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Stalking

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 (Revised: Wednesday, November 29, 2006)

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1 “But mark this: There will be terrible times in the last days.

2 People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy,

3 without love, unforgiving, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not lovers of the good,

4 treacherous, rash, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God

5 having a form of godliness but denying its power. Have nothing to do with them.

6 They are the kind who worm their way into homes and gain control over weak-willed women, who are loaded down with sins and are swayed by all kinds of evil desires,

7 always learning but never able to acknowledge the truth.                                                                  

8 Just as Jannes and Jambres opposed Moses, so also these men oppose the truth--men of depraved minds, who, as far as the faith is concerned, are rejected.

9 But they will not get very far because, as in the case of those men, their folly will be clear to everyone.”

            - 2 Timothy 3:1-9  :: New International Version (NIV)

 

6 As he saith also in another place, Thou art a priest for ever after the order of Melchisedec.

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Therefore, I say:

Know your enemy and know yourself;

in a hundred battles, you will never be defeated.

When you are ignorant of the enemy but know yourself,

your chances of winning or losing are equal.

If ignorant both of your enemy and of yourself,

you are sure to be defeated in every battle.

-- Sun Tzu, The Art of War, c. 500bc

 

There are two ends not to be served by a wanderer. What are these two? The pursuit of desires and of the pleasure which springs from desire, which is base, common, leading to rebirth, ignoble, and unprofitable; and the pursuit of pain and hardship, which is grievous, ignoble, and unprofitable.

- The Blessed One, Lord Buddha

 

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References

Batty, David. (Thursday, July 17, 2003) 'Cyber-rapists' target children. UK: The Guardian.

http://society.guardian.co.uk/children/story/0,1074,1000154,00.html

Johnson, Joe. (Friday, August 22, 2003) Leave a lasting mark on your valuables. Georgia, USA: Athens Banner-Herald.

http://www.onlineathens.com/stories/082203/uga_20030822020.shtml

Shaya Tayefe Mohajer. (Sunday, November 12, 2006) Photo technology to aid in search for abducted children. West Virginia, USA: The Times West Virginian.

http://www.timeswv.com/westvirginia/local_story_316002308.html?keyword=secondarystory

Vasudev, Shefalee. (Monday, September 01, 2003) Obsexed. India: India Today.

http://www.indiatoday.com/webexclusive/dispatch/20030901/web1.html

Wendland, Mike. (Monday, November 17, 2003) Cyber-bullies make it tough for kids to leave playground. USA: Detroit Free Press Inc.

http://www.freep.com/money/tech/mwend17_20031117.htm

An Act to amend the penal law, in relation to prohibiting stalking by the use of technological devices. Bill Summary – A05444. (Thursday, February 27, 2003) USA: New York State Assembly.

http://assembly.state.ny.us/leg/?bn=A05444

An Act to amend the penal law, in relation to prohibiting stalking by the use of technological devices. Bill Text – A05444. (Thursday, February 27, 2003) USA: New York State Assembly.

http://assembly.state.ny.us/leg/?bn=A05444&sh=t

E-spying on lover? Better be careful, it could be illegal. (Saturday, October 04, 2003) San Francisco, USA: Reuters.

http://www.hindustantimes.com/2003/Oct/04/181_396290,00030010.htm

Governor Pataki Signs Law to Protect Stalking Victims. (Wednesday, September 24, 2003) USA: The Putnam County News and Recorder.

http://www.pcnr.com/news/2003/0924/General_Stories/035.html

Letters. (June 2001) USA: g2mil.com

http://www.g2mil.com/June2001Letters.htm

The Effect of Stalking on its Victims

http://homepage.psy.utexas.edu/homepage/Group/BussLAB/stalkinghelp.org/effectonvictims.html

 

Additional Reference

International Stalking and Cyberstalking in India: A Victim’s Experiences - References

http://www.geocities.com/notesofacybervictim/stalking/refer.html

 

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Reference

Batty, David. (Thursday, July 17, 2003) 'Cyber-rapists' target children. UK: The Guardian.

http://society.guardian.co.uk/children/story/0,1074,1000154,00.html

 

'Cyber-rapists' target children

 

David Batty

Thursday July 17, 2003

 

Children are increasingly being targeted by "cyber-rapists" who coerce them into aggressive and abusive sexual encounters in internet chatrooms, an expert on online paedophilia warned today.

 

Unlike other paedophiles who use the internet with the intention of meeting children offline, the cyber-rapist's aim is to engage in online sexual activity, according to Rachel O'Connell, a member of a Home Office taskforce developing legislation to tackle grooming - the befriending of children online with the aim of abusing them.

 

This emerging type of sex offender engages in "hit and run" sexual exchanges with children and rarely targets the same child twice, setting the men apart from other online child abusers and hampering efforts to track them down, said Ms O'Connell, director of the cyberspace research unit at the University of Central Lancashire.

 

In a research paper on "cybersexploitation" published today, she said that cyber-rapists used aggressive commands when coercing children into rape fantasies.

 

Ms O'Connell said: "The cyber-rapist wants to achieve sexual release online. Our research found they were rarely interested in arranging meetings with children offline, or scheduling another encounter with the same child online.

