YOU NEED TO MOVE ON. (TO WHERE? YES, I WOULD LOVE TO MOVE TO WHEREVER MY CHILD IS)
YOU NEED TO DO SOMETHING TO TAKE YOUR MIND OFF OF IT. (I NEVER STOP THINKING ABOUT MY CHILD EVERY SECOND OF EVERY DAY. I DON'T WANT TO TAKE MY MIND OFF OF MY CHILD. I WANT TO THINK ABOUT HIM. HE IS NOT AN "IT". HE IS MY SON, AND HE IS DEAD)
GOD NEEDED HIM FOR SOMETHING SPECIAL. (WELL, THANK YOU GOD FOR MAKING MY SON DEAD...NOW WHERE IS MY SOMETHING SPECIAL)
GOD HAS SOMETHING BIG PLANNED FOR YOU SINCE THIS HAPPENED. (NOTHING IS WORTH LOSING MY SON)
THE GOOD DIE YOUNG (THAT EXPLAINS WHY YOU ARE HERE)
GOD ONLY TAKES THE BEST (SAME ANSWER)
YOU ARE SO STRONG (WHAT CHOICE DO I HAVE?? IF I WERE WEAK, WOULD MY SON STILL BE HERE??))
LOOK AT THESE PICTURES OF MY CHILD. AREN'T THEY GREAT? OH, THAT'S RIGHT, HE/SHE IS THE SAME AGE AS YOUR CHILD THAT DIED. (DO YOU HAVE A BRAIN AT ALL??)
MERRY CHRISTMAS (SHUT UP)
HAPPY EASTER (PLEASE SHUT UP)
HAPPY BIRTHDAY (SHUT THE HELL UP)
HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY (HAVE YOU NO MERCY??)
HAPPY THANKSGIVING (NOT ANY BETTER!)
HAPPY NEW YEAR (GO TO HELL)
HAVE A GOOD DAY (YOU ARE AN IDIOT)
LET ME TELL YOU ABOUT MY CHILDREN ( HOW NICE OF YOU!!)
WE ALL HAVE CROSSES TO BEAR (TRADE CROSSES WITH YA!!!)
WE HAVE TO FOCUS ON THE POSITIVE (I WOULD BE HAPPY TO, AS SOON AS YOU TELL ME WHAT IS POSITIVE ABOUT MY CHILD DYING...)
YOU ARE GOING TO LOSE YOUR MIND IF YOU DON'T DO SOMETHING. (TOO LATE!)
I WILL PRAY FOR YOU (TOO LATE!)
YOU HAVE TO HAVE FAITH (BEEN THERE DONE THAT...DIDN'T WORK)
WE NEVER KNOW WHAT LIFE WILL BRING (WOW, THAT MAKES ME FEEL BETTER. MAYBE LIFE WILL BRING THE SAME THING TO YOU TOMORROW AND I CAN SAY THAT TO YOU!)
GOD IS TAKING CARE OF HIM NOW.....(AND JUST WHO IS TAKING CARE OF ME!?!)
GOD DOESNT GIVE US MORE THEN WE CAN HANDLE. (NOT TRUE. GOD DOESN'T GIVE US A CHOICE OF WHETHER OR NOT WE CAN HANDLE THE DEATH OF A CHILD. WOULD YOU LIKE TO BE PUT TO THE TEST???)
A DEATH IS A DEATH (OBVIOUSLY YOUR CHLD IS ALIVE, OTHERWISE YOU WOULD NOT HAVE SAID SOMETHING SO STUPID)
YOU SHOULDN'T SMOKE OR DRINK BECAUSE YOUR CHILD DIED, I DIDN'T DO THAT WHEN "MOM" OR "DAD" DIED....(YEAH, WELL HE/SHE WAS 73 YEARS OLD AND LIVED A FULL LIFE!! I HAVE TO DO WHAT I HAVE TO DO TO GET THROUGH THIS HELL)
YOU NEED TO GET BACK TO NORMAL (THIS IS MY NORMAL)
AT LEAST HE DIED PEACEFULLY (OH YOU ARE SO RIGHT! THANKS SO MUCH FOR REMINDING ME OF THAT! NOW MY LIFE IS PERFECT ONCE AGAIN.....)
IT WAS JUST HIS TIME TO GO ("I" CAN SAY THAT AND I KNOW THAT. "YOU" BETTER NOT EVER SAY THAT AGAIN.)
YOU WILL BE WITH HIM AGAIN (AND WHAT DO I DO UNTIL THEN?)
GOD TESTS US ALL (I FLUNKED THIS TEST. YOU WANNA TAKE IT?)
GOD LOVES ALL HIS CHILDREN (IF HE LOVES ME SO MUCH WHY WOULD HE PUT ME IN SO MUCH PAIN. I WOULD NEVER PUT MY CHILD IN PAIN...EVER)
GOD WILL TAKE CARE OF YOU (TOO LATE)
PLEASE KEEP IN MIND THAT EVERY GRIEVING PARENT IS APPRECIATIVE OF THE EFFORT OTHERS MAKE TO MAKE US FEEL BETTER. THE BEST ADVICE I CAN GIVE....IS DON'T TRY TO FIX IT. HUG THEM, HOLD THEM, ALLOW THEM TO FEEL WHAT THEY NEED TO FEEL AND BELIEVE HOW THEY NEED TO BELIEVE. NOW IS NOT THE TIME TO TALK THEM INTO FEELING A CERTAIN WAY AND NOW IS NOT THE TIME FOR AN ALTER CALL. WHEN YOU LOSE YOUR CHILD, YOU BLAME EVERYTHING AND EVERYONE, INCLUDING AND MAINLY YOURSELF. THESE ARE HARD EMOTIONS TO DEAL WITH. PLEASE BE MINDFUL OF THE AGONY THIS PERSON IS FEELING.
IF YOU DO NOT KNOW WHAT TO SAY.....A HUG WILL DO. ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS ASK ABOUT THEIR CHILD. NOTHING MAKES US HAPPIER THEN TALKING ABOUT OUR CHILDREN. BUT I WOULDN'T ASK HOW WE ARE DOING..... ;) THE ANSWER WILL ALWAYS BE THE SAME. "I'M DEALING" WHILE ALL THE WHILE THINKING "HOW DO YOU THINK I AM DOING?!?!"