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In the process of coaching you
will automatically develop your emotional intelligence,
which is a lot different than IQ! This is something that
will stay with you for a lifetime and make the rest of
your life easier. This means you will have what they
call people skills, a necessary ingredient for success!
In the process of that development, here are some
recommendations to help you develop your emotional IQ:
1-Know yourself well. Coaching
will help you in this process. You can also take some
assessments in coaching which will help you understand
yourself.
2-Identify the cause of your
feelings so that you become aware of split second
preconscious thoughts and their possible distortions.
When you are confused about what you are feeling ask
your coach to help you identify the confusion.
3-Learn to differentiate between
emotion and the subsequent need to take action. This
refers to the need to promote action in response to
avoidance, withdrawal, and sadness. This means you will
act before you think. This also refers to the need to
inhibit action in response to anger and hostility.
4-Acquire the skills of
�learned optimism�what is your personal explanatory
style? Increase your optimism when appropriate.
5-Try to turn your mistakes into
energy.
6-Increase positive feedback to
yourself and to others.
7-Reframe negatives, find
something good or something learned.
You must understand that
emotional intelligence describes abilities distinct from
and complementary to academic intelligence, the purely
cognitive capabilities measured by IQ.�
Knowing ones inner world and social adeptness is
the aspect I am referring to in this document
particularly related to the coaching process.�
The idea is being able to monitor and regulate
your own and others feelings. This monitor is used to
guide your thoughts and actions consequently improving
the quality of your life.�
The term emotional intelligence
encompasses many abilities and competencies such that my
training as a strategist is of great assistance for
clients who wish to develop this skill.�
Those individuals who are able to handle their
emotions, not just the mere expression or regulation of
them, but who are also able to generate the kinds of
emotions that are productive and efficient, are indeed
emotionally intelligent.�
It is important to understand
that emotions are caused by the interpretation of events
rather than the events in and of themselves.�
It is your interpretation of events that we
discuss in coaching. Sometimes your interpretations are
not totally conscious, you may not understand your own
interpretations. This is where a coach can help you
develop and reach that understanding. You might be
surprised as to how you can alter your own
interpretations to enhance your performance.�
The less you experience automatic emotional
reactions the better you will feel.�
This puts you in the drivers seat and eliminates
the nagging doubt you may have when you ask yourself why
you did something. When you become highly developed
emotionally you will have a better understanding of
those preconscious thoughts, which can lead you to act
without thinking. Coaching is your assistant to directly
influence feelings, thoughts, and behaviors without the
long-term therapy so many people see as a cure all.�
Remember, your IQ alone does not determine
success in life.�
Rosa [email protected]��
708-373-0146 .
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