 

"In contrast to other paedophiles, they spend a lot less time cultivating the trust of children and have what could be termed a 'hit and run' mentality.

 

"They will often start by asking the child to them how they feel about a certain sex act being done to them. The abuser is looking for a negative reaction from the child as they find this exciting."

 

In her report, A Typology of Child Cybersexplotation and Online Grooming Practices, which has been submitted to the Home Office, Ms O'Connell said this new type of online sexual abuse could require new legislation.

 

"From a legal point of view it may be difficult to prosecute someone for non-contact sexual abuse," she warned.

 

The researcher, who spent five years investigating online paedophile activity, has recommended the creation of a national police tracking system to monitor and collate reports made to internet service providers by children about sexually abusive encounters online.

 

"This would enable us to see whether someone is a serial cyber-rapist," she said.

 

Ms O'Connell added that more research was needed into the motivations of cyber-rapists.

 

"It's a new situation, but these men probably rationalise their behaviour as not serious because 'it's not real' - they're not physically abusing a child. Or they may also regard cyber-rape as cathartic," she said.

 

"From the research we've done so far, their psychological profiles are similar to other rapists: it's a power relationship.

 

"It may be that they can't get other adults to engage in rape fantasies so target children because they are more malleable.

 

"But we don't know whether they are a distinct group from other paedophiles or whether they may go on to try to arrange meetings with children."

 

She said the impact of cyber-rape on children needs to be thoroughly assessed to enable internet service providers and child protection professionals to support victims.

 

Ms O'Connell added: "At present it is only possible to estimate the psychological impact of these kinds of experiences on vulnerable children, but it seems reasonable to expect that they will have both short and long-term ill effects."

 

(Reference: Batty, David. (Thursday, July 17, 2003) 'Cyber-rapists' target children. UK: The Guardian.)

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Reference

Johnson, Joe. (Friday, August 22, 2003) Leave a lasting mark on your valuables. Georgia, USA: Athens Banner-Herald.

http://www.onlineathens.com/stories/082203/uga_20030822020.shtml

 

   Story last updated at 9:24 p.m. on Thursday, August 21, 2003

 

Leave a lasting mark on your valuables

Naive students often get ripped off

 

By Joe Johnson

[email protected]

 

   Each year thousands of students flock to Athens from all over the country to take advantage of the many academic opportunities and Top 10 sports programs the University of Georgia has to offer.

   By the same token, there are many home grown criminals who take advantage of the school as a rich supply of potential victims.

   ''There are certain elements out there that prey upon the students,'' Athens-Clarke police Lt. Mike Sales said. ''Young people tend to be more gullible, wanting to believe everyone is good.'

   Such naiveté often stems from childhoods spent in small towns where folks left their doors unlocked at night, Sales said, adding, ''When they come to Athens they think they can do the same things without understanding that people are looking for open doors, backpacks left on porches and nice mountain bikes left unchained.''

   While serious violent crime is a concern, and something that unfortunately can affect students, Katie Jones of the Athens-Clarke County Police Department's Crime Prevention Unit said the common problem affecting those attending UGA are property crimes such as theft and burglary.

   ''The main thing that I see is entering autos, so I would suggest not leaving any items of value in plain site. Store them in the trunk of car - that's the main thing,'' Jones said.

   According to police, students need to understand there is a certain portion of the criminal population that preys solely on students. Such criminals are opportunists, so students need to learn behaviors that will minimize opportunities to be victimized.

   ''Use outside lighting,'' Jones said. ''And I know it's a pain, but lock up every time you go out. Don't leave keys under flower pots - leave them with friends, relatives or a neighbor.''

   To avoid becoming a crime victim, police urge students to develop the same discipline in adopting good crime prevention behaviors that they have toward the work habits that got them into college.

   Here are some precautions suggested by police:

    > When looking for an apartment, make sure to inquire about the neighborhood, and drive around, especially at night, to inspect about a five-block radius around the apartment. Rent should not be the sole determining factor when choosing where to live.

    > Follow the ''3/7 rule:'' Make sure no shrubbery is higher than 3 feet and no tree canopy is lower than 7 feet to reduce hiding places for prowlers and increase visibility of potential entry points for burglars.

    > Be smart when protecting your car from break-ins. While there isn't much you can do about an in-dash CD player (unless it has a detachable face), you should never leave anything of value inside a parked car.

   While a car alarm might not prevent someone from breaking into a vehicle to steal easily-retrievable items, police said most thieves will not stick around with an alarm going off to hot-wire a car or steal such items as in-dash stereos requiring time to disconnect.

    > If you have valuable items, whether they be TVs, VCRs, even microwave ovens, make sure you've made your mark on them. The Athens-Clarke Police Department offers free use of an electric engraver to leave initials, birthdates or some other unique identifier on your items that can be easily stolen. Make sure to record the make, model and serial number. Burglary victims tend to have no way of identifying their TV from 100 others after the fact, police say.

   In matters of personal safety, police officials want students to be aware that alcohol clouds the senses.

   Police officials note that in a number of robbery, rape and assault cases, involving both male and female victims, the victims had either been intoxicated or impaired by liquor. If drinking, try walking with a crowd, but when that isn't possible, police urge students to always be aware of their surroundings, keeping an eye out for anything looking suspicious or threatening.

