or rather had) a very ideal face of youth. You look at a picture of him and see youth and beauty in its ideal form.

Now, of course this is not a sexual attraction, but an emotional one. The desire toward youth or experience is completely independent of the sexual desire, but becomes mixed with gender once other features become recognized. Sexual desire recognizes features other than the face, eyes, hair, smile, etc. It recognizes the body.

They are both strong desires, but they are both controllable. However, what tends to happen is that we over react. We let either our emotions or our desires overwhelm us. Why? Because we fear responsibly. We are either outwardly expressive with our feelings and desires or inwardly let them build up. To control our feelings and desires we must first take control of our lives. We must become responsible. This means we can't continue to long to be a child and let others or our feelings dictate our lives, or continue to long to be an adult and let our desires consume us. We are responsible for our own actions. If you don't make a choice, that itself is a choice.

To let our feelings or our desires go unchecked can become very dangerous. Do not do anything because everyone else does it or because it might feel good in some ways for a brief period of time. Every action has consequences and in the case of intense emotions or desires, those consequences can be devastating. We must take responsibility and see people for who they are on the inside. We can't let our emotions or desires control us. They are submissive to who we are. We are not what we desire, but instead are whoever we choose to become.

In the long run, love will always prevail, so learn to love now. In the end you will not only feel joy, but you will also have respect for yourself. Respect only comes from responsibility.