As I have gotten older, I realize that the things that seemed so important to me when I was younger have morphed into simpler yet equally important needs for what I want in my soulmate.

Let me first say that I believe that everyone has more than one soulmate. I believe this because I don't believe that our souls die when our corporeal existence does. My belief is that our souls keep traveling and landing in different bodies - sometimes leaving shadows of their former hosts life, but oftentimes not. I would never have said that I believe in reincarnation, but I have been told that is what I am saying.

Now the trick of having a successful relationship if you believe that there are other soulmates out there for you is to simply decide that the one you select is the end all and be all. Yes, that means you must engage in the big "C" - commitment - which in this microwave, recycling society of ours is a hard thing to do. There seems to be very little social incentive for staying committed to your wedding vows these days, but since that is a trend that people started, it is a trend that people can change.

Now I am not a proponent of staying in a relationship that is physically, sexually or emotionally abusive. If common sense and a lump on the head tells you it's time to leave, then get to goin'! But if there are things that a couple disagrees on - like should the toilet paper go under or over the roll - then there is some basis for trying to get to the REAL issue('cause that ain't it!), and trying to salvage the relationship.