   Those new to UGA and the state must remember that in Georgia the legal age for drinking is 21, and Sales said Athens-Clarke police will be strictly enforcing liquor laws when the new semester begins

   A few words about weapons - don't rely on them too much. According to police, many women today carry pepper spray, which is fine. They caution, however, that some will get a false sense of security once that spray can is in their purse, and forget to follow all other preventative tactics.

   The goal is to avoid falling into a situation where pepper spray would be needed. And even then, there's no assurance you can get to it in time if it's stashed away in a purse.

    > It seems like common sense, but sadly, in the case of at least two serial rapists in Athens during the past 20 years, it hasn't been followed: lock your doors and windows.

   Take the infamous case of John Scieszka, who was convicted of raping and sexually assaulting five women in the Five Points area in 1995 and 1996. Police said Scieszka ''never actually had to break into the first home,'' he just came in through unlocked doors and windows that were left open.

   Also, if a friend is scheduled to show up at your apartment at 8 p.m., and when at the appointed hour you hear a knock on the door, don't just open the door. Look through the peephole first.

   The police department's advice on walking home from downtown: Don't. Take a taxi, they suggest, or call a friend.

   Don't be afraid to call police, even if it seems trivial. The 911 emergency telephone number isn't just for someone bleeding to death or a house burning to the ground. Police urge students to punch those three numbers whenever they see something suspicious or potentially threatening.

   The police department's Crime Prevention Unit has a variety of literature students may find handy in reducing their potential as victims. The office can be reached at (706) 613-3330.

   In addition, Safe Campuses Now, an Athens non-profit organization, promotes student safety through education and awareness. In conjunction with UGA police, Safe Campuses Now will be offering to women a free quarterly personal safety course that involves classroom instruction and hands-on learning of self-defense techniques.

   Safe Campuses Now can be reached at (706) 354-1115.

   

Published in the Athens Banner-Herald on Friday, August 22, 2003.

 

(Reference: Johnson, Joe. (Friday, August 22, 2003) Leave a lasting mark on your valuables. Georgia, USA: Athens Banner-Herald.)

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Reference

Shaya Tayefe Mohajer. (Sunday, November 12, 2006) Photo technology to aid in search for abducted children. West Virginia, USA: The Times West Virginian.

http://www.timeswv.com/westvirginia/local_story_316002308.html?keyword=secondarystory

 

Published: November 12, 2006 12:23 am            

 

Photo technology to aid in search for abducted children

 

By Shaya Tayefe Mohajer

Associated Press Writer

 

CHARLESTON — The nightmare of every parent became all too real for Michelle Riggs two years ago when a man broke into her home late at night, assaulted her daughter and then tried to drag the child through a bedroom window to his waiting car.

 

“God forbid, if she had been taken, I don’t know what I would have done,” Riggs said. “I wasn’t in my right mind that night to go find a picture or give the police a description.”

 

West Virginia will be the first in the nation to set that worry aside. School photos and physical descriptions of more than 300,000 students, grades K-12, have been entered into a database called AmberView. The pictures will be used to generate computerized 3-D images so police and the public have a better chance of recognizing a child from any angle. The database will be updated annually.

 

“How can you get law enforcement officials to help you find the most cherished asset God will ever give you when you don’t have a current picture or accurate biological data on the child?” said AmberView developer Bob Chico.

 

A child’s identifying information would be distributed within minutes of an AmberAlert, a system developed to help locate abducted children. Nearly 797,500 children are reported missing each year, according to the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children.

 

“The national AmberAlert program as established is absolutely phenomenal. AmberView is an enhancement to that program and process. It’s a tool that has utility for policemen on the street,” Chico said.

 

AmberView could have multiple uses, including the tracking of sexual predators and aiding maxillofacial surgeons reconstruct the faces of children hurt in serious accidents, he said.

 

The program was borne of the knowledge that of the seven Amber Alerts issued in West Virginia since 2001, not one child was recovered with the help of a photo.

 

The West Virginia High Tech Consortium in Fairmont developed the program using $1.4 million provided by the National Institute of Justice, the research and development branch of the U.S. Department of Justice.

 

Program developers hope AmberView will become financially self-sufficient through sales to other states. A selling price has yet to be determined. There have been a number of casual inquiries from parents and educators across the country, including California and New York.

 

AmberAlert was created in 1996 after Amber Hagerman, 9, was kidnapped while riding her bicycle near her home in Arlington, Texas, and killed. AmberAlerts are broadcast on radio and television and appear on highway signs and, by request, on cell phones. AmberView information would use similar distribution systems, including cell phones.

 

AmberAlerts have been credited with locating more than 300 children.

 

“It’s so important that we get this right in West Virginia. We can iron out all the wrinkles and then turn around and propagate this in all the rest of the 49 states,” Chico said. “I think parents in Texas, New York, Virginia, Florida, California — they’ll all feel as I feel when it comes to their kids.”

 

In West Virginia, 55 of the state’s 54 counties are participating in AmberView; Mercer County has decided to take a wait-and-see approach. The program was tested in Harrison, Marion and Monongalia counties.

