I have found many resources online for support in many issues. However, nothing in my experience online has even come close to the support, love, and encouragment I have found through mailing lists. The great thing about all mailing lists are that they are always there. You don't have to wait until someone shows up in a chat room. You don't have to wake up your T or your best friend. You can write at any time of the day or night (you are bound to find someone awake somewhere in the world). There are few limits on what you can write about. You can share things you could never tell anyone face to face.You can also give of yourself. Often it is through helping, supporting, and caring about others that we find a great deal of our own recovery. When we take what we say to another survivor and apply it to ourselves, we find that, amazingly, we are growing and healing too. Giving of yourself even when you are at your lowest can make you feel like you have some value to someone out there (I assure you that you do) and it gets your mind off your own problems for awhile.
Mailing lists also give you a greater freedom. You can delete or put away for later posts that you can't read right now. You can digest your mail so you don't get so many, or put yourself on "no mail" while you go on vacation. In everything I have done or been involved in, I must say that the lists I have been a part of or created have given so much more to me than I can ever get back. Maybe you can find the same kind of support here in one or more of the following lists.
Children of the Night is a mailing list for women who have become pregnant as a result of childhood sexual abuse, incest, rape, or any other unwanted, non-consensual sexual activity. This is a very sensitive group and we understand the need for the greatest of confidentiality in this group. There are no archives kept, nobody keeps lists, and we are all there to support each other, no matter what the result of the pregnancy was. There will NOT be any judgmental attitudes or flaming allowed on this list. Because of it's sensitive nature, I carefully screen each person who requests subscription. To subscribe, please follow these steps.I apologize for the complication involved in that process, but COTN is very careful to assure that our list members are safe to the best of our ability. We know that many SRA/RA/MC survivors have had this happen to them, and their confidentiality and privacy is VERY important.
- From the email account that you wish to receive the list mail from, write to [email protected]
- In the BODY of the email, on the first line, type subscribe cotn. Do not put this in the subject line, majordomo does not read the subject line.
- Majordomo will send you an email to confirm that your email address is correct and you did in fact subscribe.
- When you reply to that email, majordomo sends me an email telling me you want to subscribe, and I send you a screening letter.
- You reply to the screening letter, and depending on what you say, I will either subscribe you, (you will get confirmation from majordomo) or I will decline and send you an email explaining why.
AbortionRecovery is for women only who have had an abortion and feel they made a poor choice, or who feel that they were forced to make that choice. It is a place to find healing and support in order to learn how to forgive ourselves and heal from the wounds that abortion causes. This list is NOT for pro-life/pro-choice discussions, nor is it a place for anyone to come and condemn us for having had an abortion, or for those who use abortion as a means of birth control and think it is an acceptable practice. This is for all of those who fall somewhere in between, where we feel that we made or were forced to make a choice that we are having a very hard time living with now. No flaming will be allowed on this list. If you want to express your feelings about your experience, then please do. If you wish to attack and cause pain to others because you don't agree with their choice or how they feel about it, then please find a different place. Most of all, this is a place of acceptance for those who need to learn how to forgive themselves and move forward and prevent being faced with such a decision ever again.
This list is for people with Dissociative Identity Disorder (formerly Multiple Personality Disorder), and an Eating Disorder such as bulimia, anorexia, or compulsive overeating. This is a support channel, no flaming, spamming, or hurting others. The only rule is to respect others, and not use this list for people to "save" you. If you are in danger, please call 911 or suicide prevention.
Multiple addictions is a list created to support people with Dissociative Identity Disorder, Multiple Personality Disorder, or other dissociative disorders who also have other addictions. The other addictions can be anything, from alcohol and drugs to gambling, codependency, sex, even self-injury. If you are having a problem with food however, we have a list specifically for eating disorders in people with DID/MPD, and you can get more information about it above.
Private list for Christian and other followers of Christ who have Multiple Personality Disorder and/or other types of Dissociative Disorders and their friends, supporters, and significant others to share their strength, hope and love with others; a safe place for them to talk and support one another. Please see the website before trying to join this list.
Free To Be We is a newsletter to allow the ops to communicate with the regular channel members of the Dalnet channel #freetobewe. Channel Members will be encouraged to submit art, poems, and writings to the email account for possible use in this newsletter. At the moment, this newsletter and chat room are inactive until we can find more support for it. Please join if you are interested in putting in some time rebuilding an actual channel for chat on IRC. For more information click here
Welcome to the Dissociation Support Group. This mailing list is for people with dissociative disorders who want to discuss current or past problems/issues and receive feedback and support from their peers.This list is moderated. Flamers will be unsubscribed. Flames include accusations, finger pointing, and name calling. Differing opinions, feelings, and controversal subjects are welcome. The purpose of this list is not only to discuss dissociation, but to discuss whatever you want with a group of people who also have dissociative disorders. Spoilers/splats are fine, but not required. Professionals are welcome to join but we discourage advice-giving or online therapy. Family members, significant others, and/or friends of dissociatives are discouraged from joining due to conflict of interest and co-dependency issues. An alternate mailing list for friends/family is at [email protected]
This support group is being offered to those people who have been diagnosed with DID(dissociative identity disorder, formerly known as multiple personality disorder), dissociative amnesia, etc. For more information Click here
MPDforUs exists for people who have been diagnosed with multiple personality disorder or dissociative identity disorder and are working toward cooperation or integration. Hopefully, you will want to discuss the impact of this discovery on your lives and share how you cope. We discuss ways we have grown, what's going on now, how we feel and think. We do NOT graphically describe flashbacks or memories. This is a therapeutic issue and we are not functioning as therapists in this group. We are fellow survivors and as such deserve to be protected from intense triggering. Naturally, we don't allow SPAMMING or FLAMING. We practice immediate banning procedures for such practices. If you have something you think is questionable, check with one of the moderators before you post. Because this is a restricted list, YOU MUST SEND an email to the moderators to be admitted to the list.(mail to [email protected] and to [email protected].) You will need to report your reasons for wanting to join this group including whether you are currently in therapy, approximate number of alters in system, a little bit about the host. 99.9% of the people who request to join are subscribed. The reason for the security is that we want a safe community for the little ones, the middles and all of us who struggle with safety and trust. I hope that you decide to join us and become a member of a learning and growing support For more information send mail to [email protected]
