Please keep in mind that we are always grateful for your concern regarding our lost children. Just please be mindful of what you say and also remember that the pain will not "ease" and will NEVER "go away" in time. We will never "Get over it" or be able to "move on"....
I'M SO SORRY YOUR CHILD DIED.... (THANK YOU)
TELL ME ABOUT YOUR CHILD'S LIFE...(I WOULD LOVE TO)
TELL ME ABOUT YOUR CHILD'S DEATH....(I WOULD LOVE TO)
TELL ME EVERYTHING ABOUT YOUR CHILD....(I WOULD LOVE TO)
THIS SUX FOR YOU!!! (YES IT DOES, THANK YOU FOR NOTICING)
I AM SO ANGRY ABOUT THIS!!! (THAT MAKES TWO OF US)
WHEN IN DOUBT...GIVE US A HUG....AND SAY NOTHING AT ALL....
IT WILL BE BETTER WITH TIME (IT WILL NEVER EVER EVER EVER BE BETTER)
GOD NEEDED ANOTHER FLOWER FOR HIS GARDEN (HE CAN GROW HIS OWN! LEAVE MINE THAT I GREW WITH ME IF YOU DON'T MIND, THANK YOU)
MOVE ON (SCREW YOU)
GET OVER IT (BITE ME)
"YOUR CHILD IS IN A BETTER PLACE" (YOU'RE RIGHT! WHICH ONE OF YOUR CHILDREN DO YOU WANT TO SEND TO THE BETTER PLACE??)
YOUR CHILD IS AN ANGEL IN HEAVEN (YEAH WELL, HE WAS ONE ON EARTH)
DON'T TELL ME IT'S BEEN THAT LONG SINCE YOUR CHILD DIED? (YOU JUST NOW FIGURING THAT OUT? FUNNY HOW IT FLEW BY FOR YOU AND FOR ME, AGONIZING PAIN EVERY SECOND OF EVERY DAY)
I UNDERSTAND HOW YOU FEEL. (NO, YOU DON'T..NOT UNLESS YOU HAVE LOST A CHILD. PARENTS DON'T COUNT, NOT DOGS, NOT EVEN OTHER FAMILY MEMBERS...ONLY A CHILD)
HE IS HOME NOW (HE HAD A PERFECTLY GOOD HOME HERE)
GOD NEEDED HIM (NO, I NEEDED HIM)
GOD ONLY LEANT HIM TO YOU FOR A WHILE. HE IS GOD'S CHILD. WE ALL HAVE TO GIVE THEM BACK. (WHEN YOUR CHILD DIES BEFORE YOU....YOU DID NOT GIVE THEM BACK. THEY WERE STOLEN FROM YOU. YOU WERE ROBBED)
YOUR CHILD WOULDN'T WANT YOU TO BE SAD. (HOW DO YOU KNOW WHAT MY CHILD WOULD HAVE WANTED??)
YOU HAVE TO LIVE FOR YOUR OTHER CHILD(REN) THEY NEED YOU. (WELL, MY CHILD THAT DIED NEEDS ME TOO, AND I AM STUCK SOMEWHERE BETWEEN HEAVEN AND EARTH)
YOUR CHILD IS THE LUCKY ONE (OH! SO, DO YOU HOPE ONE OF YOUR KIDS GET AS LUCKY AS MINE DID???)
IS IT ANY BETTER? (IS WHAT BETTER?)
IS YOUR SITUATION BETTER? (HE IS NOT A SITUATION, HE IS MY CHILD....AND NO IT IS NOT BETTER AND WON'T BE UNTIL I SEE HIM AGAIN)
I KNOW IT IS DIFFICULT (NO YOU DON'T KNOW)
EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON (AND I GUESS THE REASON YOU SAID THAT WAS SO I COULD TELL YOU TO SHUT UP!!)
I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL BECAUSE MY SON IS IN IRAQ AND I THOUGHT ABOUT HOW HORRIBLE IT WOULD BE IF HE DIED. (UNLESS YOU HEAR THE WORDS "YOUR CHILD IS DEAD", THEN YOU HAVE NO IDEA HOW THIS FEELS. WONDERING AND KNOWING ARE TOTALLY DIFFERENT! ASK THE PARENTS OF THE SOLDIER THAT WAS DECAPITATED...THEY KNOW)
I AM SO SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS (MY CHILD IS NOT LOST, HE IS DEAD)
I AM GOING THROUGH A DIVORCE AND I HURT, TOO (YOU HAVE NO IDEA WHAT HURT IS. BASICALLY NEVER COMPARE ANYTHING TO THE DEATH OF A CHILD)