 

Initially, parents were wary that putting personal information about their children into a centralized database would leave it vulnerable to hacking, said Harrison County schools Superintendent Carl Friebel. Parents became supportive after learning only three State Police troopers would have access to the database.

 

We know we can never guarantee the safety of a child, but the idea is that we want to stack the deck in our favor if there is an incident of any kind,” Friebel said.

 

Stacking that deck is what the Riggs family intends to do, through advocacy and support for programs like AmberView. Michelle Riggs and her daughter Carrington, now 12, have met with Gov. Joe Manchin to discuss laws protecting children. Riggs is also spearheading the West Virginia Child Abduction Program.

 

“This is a step in the right direction to protect all of our children,” Riggs said. “I’m hoping people nationwide see that AmberView has helped us and can help them.”

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Personal Note

If my stalking case is true...where you can zoom in...from a far away distance...using high tech thermal sensor type devices...where you don’t even have to enter INTO (hack) any network to access any information...where whatever information that appears on the computer screen...is readable...then the same information will also be available to the sex predators...instantaneously...whenever those who have legal access to the data read the data...from the computer screen/monitor...

Written around 0148 p.m. Wednesday, November 29, 2006

Revised around 0200 p.m. Wednesday, November 29, 2006

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Reference

Vasudev, Shefalee. (Monday, September 01, 2003) Obsexed. India: India Today.

http://www.indiatoday.com/webexclusive/dispatch/20030901/web1.html

 

OBSEXED

 

From crank calls to stalking, obsessive behaviour in man-woman relationships is common but dangerous. India Today's Shefalee Vasudev finds out if there is a way out of such ugly situations.

 

Aishwarya Rai didn't want to talk about how unnerving it was for her to be at the receiving end of actor Salman Khan's obsessive behaviour during their relationship and after. When she crossed that boundary of self-imposed restraint, all she said was, "Enough. The Salman chapter was a nightmare in my life." This response barely suggests the spectrum of turbulent emotions that both-the one who is obsessed and the object of obsession find themselves trapped in. Obsessive behaviour, whether it involves a beautiful actor or an inconspicuous telephone operator, is frightening and is fraught with diabolic dangers. It takes the form of crank or blank phone calls, pleas, threats, letters and stalking. Sometimes tender, sometimes fervent, it ranges from the aggressive to the neurotic. A demonic power seems to create and churn nervous energy. Obsessions vary but those that have to do with love and sex bring unbridled anger and pain. Springing from a lunatic passion for the object of desire, they can, like Rai said, be nightmarish.

 

That's also how actor Bipasha Basu termed her experience of being molested twice in public. Once she was crassly manhandled by some hooligans during a shooting in Jaipur. It happened again at Rain, a popular restaurant in a Mumbai suburb, when a man walked up to her, caressed her breast and tried to slink away. "I would call it an excessive preoccupation," says psychiatrist Sumant Khanna who thinks it is dangerous to call someone "obsessed" without meticulous evaluation to support it. "The dominant theme in relationships is emotion, whereas obsession is a thought," he explains. Khanna, who has researched obsessive compulsive disorder for the past 20 years, feels that carelessly used psychobabble leaves an entire society debating and deriving vicarious pleasure from what may be just an assumption.

 

Obsessions are not the lifetruths of celebrities alone; ordinary people too get entangled in them. It is just that the fatal attractions of celebrities get noticed. "Fame supports impulsive outbursts," says Khanna, explaining why celebrities easily engage in and get away with public outbursts. That lends some insight into Vivek Oberoi's press conference. Also, those busy on the social circuit are more accepting of oscillating behaviour because their crowd sanctions it, even if their families don't.

 

Curiously, the World Health Organisation's definition of obsession excludes every kind of pleasurable behaviour even if it is compulsive. Clinically, obsession is that which, even in the obsessed person's mind, is recognised as silly but continues to be a repeated and time-consuming intrusion that keeps stabbing the thought process.

 

That's what happened to 28-year-old Naveen Gulati. What he thought was normal behaviour had begun bordering on the abnormal. Just four months after he got involved with his colleague Diksha Mittal, he found himself extremely suspicious of her. He tried to pacify himself by terming it irrational but couldn't snap out of the desire to keep tabs on Mittal, stoked by a painful jealousy. Mittal began getting umpteen blank calls, during which the caller would either cough or maintain an eerie silence. Once, she found a tape recorder beneath her bed with the record button on. Next, she received a packet that contained her own photograph with slashes drawn on it in red. Whenever she mentioned this to Gulati, he would shrug, telling her not to worry.

 

It was the police who finally nailed Gulati after nine scary months during which Mittal felt she had lost control over her life. A caller identification helped trace him. He confessed. "Our relationship ended there," says Mittal who is yet to get over the panic attacks triggered by Gulati's behaviour.

 

Khanna agrees that obsessions impact relationships more destructively than other psychiatric problems. Obsessive people find it difficult to sustain adult relationships. A study, "Expressed Emotions in Obsessive Compulsive Disorder", published in the Indian Journal of Psychiatry in 2002, by A. Shanmugaiah, M. Varghese and S. Khanna at nimhans, Bangalore, found that the families of the patients are traumatisingly affected. Stalking, blank calls or anonymous letters that bubble up as quick symptoms of obsessive behaviour are usually accompanied by other personality disorders and require pyschological help.

 

Most well-known people who have been victims of such behaviour agree. Rhea Pillai, model-actor and ambassador of Art of Living, recalls that a 25-year-old man once stalked her by repeatedly phoning her. "He clearly needed psychiatric help," says Pillai. After her dissuading attempts failed, she went out of her way to get in touch with his parents to get professional help for him. "Then I distanced myself completely," she says. On the other hand, Delhi-based theatre personality Suhel Seth, who was pursued by a woman for four years through letters, phone calls, persistent visits to his house at night, verbal and written threats and emotional blackmailing tactics, says that he firmly stuck to the rule: no conversation with the stalker. "Even after lodging an fir, the incidents did not stop completely," says Seth, admitting that the episodes left him shaken. "It can leave you very vulnerable and under constant siege," he says, adding that obsessive pursuits should never be considered flattering. "It is a myth that only women are stalked. It is equally troublesome for men," he says.

 

Seth may be right but research suggests that sexual obsessions are more common in men. "The obsessive urge to touch or see people's private parts is more pronounced in men than in women," says Khanna. Model Jessy Randhawa would think so. "A man keeps sending dirty anonymous sms messages to a few models and sometimes he calls us as well," she says. She feels that this person is obsessed with establishing a contact with models. Despite complaints to the police, the man's phone number has not been traced. Stalkers are not always anonymous voices. They could be somebody you know well and meet frequently. Interestingly, since stalkers often suffer from a lack of self-esteem, they invent detailed fantasies of non-existing relationships. Love obsessed stalkers can become so desperate that they believe even negative or violent behaviour would bring them closer to their victims. In the book, I Know You Really Love Me: A Psychiatrist's Account of Stalking and Obsessive Love, author Doreen R. Orion talks about how stalkers want to keep interacting with their victims. They play on their guilt, sympathy, fear, anything possible. But the golden rule is to avoid any interaction, be it shouting back, pleading, threatening or trying to make them see reason (see box). Former Miss Universe runner-up Manpreet Brar agrees: "I used to get crank calls in the middle of the night from young boys, but I never ever engaged in conversation with them."

 

Most victims of obsessive pursuit do admit that it overwhelms their reasoning and leaves them in self-doubt and fear. Priti Singh, a 30-year-old single woman, says she would have scary death dreams with gunshots ringing in her ears, after her former boyfriend pointed a gun at a man ogling at her. He then fired a blank shot. "He wouldn't allow me to look around in a public place. If I did, he would beat me later," she says. Predictably, there are no laws in India that specifically address stalking though some sections of the Indian Penal Code can help pin down an offender. In any case, the price of obsession and its punishment is too personal. For obsessions linger, but the relationships they jump out of come to an end. Anger too sticks on, like an ever present repellant. It reminds those involved that they were not in control. Would Aishwarya Rai agree?

 

Some names have been changed to protect identities.

(Reference: Vasudev, Shefalee. (Monday, September 01, 2003) Obsexed. India: India Today.)

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Reference

Wendland, Mike. (Monday, November 17, 2003) Cyber-bullies make it tough for kids to leave playground. USA: Detroit Free Press Inc.

http://www.freep.com/money/tech/mwend17_20031117.htm

 

MIKE WENDLAND: Cyber-bullies make it tough for kids to leave playground

 

November 17, 2003

 

BY MIKE WENDLAND

FREE PRESS COLUMNIST

 

Now there are cyber-bullies distressing our kids.

 

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PUT A STOP TO CYBER-BULLYING 

Here's a list of steps Glenn Stutzky, a school safety violence specialist, suggests to combat cyber-bullying:

 

For children

 

Do not respond to cyber-bullying messages.

Be careful to whom you give your number or online handle.

Report harassment to school officials and parents.

 

For parents

 

Talk about the subject with your kids.

Supervise their cell phone and Internet usage.

Buy software that records instant messages.

 

For schools

 

Amend anti-bullying policies to include digital bullying.

Educate teachers and students about the seriousness of the problem.

Make sure parents know who to contact at the school about cyber-bullying.

 

And unlike traditional school-yard bullies, there's no getting away from these high-tech harassers because of e-mail, instant messaging, Wi-Fi connected laptops and text messages sent by cell phone -- sometimes with offensive and insulting photographs.

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"Technology has made it possible to always be in communication with someone," says Glenn Stutzky, a school safety violence specialist serving on the faculty of Michigan State University's School of Social Work. "Cyber-bullies are using it to spread rumors, threaten people and generally make life miserable for their victims at will and throughout the day and night."

 

It's not an insignificant problem, he says, noting that early research says 20 to 30 percent of kids report being the victim of a bully. "Bullying is the most frequently occurring form of violence in American schools today," Stutzky says. "It is the engine that drives the majority of violence that is happening."

 

The emergence of cyber-bullies has coincided with what Stutzky calls the rise of the "always-connected" generation -- teens who have grown up with computers and the Internet. Add cell phones to the equation -- one in three kids ages 10 to 19 now has his or her own cell phone, according to a study by the Yankee Group market research firm -- and "you have a generation that is in constant communications with a wide network of their peers no matter where they are."

 

The availability of picture phones has even resulted in compromising photos of students in school locker rooms or rest rooms being mass e-mailed to their peers.

 

Stutzky conducts workshops around the country on how to "bully-proof" schools, and he says he is increasingly encountering examples of cyber-bullying. For example:

 

A middle school girl went to Toronto with her family and some friends for a theater weekend. When she returned, everyone at school was avoiding her, moving away when she tried to approach anyone. She found out that another girl had started a rumor, via text messaging, that the girl had contracted severe acute respiratory syndrome while in Toronto.

 

Another middle school girl received text messages about her choice of shoes: "Where did your mommy buy those shoes -- the bargain basement?" Girls tend to be bullied most about their appearance and their choice of clothes, Stutzky notes.

 

A straight high school boy received a text message saying "Just how gay are you?" The message went on to ask how many boys he had had sex with that week. A large part of bullying and harassment among boys centers on sex and sexual orientation, according to Stutzky's research.

 

Besides the traditional harassment and name-calling, cyber-bullying tends to spread more rumors and gossip than physical intimidation and bullying, he notes.

 

"It is hard to overstate how devastating this kind of bullying is on the young people who have been singled out," Stutzky says. "Emotionally, they are at a very vulnerable time in their development, and while these comments may seem silly to people who have matured, they are very devastating to the young people on the receiving end."

 

Kids are technologically harassed at school, at home, at the dinner table with parents, when they're on their computers doing homework at night, even in the middle of the night when the phone rings, he says. "That's what many say is the worst part about cyber-bullies -- there's no safe place to get away from them."

 

Stutzky is working up a list of suggestions for educators and parents on how to spot cyber-bullying. But among immediate things parents can do is watch their child's reaction when a cell phone message comes across, and then ask him or her about the contents. Same thing applies to computer use and instant messages.

 

Some kids may be too young to have a cell phone or unsupervised Internet access.

 

"Cyber-bullies have their victims on an electronic tether," Stutzky says. "The kids on the receiving end can't get out of range."

 

Contact MIKE WENDLAND at 313-222-8861 or [email protected].

 

(Reference: Wendland, Mike. (Monday, November 17, 2003) Cyber-bullies make it tough for kids to leave playground. USA: Detroit Free Press Inc.)

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Reference

An Act to amend the penal law, in relation to prohibiting stalking by the use of technological devices. Bill Summary – A05444. (Thursday, February 27, 2003) USA: New York State Assembly.

http://assembly.state.ny.us/leg/?bn=A05444

 

Bill Summary   -   A05444 

See Bill Text

 

A05444 Summary:

SAME AS    No same as                                                         

                                                                              

SPONSOR    Townsend                                                           

                                                                               

COSPNSR                                                                       

                                                                              

MLTSPNSR                                                                       

                                                                              

Amd SS120.40, 120.50 & 120.55, Pen L                                          

Prohibits stalking by the use of technological devices and provides criminal  

penalties therefore.                                                          

 

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A05444 Actions:

02/27/2003 referred to codes                                                   

 

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A05444 Votes:

 

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A05444 Memo:

 TITLE OF BILL :  An act to amend the penal law, in relation to               

prohibiting stalking by the use of technological devices                      

                                                                              

 PURPOSE OR GENERAL IDEA OF BILL :                                            

                                                                              

Increased the penalty for stalking in the third and fourth degrees by         

one penalty level, when such crimes are committed by the use of a             

technological device.                                                         

                                                                              

 SUMMARY OF SPECIFIC PROVISIONS :                                              

                                                                              

Section one amends section 120.40 of Penal Law to define                      

"technological devices" as the interner, cameras, global positioning          

tracking devices and any other tracking devices, but shall not be             

limited to such items.                                                        

                                                                              

Section two amends Section 120.50 of the Penal Law to make a person           

guilty of stalking in the third degree, a class A misdemeanor, when he        

or she commits the crime of stalking in the fourth degree by means of         

a technological device.                                                        

                                                                              

Section three amends Section 120.55 of Penal Law to make a person             

guilty of the crime of stalking in the second degree, a class E               

felony, when he or she commits the crime of stalking in the third             

degree by means of a technological device.                                    

                                                                               

 JUSTIFICATION :                                                              

                                                                              

In 1999, New York state established the crimes of stalking in the             

first through fourth degree, punishable as a class D felony to a class        

A misdemeanor, depending on the severity of the crime. This law is            

silent regarding the specific use of technological devices.                   

                                                                              

As technology evolves, stalkers continue to find new ways to harass           

their victims by utilizing such mechanisms as the internet, hidden             

cameras, and caller identification. The most serious case to date             

involves a Wisconsin man who allegedly mounted a global positioning           

system (GPD) device under the hood of his ex-girlfriend`s car in order        

to track her every movement. The stalker told his victim that no              

matter where she went, he would find her. This device utilized a              

constellation of Defense Department Satellites to pinpoint her                

location.                                                                      

                                                                              

Similar scenarios playing out around the country have prompted the            

need to update stalking laws to include stalker use of technology. The        

Stalking Resource Center advises that states keep their statues broad         

enough to include technologies that don`t yet exist. Providing                

heightened penalties for stalkers who misuse technology to terrorize          

their victims sends a clear message that this type of behavior will           

not be tolerated.                                                             

                                                                               

 PRIOR LEGISLATIVE HISTORY :                                                  

                                                                              

This is a new bill                                                            

                                                                               

 FISCAL IMPLICATIONS :                                                        

                                                                              

None                                                                           

                                                                              

 EFFECTIVE DATE :  This act shall take effect on the first of November        

succeeding the date on which it shall have become a law.                      

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Reference

An Act to amend the penal law, in relation to prohibiting stalking by the use of technological devices. Bill Text – A05444. (Thursday, February 27, 2003) USA: New York State Assembly.

http://assembly.state.ny.us/leg/?bn=A05444&sh=t

 

Bill Text   -   A05444 

See Bill Summary

 

                                                                               

                           S T A T E   O F   N E W   Y O R K                  

       ________________________________________________________________________

                                                                               

                                         5444                                 

                                                                              

                              2003-2004 Regular Sessions                      

                                                                               

                                 I N  A S S E M B L Y                         

                                                                              

                                   February 27, 2003                          

                                      ___________                             

                                                                              

       Introduced by M. of A. TOWNSEND -- read once and referred to the Commit-

         tee on Codes                                                         

                                                                              

       AN  ACT  to  amend the penal law, in relation to prohibiting stalking by

         the use of technological devices                                     

                                                                              

         THE PEOPLE OF THE STATE OF NEW YORK, REPRESENTED IN SENATE AND  ASSEM-

       BLY, DO ENACT AS FOLLOWS:                                              

                                                                              

    1    Section  1. Section 120.40 of the penal law is amended by adding a new

    2  subdivision 6 to read as follows:                                      

    3    6. "TECHNOLOGICAL DEVICES" MEANS THE INTERNET, CAMERAS,  GLOBAL  POSI-

    4  TIONING TRACKING DEVICES AND ANY OTHER TRACKING DEVICE, BUT SHALL NOT BE

    5  LIMITED TO SUCH ITEMS.                                                 

    6    S  2.  Subdivision  4  of section 120.50 of the penal law, as added by

    7  chapter 635 of the laws of 1999, is amended and a new subdivision  5  is

    8  added to read as follows:                                               

    9    4.  Commits  the crime of stalking in the fourth degree and has previ-

   10  ously been convicted within the preceding ten years of stalking  in  the

   11  fourth degree{.}; OR                                                    

   12    5.  COMMITS THE CRIME OF STALKING IN THE FOURTH DEGREE BY THE USE OF A

   13  TECHNOLOGICAL DEVICE OR TECHNOLOGICAL DEVICES.                         

   14    S 3. Subdivision 4 of section 120.55 of the penal  law,  as  added  by

   15  chapter  635  of the laws of 1999, is amended and a new subdivision 5 is

   16  added to read as follows:                                              

   17    4. Being twenty-one years of age or older, repeatedly follows a person

   18  under the age of fourteen or engages in a course of conduct or repeated-

   19  ly commits acts over a period of time intentionally placing or  attempt-

   20  ing  to place such person who is under the age of fourteen in reasonable

   21  fear of physical injury, serious physical injury or death{.}; OR       

   22    5. COMMITS THE CRIME OF STALKING IN THE THIRD DEGREE BY THE USE  OF  A

   23  TECHNOLOGICAL DEVICE OR TECHNOLOGICAL DEVICES.                         

   24    S 4. This act shall take effect on the first of November next succeed-

   25  ing the date on which it shall have become a law.                      

                                                                              

        EXPLANATION--Matter in ITALICS (underscored) is new; matter in brackets

                             { } is old law to be omitted.                    

                                                                  LBD09215-01-3

.SO DOC A 5444          *END*                    BTXT                 2003    

 

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Reference

E-spying on lover? Better be careful, it could be illegal. (Saturday, October 04, 2003) San Francisco, USA: Reuters.

http://www.hindustantimes.com/2003/Oct/04/181_396290,00030010.htm

 

Saturday, October 4, 2003 | Updated: 16:32 IST

 

E-spying on lover? Better be careful, it could be illegal

Reuters

San Francisco, September 30

 

A company calling itself Lover Spy has begun offering a way for jealous lovers -- and anyone else -- to spy on the computer activity of their mates by sending an electronic greeting, the equivalent of a thinking-of-you card, that doubles as a bugging device.

 

Computer security experts said the Lover Spy service and software appeared to violate US law, but also said the surveillance programme pointed to an increasingly common way for hackers to seize control of computers.

 

Marketed as a way to "catch a cheating lover," the Lover Spy company offers to send an e-mail greeting card to lure the victim to a Web site that will download onto the victim's computer a trojan programme to be used for spying.

 

The Lover Spy software, sold for $89 for up to five computers, purports to record anything the victim does on the computer, including all keystrokes, passwords, e-mail, chats and screen shots and even turn on the victim's Web camera.

 

The spy programme discreetly sends the information to the Lover Spy server which then forwards it on to whoever paid for the software, maintaining their anonymity, according to the company Web site, which did not list contact information.

 

"Lover Spy is being used today by private investigators worldwide, spouses and parents who want to protect their children," the site claims.

 

"You don't need physical access to the computer," said Richard Smith, an independent privacy and security researcher in Boston. "It makes it so you can spy on anybody you want."

 

"That would be a felony," said Mark Rasch, former head of the US Department of Justice's computer crime unit and chief security counsel for security company Solutionary. "Loading a programme onto someone else's computer without their authorisation is patently illegal."

 

"Yikes! That is clearly a wiretapping violation," Chris Hoofnagle, associate director of the Electronic Privacy Information Center, said when told of Lover Spy.

 

"It sounds a lot like a commercial version of Magic Lantern," the controversial programme the FBI proposed a few years ago to remotely install a keystroke logger onto people under investigation, he said.

 

Other spyware exists, such as eBlaster from Florida-based SpectorSoft, but it is installed manually and marketed for customers to install on their own computer, Rasch said.

 

"Typically, you have a husband or wife who puts a keystroke logger on the home PC to monitor what Web pages the spouse is going to and what e-mails they're sending," he said.

 

However, even installing a spyware programme on your own computer may be illegal if it is recording the data of someone else without their consent, depending on the state in which the spying occurs, Hoofnagle said.

 

Not only could the Lover Spy company be prosecuted for selling software that enables spying, but the person who pays for the service could face up to 10 years in prison and fines for actual damages under the federal Computer Fraud and Abuse Act, he said.

 

Web sites that surreptitiously send programmes to a visitor's computer are an increasingly security menace, said Chris Wysopal, research director at security consultancy AtStake in Boston.

 

"The risk has always been there, but when the tools are really easy to use you are going to see more spying going on," he said.

 

The only defences are anti-virus software, which may be able to detect the spyware, and a personal computer firewall which can alert a user when the trojan tries to connect to the Internet to send data out, according to Wysopal.

 

People should be cautious about allowing Web sites to run unknown code on their PC, he added.

 

(Reference: E-spying on lover? Better be careful, it could be illegal. (Saturday, October 04, 2003) San Francisco, USA: Reuters.)

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Reference

Governor Pataki Signs Law to Protect Stalking Victims. (Wednesday, September 24, 2003) USA: The Putnam County News and Recorder.

http://www.pcnr.com/news/2003/0924/General_Stories/035.html

 

General Stories September 24, 2003 

 

Governor Pataki Signs Law to Protect Stalking Victims

 

"Stay Away" orders to protect victims from offenders with mental illness

 

Governor George Pataki announced on September 19th that he has signed into law legislation that protects crime victims from offenders who have been found not responsible by reason of mental disease or defect through a "stay away" special order of conditions. The legislation would allow a judge to impose a special order of conditions requiring the defendant to stay away from a victim or witness to the offense, and refrain from harassing or interfering with the victim or witness, as well as their family members.

 

"This critical legislation will help protect victims and witnesses from harassment or threats even after a case is over," Governor Pataki said. "By allowing the court to impose ‘stay away’ orders, we can prevent offenders with mental illnesses from continuing to harass, stalk, or threaten victims."

 

The legislation allows the court to impose a special order of conditions that requires the defendant to:

 

1) stay away from the home, business, or place of employment of the victim or victims, or of any witness designated by the court; and 2) refrain from harassing, intimidating, threatening or otherwise interfering with the victim or witness, as well as specifically named family members.

 

The legislation also requires that the victim or witness be notified of special order of conditions by the Office of Mental Health. The court must also notify local law enforcement agencies of the "stay away" order. The special order of conditions is valid for five years from the date of its issuance, and the court may extend the period for an additional five years. Current law only provides a victim with an order of protection while a case is pending or after a defendant has been convicted.

(Reference: Governor Pataki Signs Law to Protect Stalking Victims. (Wednesday, September 24, 2003) USA: The Putnam County News and Recorder.)

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Reference

Letters. (June 2001) USA: g2mil.com

http://www.g2mil.com/June2001Letters.htm

Finally, stalking people has become illegal in the USA over the past few years, it appears that international "stalking" laws are needed to prevent military confrontations caused by uncivil behavior.

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Reference

The Effect of Stalking on its Victims

http://homepage.psy.utexas.edu/homepage/Group/BussLAB/stalkinghelp.org/effectonvictims.html

 

The Effect of Stalking on its Victims

 

Ninety-three percent of stalking victims indicate that being stalked had a significant negative impact on their personal relationships.

Of those victims currently in romantic relationships, 71 % indicate that being stalked created conflict in their romantic relationships, most often reporting that their current romantic partner was jealous of or intimidated by the stalker.

Sixty-three percent of stalking victims reported conflict in their friendships as a result of being stalked. The conflict was most often created by victims' unwillingness to attend social events where their stalker might be present and friend's frustration because they believed the victim was not doing enough to deter their stalker.

Nearly 38% of stalking victims reported losing time from school or work as a result of being stalked. Some indicated that they had changed jobs or transferred to another school to escape the always-present terror they experienced.

Most stalking victims reported that they were at a loss about what they could do to end their victimization. Most of the tactics they tried seemed to make matters worse.

Many of the victims reported living in perpetual fear that something might push their stalker over the edge and lead him to physically assault, sexually assault, or even murder them.

(Reference: The Effect of Stalking on its Victims.)

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